needs lots and lots of hugs .. so upset

FH and I just ordered our invites today and we so excited. Well i told my mom that they are going to our p.o. box that me and FH share so that its easier we can just stop by everyday and see if we have any.
Well my mother flipped, I live with FH already so its not like i live with her and they would be coming to me. She insists that they come to her, so that they can sit there and do what sit cause if she opens them i'll flip. I just don't understand what the big deal of the whole thing is.
So now my mother and grandfather are both pissd at FH cause they are saying it was his doing that we are having it mailed there and FH is upset with them cause they made me so upset that i had a mini panick attack casue they were all screaming at each other AGAIN... i just can't handle all this anymore.. I just want to be happy, i dont want my family to hate him and i dont want him to hate them cause them i'm in the middle you know. This is obviously not all over this its been an ongoing occurance for just about every detail it seems ... i just cant seem to do anything right without someone being mad at me and i just dont know what to do anymore.. sorry so long just needed to vent

I'm sorry you are going through this! Its YOUR wedding, do what YOU want, they will get over it!

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Posted by Maybride07

I'm sorry you are going through this! Its YOUR wedding, do what YOU want, they will get over it!

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Ditto!!!
Don't let them get to you.

Sending you tons of hugs and strength. This too shall pass.

Remember that in the grand scheme of things, where your RSVPs go is a tiny detail. Your family won't hate your FH, there just over reacting. Calm down and relax.

Dont let them get to you!

Just wanted to say hang in there...I know what it's like to have the same problem. I lived with my grandfather and mom my whole life....everything I did I thought I had to check through the two of them and needed their approval. I am just now starting to break free from it and it hurts me sooo much when my mother does things like this to me! My grandfather passed away last year (God Rest His Soul) and he did a lot for me...don't get me wrong...but when I started dating FH it wasn't pretty....basically..

without going all out on a rant (sorry) Just stick to what you and FH want and do what you need to do! No matter what they are your family and if they dislike FH over something like invitations and where they are sent just know it won't be permanent. When they see how happy you two are in the end....this will be forgotten and even laughed at!! Stand your ground and enjoy every minute of planning!! I'm here if you need to talk ever!!

they're going to have to get over it! it's *your* wedding, not theirs!!! don't be upset!!!

I am sooo sorry that your mom got mad at you.
Just remember it is your wedding and you are not going to be able to please everyone. If the po box is where you both want your RSVP's to go to...then that is where they should go!!

Don't worry - this too shall pass & everything will work out!



-Kris

I cannot beleive they are flipping out over an address??? Perhaps after they have calmed down they will see how ridiculous this all is? Are they paying for the wedding, and they feel that if it is not their address on it that they won't receive 'credit' that they are hosting?

That's the only reason I can see them being disappointed...but to get mad??...sorry you are going thru this...

thanks for all the support ladies... at least my grandfather is semi on my side and told my mother straight out she is wrong.. i mean yes tradiationally the rvsp's are supposed to go to her house being that she is paying for the reception but i want that feeling of opening up OUR mail and seeing my responses .. not hearing over the phone oh hunny ur responses are here ...
there is no reason they have to go to her .. she feels as thoug i am disrepecting her but i said its our wedding and this is what she decided .. she apparently doesnt care... i just hate everyone fighting over something so small as an address

This is the most frustrating part. . who will sit with who etc. Try not to let it bother you. Sorry your going through such a hard time