need to vent AGAIN!!!!

I NEED TO MOVE OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


sorry i HATE living home i have NO privacy AT ALL!!!! my father and mother go thgouh EVERYTHING i own.. i bring home a bag from the store they go though it before i can get it up the stairs.. they open my mail... and i have already said PLEASE DONT DO THIS!!! and cant say it any nicer.. and ive been getting more nasty with them cuz enough is enough. its rude! i dont open or go though any of there stuff so why do they go through mine... ive also said.. that once FH moves in he wont sit for any of that! so ive said once i start paying rent im going to lost it! cuz im 21 years old STOP already!!!

sorry its not been a good day! im actually laughing at myself since im so mad this is how i deal with things!

megg today is not your day just breathe..things will get better

GGGRRRRRRRR!!!!

I find that when you growl at things like this it helps......

man you are not having a good day.....

have you told your parents how its making you feel that they do this????? Maybe just sit down and have a long chat..... though im sure you alrady did.

thanks girls.. when i get mad or upset i clean or come on here.. and being on here right now i feel like its an escape.. its my theraphy! just need to hit up the liquor store and ive got my night set!

I moved out and any mail that goes to my parents house they still freakin read!

that is awful. i am 23 now and my dad still opens my mail and when i say something to him about it he says something stupid like 'oh i thought it was for me'. He only does it when I get a check in the mail lol. He always needs to know how much $ I am making. its terrible.

I was thinking about getting a PO box for that reason. They are really cheap depending on the post office you go to.

i feel your pain! my parents dont open my mail but if i come home later than usual or i am leaving the house - they are like 'where are you going' 'where were you' now i am very respectful and i always tell them if i am going to be late or i am not coming home so they dont worry and THAT should be enough. instead its 20 questions every time i walk in and out of the house! even when people call me they ask who it is! and if my mom overhears a conversation she has the nerve to comment about it later instead of just pretending like she didnt hear it!

and with cleaning they are the worse! if i leave something out for a SECOND just to go to another room they have to ask when i am going to clean up

anyway - i feel your pain, hang in there! a PO Box sounds like a great idea!

thanks the po box does sound like a great idea.. ill have to look into that!!!

tilde i have to do the same stuff.. how bout my mom busts my chops if she sees i havent done laundry.. im like if its bother you so much then YOU DO IT!!! i do laundry on my day off... once a week i have pleanty to get me thought the week if i didnt i would do a quick load.. also with cleaning MY apt. she comes up when ever she wants and inspects to tell me how dirty it is.. so i told her again if she wants it to be cleaner then she can do it.. and it shut her right up but i feel like ih ave to sneek in or hide stuff in my car if i buy something cuz they will snoop through everything its so annoying!!!

I'm not trying to be unsympathetic, because I know it's horrible having no privacy and having people go through your stuff, but honestly, there are so many people in this worlds who would kill to be in a situation where they could live somewhere without paying, and so many people that have no roofs over their heads, that would be more than grateful to be in your position.
Just try to look on the bright side of things, rather than focusing on whats wrong - I understand you're just frustrated at the moment, but I dont know, I always try to turn things around, look at them differently, to make myself feel better.

dont get me wrong im more then greatfull i know just how lucky i am... but its just respect.

ETA: if this is the wrost thing that i have to worry about for the next 2 years then i owe my parents my life!

yeah I get you. I used to be annoyed all the time about not being left alone, but it got to the point where I was mad too much so I just decided to focus on the positive.

If only housing on Long Island wasn't insanely expensive...sigh...

i hear ya.

ALthough my parents are pretty good about that studd 9mom can be a bit nosey if something is opened) Dad wouldnt dare.

My dad wont even go in my moms purse hehe

But they do get on my nerves about other things and they even offered for us to move in to the downstairs apartment for free.. but FH is right.. and as a psychologist he feels it would be not be good for our marriage. I want out too.. like i need to get married now haha

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Posted by jgl

i hear ya.

