Need to vent NOW

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 12:15 AM

Need to vent NOW

OK, I may be a little selfish on this one but OH WELL.
My divorced ,pushing 40, aunt who just had a baby just got engaged from her baby's daddy.
No big deal right, wrong! She is planing on getting married in 2004 and in the month of Nov. Guess what I am getting married Nov 2004!
So I think ok no biggy, she will do something small, this is of course her and his second time, but nooooo they are going all out.
They are having a huge big fat wedding with like 200 guests, huge bridal party, band and DJ you name it they are doing it.
I am so mad because I feel like I have to compete with her for everything. Since she is loaded ( she is a dr.) I know her wedding will be ten times better then mine and she will get all those things I only wish I could have.
What should I do???? Should I hit her, just kidding, but really help

prncssrachel Posted: Jul 27, 2003 12:18 AM

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It's sad that she wants to steal the spotlight, but there's nothing you can do. I wouldn't worry about comparing your weddings. If you wanted to wait until you had more money, then yeah, you would have a huge wedding as well, but I am sure you don't want to go to medical school just to show her up! Don't worry, she'll look like a fool, not you!

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 12:23 AM

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Thanks! Can I HIT her though?

prncssrachel Posted: Jul 27, 2003 12:24 AM

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Hmmm, ok, but just once and after, RUN LIKE HELL!

eternityawaits Posted: Jul 27, 2003 12:24 AM

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I agree with that!!

I think it will be QUITE apparent what she is trying to do here, which is make an attempt to steal the spotlight from you, and I dont' think she will succeed. No matter how big of a deal she makes out of it, just remember that most people will see her for exactly what she is trying to do.

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 12:32 AM

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Ok I will only hit her once
No really, thanks ladies!

yabbobay Posted: Jul 27, 2003 03:05 PM

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can you have the parent who is her sibling talk to her?

WithThisRing Posted: Jul 27, 2003 03:08 PM

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kick her in the shins really hard

Dont worry your wedding will absolutly GORGOUS

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 27, 2003 03:22 PM

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wow.... I guess just having more isn't enough for her.... she evidently has to flaunt it

I have to say, though.... just because someone spends more $$ on a wedding, it doesn't mean that people will have more fun. As long as you do things that you, FH & your friends like... it will not matter who had the bigger $$$ ticket!

sorry she is so shallow, though. That's not right

Imagin916 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 03:34 PM

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That is really pathetic that she needs to compete with you like this. You never know, people might not want to attend a huge 2nd marriage, because thats another gift, and a lot of people will say (especially the old timers) that its ridiculous to have this big wedding. Your wedding on the other hand is your first marriage which means a lot more to people, and they will feel differently going to your wedding than going to hers. Good luck!

jennbaby Posted: Jul 27, 2003 03:46 PM

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I think your wedding will be beautiful no matter what you have, it's your day and your wedding will be special & unique

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 03:47 PM

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Thanks

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 05:05 PM

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let her have whatever type of wedding she wants because she is a has been, just trying to pretend that she is young again like you,.....

all the money in the money in the world cant buy her a happy first marraige like you'll have

Stacey1403 Posted: Jul 27, 2003 05:09 PM

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I agree with Erica, have her sibling talk to her or talk to her yourself. Nicely, then if she doesn't tell you what you want to hear hit her

*Don't worry your wedding will be fabulous *

pschica Posted: Jul 27, 2003 05:54 PM

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soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Jul 28, 2003 09:30 PM

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Thank you ladies, you are the best!!! You guys made me feel so much better. I love you all. Thanks again

mlp924 Posted: Jul 28, 2003 09:41 PM

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I just wanted to send some hugs and say Be Proud of yourself, your wedding and what you can afford. Both weddings will be nice. You are starting out for the first time and she found happiness for a second time.

Valenia Posted: Jul 28, 2003 10:05 PM

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This just sounds to me like one more reason to celebrate, and not some big conspiracy. Your wedding will be special because its yours, and you should have a good time at hers as well.

NovemberSue Posted: Jul 28, 2003 10:08 PM

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I don't think spending tons more money makes anyone's wedding more special or better.
I think its the food,the people and the music.
Your wedding will be great and special regardless of whether she spends thousands more on flowers or whatever.

LizD Posted: Jul 29, 2003 08:06 AM

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I have been to weddings that cost a lot of $$$$ and others that cost average $$. I tell ya, most of the time the average costing wedding was much better. Don't worry - it's your wedding, your day and it will special and magical not only for you boyh but for your guests as well!