Is anyone else up against all this negativity from other people re: your wedding? Lately I feel like I'm copping it from all sides. Everytime FH & i say something about something we've organized or decided on for the wedding someone disapproves. This kind of thing doesn't normally bother me, but it's kind of upsetting when it comes from my parents too! I feel like everyone is against us. It should be a happy time & I would have thought people would be happy for us & supportive of us, but instead I feel like we're in the s**t off someone over something all the time.
Celeste617
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I have been experiencing this from certain people. FH & I have decided to pretty much keep these ideas between us and only ask for others opinions if we absolutely must. Good luck
flairforfashion
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I think everyone goes through this during the wedding planning process. People may be jealous, or people may just not understand how things have changed and that things are different. Whatever it is, they should just be quiet and realize it's not their day but ours! It's YOUR day and don't let the negativity bring you down- just make it clear and well known that you don't care what they think.
MirabellaNYC
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You need to let people know that you're taking their disapprovals personally..maybe they don't realize?? Sometimes parents (especially mothers) think they know it all, when in fact what they need to do is to LET GO!
Or how about when they ask you about a planning aspect you can start off with a 'I'm not quite sure its you're style but certainly is mine...'
Or if they ask about planing and details just say: 'It's a Surprise!'
Hope that helps??
Brendanzgirl
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You are not alone. sometimes i feel like I'm getting shot down all the time with my ideas. I finally find a perfect element to our wedding and someone says 'no' to me, I don't get much support from FH either. So it is really frustrating and can feel like the wedding of my dreams just will never be! I have to take what i can get? I hate that b/c i dont want any regrets about this you know?
KimiDanny1010
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I feel like there will always be someone who doesn't like what i'm doing... This is why it is MY wedding...not theirs...
Just take what everyone says with a grain of salt and know that as long as you are happy with what you are doing then you hae nothing to worrry about !!
KimiDanny1010
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I feel like there will always be someone who doesn't like what i'm doing... This is why it is MY wedding...not theirs...
Just take what everyone says with a grain of salt and know that as long as you are happy with what you are doing then you hae nothing to worrry about !!
Dani777
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Yes, I have been getting that from many different peole too.... I have some possitive...but mainly neg. It's annoying b/c even my MOM is saying that it's just a big party and a waste of money. That's like a knife through the heart, yet at the same time, she is correct. Yet, I still want a beautiful wedding....just grin and bear it. I've been very minimal with the information I share to the neg. people so they won't bring me down....
christineafeth
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Your not alone. Its suppose to be a happy time, but theres always the litte stuff that goes on...
Ive been getting it from the beging from my dad and future mother in law because of money. We booked our photographer the other night and she was getting upset because of the price. I hate talking about certain details for that reason. And then I have the ones that you think will be supportive of you (my MOH) has an attitude with me. I have people dropping out of my wedding party because they cant afford it and I ask my MOH to make sure she can fiancially do she gets nasty with me and acts like its my fault.
If you ever need to talk email me.
Sweeteey51
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Yea me too, sometimes i dont think its intentional but it bothers me. So i decided i wasnt sharing anymore only wit FH. Not everyone has the same taste so i get y they would say 'i dont think so' or 'nah'. But if it was there wedding they probably would. when i decided not to share they got offended...lol..lol..but y share when it gets shot down? I snapped and just said ima do what i want not like they payin for it..lol..yea my mother freaks wit price details but how much do they think photgs cost? lol..
littlepixie12
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people always have something to say. I would just try to ignore it and do whatever you like or always dreamed of for your big day. At the end, you two have to live with these decisions and you want to look back and say I loved the way it came out and I had a great time.
christine2010
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2010 bride here:
i am getting so tired of the negativity from others. my brother & SIL are the worst. my SIL thinks its funny to ask my mom in front of me if its okay to ask about wedding plans. how childish, just ask me yourself. then my brother says something stupid, like how he knows the owner of Wendys & then he told me that he is wearing work clothes to the wedding. (he is a welder and all his cloths have holes in them or burn marks.) & they think these things are funny.
baba022
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Try and keep it to yourselves if thats the case....As horrible as that sounds!! Thats what I started doing....This should be the happiest time!! People are going to be jealous and are also going to have tons of opinions....but don't fret over it! It'll be ok....
teamC
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I've been wanting to vent about this as well....On Sunday someone told me that 'anyone spending more than $15K on a wedding is just trying to show off'...I was so upset about this...especially because we have been trying to stay within a good healthy budget AND have decided to move the date to a Saturday to better accomodate our guests. It felt sooo good this morning when FH told me: 'we are having the celebration that WE want its not about anyone else.'
So when you just want to scream at somebody...just remember that its what makes you and your FH happy!
HAPPY PLANNING!!!!!
baba022
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Posted by teamC
I've been wanting to vent about this as well....On Sunday someone told me that 'anyone spending more than $15K on a wedding is just trying to show off'...I was so upset about this...especially because we have been trying to stay within a good healthy budget AND have decided to move the date to a Saturday to better accomodate our guests. It felt sooo good this morning when FH told me: 'we are having the celebration that WE want its not about anyone else.'
So when you just want to scream at somebody...just remember that its what makes you and your FH happy!
HAPPY PLANNING!!!!!
LOL I wish $15k!!!
Sweeteey51
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More than 15K is showing off? Where does it cost less than 15k lol. You know what people at my mothers job were insinuating the same thing. They was like we should spend that money on a house. well hello where getting a house too! You know what people are haters and will always be if they cant do what you do they like to make you feel bad. Who cares do what you want and its about looking back and saying you were happy with your day!
PoppedInASnap
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people can stink!!! But just think... its your wedding and what i have learned, is that sometimes you have a moh who will kick someones a s s if they have to just to make you feel better