ALthough my parents are pretty good about that studd 9mom can be a bit nosey if something is opened) Dad wouldnt dare.

My dad wont even go in my moms purse hehe

But they do get on my nerves about other things and they even offered for us to move in to the downstairs apartment for free.. but FH is right.. and as a psychologist he feels it would be not be good for our marriage. I want out too.. like i need to get married now haha

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so are we headed for divorce before we even get married since were going to be here for about a year or so??

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

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Posted by jgl

i hear ya.

ALthough my parents are pretty good about that studd 9mom can be a bit nosey if something is opened) Dad wouldnt dare.

My dad wont even go in my moms purse hehe

But they do get on my nerves about other things and they even offered for us to move in to the downstairs apartment for free.. but FH is right.. and as a psychologist he feels it would be not be good for our marriage. I want out too.. like i need to get married now haha

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so are we headed for divorce before we even get married since were going to be here for about a year or so??

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oh stop!! haha

I just think it would put a lot of stress on our marriage and at 29 (when we are married) I think we need to be on our own iwth out mom and dad upstairs or without my bro and sis coming down to chat or ask for advice from FH.

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

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Posted by jgl

i hear ya.

ALthough my parents are pretty good about that studd 9mom can be a bit nosey if something is opened) Dad wouldnt dare.

My dad wont even go in my moms purse hehe

But they do get on my nerves about other things and they even offered for us to move in to the downstairs apartment for free.. but FH is right.. and as a psychologist he feels it would be not be good for our marriage. I want out too.. like i need to get married now haha

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so are we headed for divorce before we even get married since were going to be here for about a year or so??

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If you can make it through living with your parents together, you make it through anything!
My Dad suggested my FH move in to our house to save money. Nuh uh, no way, never gonna happen...maybe if we had a separate apartment space, but not right in the house!

the only reason we agreed to live here is cuz we do have our own space.. just not our own private entrence.. well kinda.. the front door is right at the bottom of the stairs and my parents use the other front door.. yes this house is weird there are 2 front doors

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

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Posted by jgl

i hear ya.

ALthough my parents are pretty good about that studd 9mom can be a bit nosey if something is opened) Dad wouldnt dare.

My dad wont even go in my moms purse hehe

But they do get on my nerves about other things and they even offered for us to move in to the downstairs apartment for free.. but FH is right.. and as a psychologist he feels it would be not be good for our marriage. I want out too.. like i need to get married now haha

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so are we headed for divorce before we even get married since were going to be here for about a year or so??

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nope think of it this way - one of the hardest things for newlyweds is finances. . .and even though we will have our own money issues we dont have to worry about being 'evicted' or 'not making rent' ( unless your parents are REALLY mean) so in a way we have it good - what we lack in privacy we make up in a sense of security



can you tell i have had to explain myself to every single person in my family WHO also admitted to me they were jealous that they didnt do it first!

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

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Posted by jgl

i hear ya.

ALthough my parents are pretty good about that studd 9mom can be a bit nosey if something is opened) Dad wouldnt dare.

My dad wont even go in my moms purse hehe

But they do get on my nerves about other things and they even offered for us to move in to the downstairs apartment for free.. but FH is right.. and as a psychologist he feels it would be not be good for our marriage. I want out too.. like i need to get married now haha

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so are we headed for divorce before we even get married since were going to be here for about a year or so??

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nope think of it this way - one of the hardest things for newlyweds is finances. . .and even though we will have our own money issues we dont have to worry about being 'evicted' or 'not making rent' ( unless your parents are REALLY mean) so in a way we have it good - what we lack in privacy we make up in a sense of security



can you tell i have had to explain myself to every single person in my family WHO also admitted to me they were jealous that they didnt do it first!

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thanks tilde i need that and ive never thought of it that way.. i just tell people we dont live together yet.. cuz i dont want to hear what they have to say!