Needing some advice...

So, since FH and I are in Virginia, we're limited to doing wedding stuff to the few weeks that we're actually on Long Island together.

We'll be on LI together for a week in May before we head back (him for summer classes, me for substituting). So we need to get a lot of things done that week.

But, his mom is single, and has him doing a whole lot of stuff for her whenever he's home, and he also has to help his siter move out of her dorm that week.

I feel really bad because he's had a stressful semester, and I know the summer will also be stressful, and i want him to be able to relax, but we have a lot of wedding stuff that we need to get done that week...


I don't know what to do, should I just let him be and not have him deal with the stuff we have to do that week since his mom has him doing so much? Again, I don't want to stress him out, but I feel like I'm constantly having to move stuff around for wedding planning when we're home because his mom has him doing so much all the time.

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i know your pain in planning from far away -

What i do is try to set my aapointments close together - say the morning, or afternoon, and leave a day or two totally open when i home for a week (does not always work)

Then i type the schedule up- and say the appointments cannot be changed and they have to be done at this time - and give a copy of the schedule to family members - i usually leave a little play in it for ourseleves to relax too

The only way to get out of doing chores for family is to not tell them you are coming up for a few days and then get everything done that you can. It's not the nicest thing to do, but sometimes you have to just do what you must.

What do you have to get done...maybe I can help you out?