need to vent... need my liw girrls on this one

Im so upset..... I dont know if you remember but H ada bridesmaid in florida wh owas *** for a few months. Ihad called to find out if she got her dress, and got no answer. Then I started to get nervous, so I called, texted, did everything. I then emailed her mom , her mom kept saying shes calling tommorow still nothing. My other BM emailed her mom again for me since Im getting married in 3 weeks and still knew nothing. SO i get an email from her mom this morning asking if I heard from her yet. Isaid no nothing, im assuming shes not coming at this point.

Then the mother leaves me a mesage saying:

' Melissa Im so sorry jess isnt coming to the weddinng Shes a mess right now. She kept tellling me she called you I dont know why she hasnt. IF you need to talk call me agian im sorry'

I got off the phone hysterically crying. Im at work right now and so upset, I cant believe this si happeninf,

she was always flaky weve gotten into arguements beofre bc we had plans and she would **** me over but I really truly believed she would be there for me on my wedding. I was always there for her no matter what she needed.. i just lost someone who was my best friend at one point and it just hurts

Was there any explination why she wasn't coming?! Did her mom know anything?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately you find out who your real friends are.

sorry your going through this

You are describing my exact situation! people change and its unfortunate when it happens so close to the wedding... mine was always flaky as well... i believed she would do the right thing, etc etc... dont give people THAT much credit

Be thankful she wont be there on your special day to ruin it... sometimes we have to face reeality that this person isnt who they used to be and pick up and move on to some better friends

good luck hun... believe me... its better that it happened now even though you may not be able to see that

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Even though it is close to your wedding, be happy you know this now and not two days before the big day. It really s ucks but you find out who your true friends are in this process. I'm sure there will be lots of people at your wedding who truly love you - focus on them and leave 'friends' like that girl out of your life.

im so sorr you are going through this

i have to say first i think its really crappy for her not to call herself..i know things can get rough and maybe she had a valid reaon for not beng in(although kinda strange since its right b4 ur wedding),maybe she didnt have a good reason..but either way she should have called u HERSELF

ok so now..u need to forget her..just for now..focus on ur bg day which will be here b4 u know it..ur other bms and moh will be there for u and itsgoing to be an amazing day!!!!!!

after the wedding and the honeymoonif u even want to try to work it out do it then..dont stress now cause its not worth it so close to ur wedding

im so sorry she did this to you

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Posted by JennyAPH



Was there any explination why she wasn't coming?! Did her mom know anything?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately you find out who your real friends are.

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there was no explanation I think thats the hardest part I have all these angry and hurt emotions and I cant tell her how I feel or anything. Her mom doesnt really know anything but her mom lives here in ny she lives in fl.. so dunno .. I just feel like if your gonna f uck me over have the balls to do it yourself

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

You are describing my exact situation! people change and its unfortunate when it happens so close to the wedding... mine was always flaky as well... i believed she would do the right thing, etc etc... dont give people THAT much credit

Be thankful she wont be there on your special day to ruin it... sometimes we have to face reeality that this person isnt who they used to be and pick up and move on to some better friends

good luck hun... believe me... its better that it happened now even though you may not be able to see that

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thanks Gina....did your ':friend' ever call you after the wedding? I pray she calls me after bc the sicilian in me will come out and I will flip the f uck out on her.... im so done with her its not even funny ... Im washing my hands of her as much as it hurts I know i dont need her in my life if anything she needs me more then I need her so its her loss

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Posted by JennyAPH



Was there any explination why she wasn't coming?! Did her mom know anything?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately you find out who your real friends are.

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there was no explanation I think thats the hardest part I have all these angry and hurt emotions and I cant tell her how I feel or anything. Her mom doesnt really know anything but her mom lives here in ny she lives in fl.. so dunno .. I just feel like if your gonna f uck me over have the balls to do it yourself

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Wow .. I agree. I think I would try calling her and leaving her messages just saying you would appreciate if she called you herself to let you know what was going on. That is not right. It could be something explainable but the way she is handling it is so wrong and so worthy of a good old 'F YOU' call or text...

So sorry this happened to you. Trust me though, you arent the first person this has happened to.

People are just horrible sometimes.

