So as you know we are trying to do the smallest possible wedding in the history of the world lol. Well my uncle is friends with a guy in the St. James fire dept. who said we can use the room there for like $100. (WOO!) but it can only hold about 80 people if we want a dance floor. (they say 70, I'm pushing it. IF, one of your friends were in this situation, and they didn't invite you, how offended would you be? Because we have about 50 ppl taken up by family alone on the two sides. Then FH parents have some friends they want to invite so it leaves us with about 20 or so friends to invite. I would think friends would understand in that situation right? I don't know I don't think I would be upset about it but I'm pretty laid back lol.
ALSO! We decided to name the baby Lucas. (I don't remember if I told anyone)
THANKS! <3
xela
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I guess they'd have no choice but to understand due to the circumstances. I'm sure the most important friends are the ones getting invited otherwise I might consider finding a bigger place to accomodate everyone.
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Anywhere bigger I've spoken to is ALOT more money and we are obviously strapped for cash right now. The cheapest place I found was about $850. But then I still have to get all the foods, drinks, etc.
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They have no choice but to understand, you are severely limited by finances, you have too much to worry about to waste money just to make them happy. It's not like you're inviting tons of friends and cutting them, you're just doing what you can.
However, if I were in this position I would ask my parents (tell, really) that I didn't want their friends to come and cut any extended relatives that I wasn't close with because of these limitations so that I could invite more of my close friends. I feel like a good friend you're close with should come before say, a second cousin, but if all that family is close relatives then stick with your current plan.
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Posted by DWKSwed
They have no choice but to understand, you are severely limited by finances, you have too much to worry about to waste money just to make them happy. It's not like you're inviting tons of friends and cutting them, you're just doing what you can.
However, if I were in this position I would ask my parents (tell, really) that I didn't want their friends to come and cut any extended relatives that I wasn't close with because of these limitations so that I could invite more of my close friends. I feel like a good friend you're close with should come before say, a second cousin, but if all that family is close relatives then stick with your current plan.
ITA....
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you know joe and I would totally understand and knowing almost all your other friends, they'd ALL understand!
if you need help looking at places let me know. did you try the Koc in east islip? or the aoh... I could talk to a few people there and get you a good rate... doubt it'd beat $100 though lol.
you just let me know.
and I'm sorry about saturday night! my back was SHOT and joe and I ended up being pretty sick.
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FH and I are having a smaller wedding that yours, we are only having 6 guests, all of which are family. We want a house next year, so that's where all of our extra money is going.
So I believe that people will just have to understand. I wouldn't be offended at all! And if they are truly your friends, they would understand.
Try not to stress too much over it chica!
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I amsure they would understand when you tell them it is only family and extremly close friends!
Im_My_Own_Princess
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ps- sa, I need your new address for the STDs.
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YAY FOR THE NAME LUCAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i said luke.. lucasssss pukusssssssssssss!!!!(that what i call my rb lol)
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AWWW, Lucas, that was one of my favorite names! <3
I think with the baby and everything, a true friend would understand... you can always ask everyone to join you for a meal or something another day to celebrate. You gotta do what you have to do for you. I wouldn't be upset.
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could you do an afterparty (at a bar or something) to include other people *if* they wanted to come out?
one of my friends has a strict limit, so she is openning up the party afterwards and inviting more friends...so far they seem to be understanding
