no-show at my shower - do I say something?

Munchkn16 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:45 AM

no-show at my shower - do I say something?

A friend from work said she was coming to my shower this weekend. She was the only no-show. (No phone call that day or at any point, no card, no nothing...). She's at work today, though I haven't seen her yet. Do I say something?

MrsHtobe Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:47 AM

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yeah - just don't make it come across as an attack - I'd be more like 'what happened saturday? we missed you!'

roan126 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:47 AM

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If it were me, I'd just say something like 'so, we missed you at the shower the other day!', nice and casual, and see what she says.

LittlePup34 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:47 AM

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Posted by MrsHtobe

yeah - just don't make it come across as an attack - I'd be more like 'what happened saturday? we missed you!'

this is what i would do

kimnsteve Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:49 AM

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i would say something ..if you dont you are going to be curious forever

Kerin2804 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:49 AM

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I would be casual about it - We missed you.

MikeandJess Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:50 AM

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I'd say something like skank, don't even think about showing your face at my wedding. Try that.

Munchkn16 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 11:53 AM

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Posted by MikeandJess

I'd say something like skank, don't even think about showing your face at my wedding. Try that.

LOL I'm sure that'll work well!

del Rio Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:00 PM

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I would say something!

Future Mulligan Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:02 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

I'd say something like skank, don't even think about showing your face at my wedding. Try that.

jess you always crack me up

mariaobride Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:19 PM

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yep i agree ask her casually what happened and tell her you wished she was there- she may even approach you first and give you an explanation

Julybride08 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:21 PM

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I would just ask her. Somethin gmight have happened and she couldn't make it and didn't have a chance to get to a phone. You never know.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:22 PM

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I'd say something like 'oh- we missed you yesterday'

Espo22 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:24 PM

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see if she'll bring it up first, which she should. If not then i agree with casually bringing it up.

anneandchris Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:33 PM

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I agree with Jess!

No just kidding -- I would casually bring it up like the other girls mentioned. Or start with is 'Is Everything OK -- we missed you at the shower' -- as embarassing as it is she could have forgot or got her dates mixed up and thinks it is coming up and then might not say anything because she hasn't even realized she missed it.

Yes this has happened to me.

Then if she gives you some lame horrible excuse then -- go with Jess' strategy!

bluekat16 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 12:37 PM

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Posted by JOANNENBRIAN

Posted by MrsHtobe

yeah - just don't make it come across as an attack - I'd be more like 'what happened saturday? we missed you!'

this is what i would do

i would word it that way as well...Though i do like the skank comment

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Mar 17, 2008 01:05 PM

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update us on what happened!

MrsHtobe Posted: Mar 17, 2008 01:12 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

I'd say something like skank, don't even think about showing your face at my wedding. Try that.

You are too funny. You always make me laugh lol.

Munchkn16 Posted: Mar 17, 2008 01:36 PM

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Update: Spoke to her at lunch today. She says she was really sick (she was out of work a day or two last week) and I guess I believe her... I don't want to think she intentionally forgot or just decided against going. She didn't mention anything about my gift, which I thought was strange. (If you had every intention of going to a shower and couldn't at the last minute, you'd have bought something, right? )

I just hope she doesn't do that at the wedding! I