Need to Vent FMIL

So last night we found out the the Best Man's father just past away. So this morning I call FH to see if he is gonna send something maybe flowers or some kind of gift basket. So he says to me know my friends aren't like that. So I let him know that it would be appropriate after all he is your best friend and it just shows that you care and I would prefer if we did. (Little background on his friend) (He is such a giving person always there for everyone. Having fundraisers whatever anyone needs). So I told my fiance I will look into it just give me the address. So I tried calling him to ask exactly what he wants. I get his mother on the phone and we do the hi how are you bit. So I ask where he is and she is very cold. Then I say you know so and so father just past away and I want to send something. So she comes back with DO YOU REALLY THINK THATS NECESSARY. I say I think it would be nice after all they are best friends. So she says yeah but they haven't seen eachother in a year. So I told her yeah but that's still his best friend and they can't help they have different schedules.

I really can't deal with her anymore

Do you think I should say something to FH, I don't want him to get mad.
I just feel like I get such an attitude when I talk to her lately. Last time I brought it up he blamed it on menopause.

That comment sounds exactly like what my FIL would say ......ok....HAS said. I would ignore her and her comments and do what you think is right. You are on track with sending something. I don't know how you could not....and as for your FH, some men are just clueless