i need ur kind words ladies to get me through the day today, me and fh had a fight about something so stupid, that he started it first, then i let my two sense in. i cried my eyes out last night , thinking it was my fault. i hate fighting, but something i feels we shouldnt be fighting, should be concentrating on each other. i right now at my desk , thinking how to end our fight. i dont want to feel like this the whole day.i am so upset right now, i dont want to be at work. i feel sometimes i feel it is my fault, w2henver we fight about something. i dont know.........
TnOiOnL
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it'll blow over. u guys gotta sit down and have a real heart to heart
KandR419
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I agree, everything will turn out alright. Wedding planning can be stressful, and that can create tension with everything. Hope your day gets better!
2Be1
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Girl, wedding planning will get any couples stress levels high . . . I am sure things will blow over Every married couple we talk to tells us the closer it gets to the date the MORE you fight over the stupidest littlest things.
Marly
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Everything will work itself out.....
Roed522
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Talk, talk and talk some more. That's is the noly way to resolve things. This is a very stressful time for both of you and I think it's times like this where you have to pick and choose your battles. Trust me I know it's easier said than done but lately FH and I were getting into some horrible arguments and in the end half of the time I couldn't remember what it was about or how it started. It's just stress and holding it all in until you explode can be just plain toxic. Talk to him and don't point fingers, what's done is done just try to keep the lines of communication open from here on out. Good luck and lots of to you. HTH
poogie
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it will work itself out....life is short and for some reason woman take note to this sooner than men. here are your hugs
RGV07
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thanks , it help a lil , i actually waiting for him to make the first move to reconcile with me.
Strings22
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Honey, it will blow over. My FH and I had such a huge fight a few months back that he left the apartment for 2 whole days & nights I was a mess. Frist don't blam yourself and whether or not he started don't blam him either. Both of you has a disagreement that was probably over something stupid. He loves you and everything will be fine give him and yourself to cool off. If he didn't love you he wouldn't want to marry you.
Sept07Bride
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I'm sure everything will be okay!!!
WilliesBride
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Does he even know you are still upset about the fight.....For some reason they don't take things like we do.....He may be just fine and have forgotten about it by now.......Men.......Ugh!!!!
RGV07
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right he is trying to break the ice, by sending me a email .....darn i was trying to post. i going to put it in my album.
i was going to put in my album, said it wasnt valid, so the link is above.
LB and DC
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it will get better, i promise!! the stress of planning a wedding causes the silliest fights, but making up makes it all worth it.
RGV07
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wasnt related to the planning of the wedding , just something that he said that trigger it. we usually mee t for lunch in the city. So i let you know how it goes with lunch.
Eva-and-John 07
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I'm sorry! Don't you hate that they can just ruin your whole day. It will work out. This is just a test for all the challenges that we will face in our marriages. It will make you two stronger.
I always tell FH that are fights are practice sessions for future make ups.
MrsQ-in2007
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So sorry! I know how bad it feels to be in an argument with your FH, especially if it's over something silly! It happens, but it WILL blow over.
We've come to follow this rule when we argue - whoever was in the wrong makes the first move to reconcile. Sometimes it takes a little while for the person who was wrong to realize it was them, but it's worked out well for us. Like sometimes I'll be upset and waiting for him to call me, but then I really think about it and realize that I was probably in the wrong so I should call him.
Good luck - it WILL blow over. Some for you!
SusiBtoM
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Talk it out.
FH and I had a fight on Mother's Day, he really hurt me emotionally. I wanted to cancel the wedding. Couldn't talk to him, it was a really bad day for me, but a very good friend ran interference and told him how stupid he was. Even FMIL told him to grow up ! I still hurt, but will have a good heart to heart this weekend to lay things on the table.
Talk !
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Wedding Palnning is crazy. We fought about the stupidest stuff during the hardcore planning motnhs. Now its just smooth sailing. You will laugh about it days from now and wonder why you both were so upset. Go out for a quiet dinner togther with no distrctions ,hold hands and share a dessert.!!!It helps!!!
RGV07
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so ok , we had lunch, and we made up. we both said we were sorry and i will say i hate fighting with my fh. So all is forgiven. he also trys to make me smile and try to joke around me. maybe that why i gave in , of his charm , and i very much much in love with him. we will have are ups and downs , that part of life, even after we are married.
thank you for all your love and support, i feel a lil better after lunch, and i can salvage my day from not being entirely bad.
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Posted by WilliesBride
Does he even know you are still upset about the fight.....For some reason they don't take things like we do.....He may be just fine and have forgotten about it by now.......Men.......Ugh!!!!
This is so true! FH and I fought last night and he couldn't understand why I was still upset two hours later! He had already dropped it. I take a while to bounce back!
