Need to vent

awww im sorry you are dealing with this! i know what its like to have a BM that seems to just be annoyed with being part of your wedding! they should be honored to be part of it!!!

Aw I'm so sorry. Weddings bring out the best and (unfortunately) the worst in people.

First of all, don't listen to the rumors. If your BM wants to drop out, wait until SHE tells you.

I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. I think it's hard to remember that our weddings aren't anybody else's priority besides ours and our FH's.
Everybody has their own thing going on, try to be patient and let her discuss it with you if/when she's ready.

im so sorry u r dealing with this but u did the righ thing..if she does nt want to be there then its her loss..u will be better off in the end

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Posted by gina409

im so sorry u r dealing with this but u did the righ thing..if she does nt want to be there then its her loss..u will be better off in the end

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Thanks Gina

oh that stinks sorry you are dealing with this. . I think everyone ends up having one person in their wedding that just totally lets you down. . try to let it go and focus on the good stuff. . but SERIOUSLY you are so right. . I hate when people tell you they don't have one minute to get back to you but you see them updating stuff ALL THE TIME. .

big hug to you! and glad you were able to replace her

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Posted by Julia0927

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

First of all, don't listen to the rumors. If your BM wants to drop out, wait until SHE tells you.

I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. I think it's hard to remember that our weddings aren't anybody else's priority besides ours and our FH's.
Everybody has their own thing going on, try to be patient and let her discuss it with you if/when she's ready.

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I know what you mean but I have 16 days until my wedding. She didnt RSVP. So I replaced her. She seems to have enough time to update her facebook status every few hours but not enough to reply to me.

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oh know Julia I'm so sorry this is happening to you. that totally *****!!! Its true what they say....it takes a wedding for you to know who your real friends are. Try her one more time and if she doesn't respond..just consider that situation ove. You have so much going on that you don't need that kind of stress. Hope all works out.

If you need a BM, you I don't live that far from you

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Posted by cedesnyc

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Posted by Julia0927

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

First of all, don't listen to the rumors. If your BM wants to drop out, wait until SHE tells you.

I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. I think it's hard to remember that our weddings aren't anybody else's priority besides ours and our FH's.
Everybody has their own thing going on, try to be patient and let her discuss it with you if/when she's ready.

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I know what you mean but I have 16 days until my wedding. She didn't RSVP. So I replaced her. She seems to have enough time to update her facebook status every few hours but not enough to reply to me.

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oh know Julia I'm so sorry this is happening to you. that totally *****!!! Its true what they say....it takes a wedding for you to know who your real friends are. Try her one more time and if she doesn't respond..just consider that situation ove. You have so much going on that you don't need that kind of stress. Hope all works out.

If you need a BM, you I don't live that far from you

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Thanks Nina . When I told my good friend from college the story , she volunteered to me my BM even before I got a chance to ask. Made me so happy. But you really dont live that far away. If you will have time, feel free to drop by for the ceremony.