Need to Vent

ndeokinanan Posted: Nov 15, 2010 10:14 PM

Need to Vent

I am so frustrated at the way my MIL is doing things. She is always recommending hideous things (halls, ceremony sites). She has a guest list of 200 people which is completely ridiculous. And she wants me to do a cheap gaudy wedding at some trashy place in Queens. She is stressing me out beyond belief right now. All she has to do is pay for her guests. My FH and I will be paying for everything else..I really want to tell her that she does not get a say in anything but I have to keep quiet and be a good DIL. I don't want problems so soon!!!

I just feel like crying

FutureWifey Posted: Nov 15, 2010 10:36 PM

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Oh that is stressful! You'll have to stand up to her now though and explain that it is your wedding and your day... not hers. If you stand up to her now.. you'll never get the chance. I would try to talk to her and let her know that you want her to be involved, but that it's just too much and find a good way to say 'back off'

Good luck!

CaseyCase Posted: Nov 15, 2010 11:24 PM

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I agree you do not want problems early on. I would find a place and get really excited and tell her all about it, thats what I do to let the fmil know where I'm going with the wedding plans bc i know they would rather us spend less than we are going to but I'm trying to save every where I can and either way we're gonna spend $$ so it may as well be what we want.

sjr385 Posted: Nov 16, 2010 05:57 AM

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Ray8183 Posted: Nov 16, 2010 08:17 AM

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April_Luv Posted: Nov 16, 2010 08:19 AM

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for u hin.
Sorry she is giving you a hard time. Can your FH talk to her? does he share the same feelings as u?

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Nov 16, 2010 09:09 AM

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I'm so sorry. FMIL's can be the WORST!

What does FH say? can he speak with her?

FutureWifey Posted: Nov 16, 2010 04:18 PM

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Let us know how it goes!

DonnaMarie7 Posted: Nov 18, 2010 02:20 PM

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How are things? I agree- maybe talk to your FH and have him talk to her about it. This is YOUR day- she already had hers!

ewecki825 Posted: Nov 18, 2010 06:49 PM

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That is a hard situation to deal with.

thefloreswedding Posted: Nov 18, 2010 08:57 PM

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aww :( im sorry!

You definitely have to talk to your FH since thats HIS mom. tell him that you would do the same thing if it was the other way around...and he doesnt have to be nasty about it, it can be as easy as 'mom, thanks for your ideas, but can you please let us decide where we want to get married?'--

good luck and let us know how it goes! and dont cry!! this will get better!