need your advice please

mrswask Posted: Feb 20, 2005 03:59 PM

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I know that when I've felt bad and down about my body I have definitely shown less of an interest in intimacy and I've given DH the cold shoulder in that area - even though he couldn't have cared less and always tells me he loves how I look. Maybe you're freezing him out and not even realizing it.

RedHead Posted: Feb 20, 2005 04:01 PM

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I just think that this is obviously a bigger issue and although it may not be easy you need to talk to your husband about how you have been feeling about yourself, your love life and the drop off, the reasons for the drop off in your mind AND HIS, and your issues with the porn.

This is your husband...you need to talk to him...!

advicefromLIW Posted: Feb 20, 2005 04:04 PM

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palebride Posted: Feb 20, 2005 04:06 PM

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good luck!
this is a difficult situation!!!

Butterflybride Posted: Feb 20, 2005 04:07 PM

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Posted by advicefromLIW

I haven't been pushing him away, but I haven't initiated love making either. He doesn't pursue me, or hint in any way when he's feeling 'frisky', so I figure he's just not interested. I know I should probably try to seduce him, but it's hard because I feel like he doesn't want me. Why else would he need to look at those pictures? I just don't know anymore. I will have to sit down with him to discuss this. I want to put the fire back in our bed, but I'm just so afraid of feeling rejected. Guess that's a chance I'll have to take. I love my husband dearly, and I know he loves me. This is just another bump in the road.
I'm sure we'll get through this. Thanks girls for all your advice. You guys are the best.

Good, definately talk to him. You both love eachother, so if you talk things through, you'll be able to work things out. Good luck and let us know how things work out

Sweetie2004 Posted: Feb 20, 2005 06:20 PM

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Posted by Butterflybride

Posted by advicefromLIW

I haven't been pushing him away, but I haven't initiated love making either. He doesn't pursue me, or hint in any way when he's feeling 'frisky', so I figure he's just not interested. I know I should probably try to seduce him, but it's hard because I feel like he doesn't want me. Why else would he need to look at those pictures? I just don't know anymore. I will have to sit down with him to discuss this. I want to put the fire back in our bed, but I'm just so afraid of feeling rejected. Guess that's a chance I'll have to take. I love my husband dearly, and I know he loves me. This is just another bump in the road.
I'm sure we'll get through this. Thanks girls for all your advice. You guys are the best.

Good, definately talk to him. You both love eachother, so if you talk things through, you'll be able to work things out. Good luck and let us know how things work out

i agree!

Moehick Posted: Feb 20, 2005 07:35 PM

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Try to initiate some intimate contact with him ASAP and see how he responds. You shouldn't always wait for the man to initiate things. And definitely TALK!