Im so confused and feel like i am in torn in so many directions. My mom is dead strict on NO ONE, ABSOLUTELY NO ONE seeing me before the wedding. She wants me to get dressed there. Problem i have with this is because i am getting married at the hall. i only have the CH for pictures. I dont know what to do. How could i go about getting dressed at a hotel taking pics there then get to hall and hide before anyone sees me. MY mom gets so defensive on this subject. Please Help.
cindyandkevin
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Why doesn't she want anyone to see you?? Only FH isn't supposed to see you that day.
I also got married at the RH so we were limited for time with pics and had to take a lot during the CH. I got dressed at home with my mom and BMs. We took pics of just us girls there and then we went to the RH. I got to walk around and make sure everything was set-up right and then went up to the bridal suite.
None of our guests saw me except those in the BP, my parents, and obviously our vendors. DH and I never saw each other until I started walking down the aisle. So you can tell your mom not to worry about it!!
stephanief
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you need to do what is right for you and tell your mom to butt out. I saw my DH before the ceremony so we could take pics and still attend our CH...I would not change one thing.
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Posted by stephanief
you need to do what is right for you and tell your mom to butt out. I saw my DH before the ceremony so we could take pics and still attend our CH...I would not change one thing.
Well put, I agree 100%. You are an adult and you make the choices that feel right for you! Good Luck.
moonlitee
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You need to do what you want to do and tell your mom you love her but this is YOUR wedding.
I don't want FH and I to see each other b/4 the wedding but we wanted to be at the CH so what we are doing is: he is going to take pics with his family and groomsmen b/4 the ceremony, and I am going to do my family and BM pics b/4 and after the ceremony all we'll have to do is take the us pics, and us with fam and BP pics.
Remember this is YOUR wedding NOT your moms.
kitty1224
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I total understand what you are talking about, I think taking pics before hand is definetly great, I just think that I really want to see FH face for the first time walking down the aisle, something romatic about it.
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I really dont want to see him before the wedding. but i dont want my pictures to come out rushed. i love my mom she is doing and has done so much for us already. Im thinking im just going to get dressed at a hotel take a limo over and hope no one sees me. my wedding starts at 1230 so i should be at the hall by when?
cindyandkevin
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To be honest, if you really don't want to see each other before the wedding then your pictures will be a lil rushed. We did the same thing you're planning on, and yes there were some shots that were missed simply bc we ran out of time. You will prob miss your entire CH and be pulled out of your reception to finish taking some pics.
What we did and I suggest you do is take some pics beforehand, like you with your BMs and FH with his GM. Then after your ceremony the only pics you have left to take are the romantic ones of you together, the whole BP together, and the family pics. Talk to your photographer and see what they suggest, but they're prob going to encourage you to see each other beforehand.
Since your ceremony starts at 12:30 guests will prob start to arrive at about 12:00, so I would suggest you get there by at least 11:30 so that none of your guests see you. Personally, I would get there by 11:00 just so you have the extra time to confirm that everything is in place and so you can spend some time in the bridal suite just relaxing. You're going to be very busy and things get hectic once the ceremony starts so it's good to take some time for yourself to get settled. Plus this will allow you extra time if you're running late.
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I agree...Im seeing my FH beforehand because were getting married at the hall. I dont want to waste my CH taking pictures...I paid good money for that hour!! LIW brides assured me that it was the best decision that they made...and its your decision. In addition, you'll have to then say all of your hellos at the reception instead of getting it over with at the CH! Hope this helps...
chrissyandvin
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I am in the same situation in that I am getting married at the hall too..and I was dead set on NOT seeing my FH until I walk down the aisle.. but my FH was dead set on making the CH!! Soo.. we are going to take pics before then.. I dont want to miss our Ch either! It should be whatever you and your FH want.. no one else!!
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you need to do what works for you because it is your day! don't forget that. It's only 'bad' for the groom to see the bride..but also remember that is just a silly supersition! in fact, my photog told us he is shocked at how many couples take their pics before the ceremony so they have more time to enjoy
BJandDan
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My DH and I saw each other beforehand, and we took our pictures beforehand. We were still pulled out of our CH and our reception for some more pics.
sunshine1813
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I don;t see what the big deal is. I think you need to have a serious talk w/ her about it. How will find time to take pic's and everything before the reception???
ML110
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i know a lot of the other girls just said this, but i would serioulsy think about seeing each other and taking pics beforehand... we didn't,only because we had plenty of time that day.. BUT, there was a thread on here of ' first time seeing each other' pictures that almost made me wish we had done it that way. when you do it that way, the photographer can set it up to be a REALLY special moment for the two of you. i think it also helps them get better shots of your expressions and everything becasue they are not worried abotu taking pics of everything else thats going on with the ceremony... they are just concentratng on taking pics of the two of you at that moment. DH was in a wedding where they did this, and the couple got some AWESOME really romantic shots of seeing each other for the first time... i just think that you/your parents are spending so much money on the day that you want to be able to enjoy as much of it as you can... you are also paying a ton of money for pictures, and you want to get teh best shots you can and not feel rushed at all...
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I say think about what you really want from your wedding day and find a way to make that work because all the options mentioned here work. I will have the same situation as you and was torn because I really didn't want to see FH before hand but was worried about the picture taking time constraint. Ultimately when I really thought about it, having that moment walking down the aisle and seeing FH for the first time is what I really want more than anything. Yeah pics may be rushed (although we don't have travel time between the ceremony and reception) but I won't do a receiving line, I'll take pics before hand with my family and bridal party and I'm happy with my decision. Do what makes you happy.
