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Mrs_B Posted: May 25, 2005 07:59 AM

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micmar Posted: May 25, 2005 08:07 AM

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I think it's a great email. I would consider speaking to her live. I just find that sometimes emails come across the wrong way. Not that your proposed email is mean, but I know from personal experiences, that people do not always get your tone through email. Plus you cannot see their reaction. This is just my opinion, you need to do what makes you feel more comfortable, but I think if the two of you are close friends (or were close recently), you should be able to talk...even if you keep it simple & say something like 'I noticed we haven't been spending alot of time talking or hanging out, is everything ok?' Good luck...

Mrs_B Posted: May 25, 2005 08:10 AM

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micmar Posted: May 25, 2005 08:14 AM

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Ok, so if you're confident you'll get a reply, go for it. I just hate the waiting game, so I've been taking the 'confronting the issue' approach. But I wish you luck, hope it all works out, that's too bad...it's always something!!!

Mrs_B Posted: May 25, 2005 08:17 AM

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bridetobe Posted: May 25, 2005 09:01 AM

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I would not e-mail her. Call her up and tell her you need to get together with her ASAP to talk. Then talk to her in person. E-mail is so impersonal, you said yourself that this one of the reasons why you don't speak toomuch. If this one of your best friends you should sit down and have a heart to heart.

KimberlyBride Posted: May 25, 2005 09:12 AM

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I would send her the email. It gets across your point and that is what you are most comfortable with. I would take tha part out that says 'if you can take a few minutes to reply' that comes across as sarcastic. But other then that you sound caring and that you want to be better friends with her. Good luck!

adioguardi Posted: May 25, 2005 09:26 AM

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I also feel that this should be done face to face. Practice what you want to say and say it. This past winter, I bit the bullet with an old friend of mine with whom I had distanced myself from due to a misunderstanding. We let this misunderstanding come between us for five years! I finally picked up the phone, invited her to lunch and we cleared the air. It was so worth it!! We are just sorry we lost five years of a great friendship.

I hope your outcome is as positive as mine was. Good luck!!

LandJ Posted: May 25, 2005 09:44 AM

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I would speak to her in person or at the very least, over the phone. Emails can come across as passive-aggressive and sometimes make the situation worse. It is hard to interpret exactly what a person means from an email.