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Posted by JennyAPH



Was there any explination why she wasn't coming?! Did her mom know anything?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately you find out who your real friends are.

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there was no explanation I think thats the hardest part I have all these angry and hurt emotions and I cant tell her how I feel or anything. Her mom doesnt really know anything but her mom lives here in ny she lives in fl.. so dunno .. I just feel like if your gonna f uck me over have the balls to do it yourself

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Wow .. I agree. I think I would try calling her and leaving her messages just saying you would appreciate if she called you herself to let you know what was going on. That is not right. It could be something explainable but the way she is handling it is so wrong and so worthy of a good old 'F YOU' call or text...

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you know what I dont even wanna call her bc its not worth it if she really cared she would try to get in touch with me

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Posted by melcc83

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Posted by JennyAPH



Was there any explination why she wasn't coming?! Did her mom know anything?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately you find out who your real friends are.

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there was no explanation I think thats the hardest part I have all these angry and hurt emotions and I cant tell her how I feel or anything. Her mom doesnt really know anything but her mom lives here in ny she lives in fl.. so dunno .. I just feel like if your gonna f uck me over have the balls to do it yourself

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Wow .. I agree. I think I would try calling her and leaving her messages just saying you would appreciate if she called you herself to let you know what was going on. That is not right. It could be something explainable but the way she is handling it is so wrong and so worthy of a good old 'F YOU' call or text...

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you know what I dont even wanna call her bc its not worth it if she really cared she would try to get in touch with me

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very good point

Awww Hunny! Im so sorry!

UGH, I'm so sorry this happened to you. What an @sshole.

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Posted by melcc8


thanks Gina....did your ':friend' ever call you after the wedding? I pray she calls me after bc the sicilian in me will come out and I will flip the f uck out on her.... im so done with her its not even funny ... Im washing my hands of her as much as it hurts I know i dont need her in my life if anything she needs me more then I need her so its her loss

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Nope... What happened was... I explained to her how i was feeling... she basically told me 'well, when you make up your mind what you wanna do (kick her out or not), let me know... i dont have time for this' and hung up the phone .... you can tell she really cared from that point right?

So i called her back 2 day later.... after stressing so much about my decision... couldnt get in touch with her so i ended up leaving her a voicemail where im in tears telling her she cant be in it and she cant come to the wedding either... i never heard back from her, but theres a good possibility i'll see the idiot on sat at a central park concert

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Posted by melcc8


thanks Gina....did your ':friend' ever call you after the wedding? I pray she calls me after bc the sicilian in me will come out and I will flip the f uck out on her.... im so done with her its not even funny ... Im washing my hands of her as much as it hurts I know i dont need her in my life if anything she needs me more then I need her so its her loss

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Nope... What happened was... I explained to her how i was feeling... she basically told me 'well, when you make up your mind what you wanna do (kick her out or not), let me know... i dont have time for this' and hung up the phone .... you can tell she really cared from that point right?

So i called her back 2 day later.... after stressing so much about my decision... couldnt get in touch with her so i ended up leaving her a voicemail where im in tears telling her she cant be in it and she cant come to the wedding either... i never heard back from her, but theres a good possibility i'll see the idiot on sat at a central park concert

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wow Im sorry GIna,

with me she dicked me over thanksgiving weekends when she was here so i didnt talk to her for 6 mnoths, then I sent her a nasty text finally asking her if she planned on being in the wedding... she apoligzied of everything told me she knew this was her last chance wth me blah blah blah and then she does it agian un freiken believable

I am really curious for the reason why???

her mother said she is a mess right now... does she have a history fo drug abuse? alcohol? is she in a rehab? is she sick? is she bipolar? nervous breakdown???

i would want to know why....

then if it is something ridiculous... F U C K her!!!

If it is somethig legit, be glad she isnt coming.. you don't need drama on your day!!

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Posted by azailia

I am really curious for the reason why???

her mother said she is a mess right now... does she have a history fo drug abuse? alcohol? is she in a rehab? is she sick? is she bipolar? nervous breakdown???

i would want to know why....

then if it is something ridiculous... F U C K her!!!

If it is somethig legit, be glad she isnt coming.. you don't need drama on your day!!

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its proll something ridiculous she has nonoe of those problems youve mentioned