not sure what to think

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:18 PM

not sure what to think

FH just informed me that the friday night before the wedding his 3 brothers and now his cousin will be sleeping over our really tiny 1 bedroom apartment. Our wedding is that sunday but I'm really stressed as it is, I can't imagine what it'll be like 2 days before the wedding. Am I wrong to be upset over this? I know his brothers have no money and have no where to go so I understand why he offered but they're grown men they should be figuring it out for themselves! What would you do?

2007 Crescent Bride Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:22 PM

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I would say no. I would offer to pay for a cheap hotel for them just so I could have my sanity.

Bride908 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:23 PM

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please dont be insulted - but honestly if it was me, I would take them in no problem. JMHO

KK Holiday Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:27 PM

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WHAT??? heck no! if it was me I would kick them out on their butts! you need PEACE before your wedding!

futuremrsfab Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:27 PM

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I feel your pain- my fmil, her boyfriend, my fsil, her boyfriend and fh's neice all think that they are staying in our apartment the weekend of the wedding- AND we havent closed yet and probably wont till October 1st.

I would say stand your ground, but its a toughie

eta- they are coming on Friday & fh is sending me to the OOT hotel that same day- that was how we solved it. but it pisssssed me off to have him spend the money- they should have had to

AMGBride2008 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:28 PM

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I would say no... it's not fair for you (or your FH) to have to worry about house guests on top of tying up any loose ends 2 days before the wedding. Like you said, they are grown men and can figure it out on their own.

08JulyBride Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:28 PM

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Just the friday night? what about the night before the wedding, where will they be then? If somewhere else, why couldn't they be there friday too?

Costabeba Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:29 PM

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I absolutely would NOT take them I know what you mean. MY FH is Canadian, his mother, aunt , sister and brother in law are staying at my place and hes like well well get blow up mattresses for others. UMMMMMMMMM NO absolutely not I will not lose my sanity over having strangers stay with me. his immediate family is quite enough. Im with you on that one PUT your foot down its ur big day

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:29 PM

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Posted by KK Holiday

WHAT??? heck no! if it was me I would kick them out on their butts! you need PEACE before your wedding!

I KNOW! And I especially need my own bathroom, we have ONE! One bathroom and 6 people 2 days before my wedding does not sound pretty. I'd love to book them a hotel but I really can't do it, this wedding is taking every cent I own! I'm just annoyed because they had 2 years to save up for the wedding and they didn't plan correctly and now FH and I are the ones to be inconvenienced. One of them might not even make it, and he's in the bridal party!

Future Mulligan Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:30 PM

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dont you hate all these little surprises

it was nice of your FH but i tihnk you guys would better off alone - especially in 1 bedroom apartment! i feel your pain on that one!

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:32 PM

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Posted by 08JulyBride

Just the friday night? what about the night before the wedding, where will they be then? If somewhere else, why couldn't they be there friday too?

Well they're staying there saturday too but I'll be in the hotel so it doesn't matter to me.

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:33 PM

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I would say no... it's not fair for you (or your FH) to have to worry about house guests on top of tying up any loose ends 2 days before the wedding. Like you said, they are grown men and can figure it out on their own.

Well they should but they won't, they're grown men with the minds of 12 year olds. Did I mention last time they stayed with us they got in a fist fight and almost broke the plasma AND our wine cabinet?

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:34 PM

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Posted by Future Mulligan

dont you hate all these little surprises

it was nice of your FH but i tihnk you guys would better off alone - especially in 1 bedroom apartment! i feel your pain on that one!

ok, now, how do I get FH to agree on that one with me?

Kricket212 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:36 PM

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I would not like it either but my FH would say 'Family is Family' Think about how you would feel if it was your bro or sister? Would you still feel the same way?

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:36 PM

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Posted by futuremrsfab

I feel your pain- my fmil, her boyfriend, my fsil, her boyfriend and fh's neice all think that they are staying in our apartment the weekend of the wedding- AND we havent closed yet and probably wont till October 1st.

I would say stand your ground, but its a toughie

eta- they are coming on Friday & fh is sending me to the OOT hotel that same day- that was how we solved it. but it pisssssed me off to have him spend the money- they should have had to

actually this is what we've discussed but I don't want to spend the night without FH friday night too. I can't sleep well without him

MikeandJess Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:37 PM

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Posted by Kricket212

I would not like it either but my FH would say 'Family is Family' Think about how you would feel if it was your bro or sister? Would you still feel the same way?

yes! Well ok, if it was one brother or one sister I wouldn't mind, but four people?!?!

snwb08 Posted: Aug 11, 2008 04:39 PM

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Posted by Kricket212

I would not like it either but my FH would say 'Family is Family' Think about how you would feel if it was your bro or sister? Would you still feel the same way?

I agree, I would have no issues. Maybe if it were the night before I might feel differently, but since it's two nights before it wouldn't matter.

chrispar Posted: Aug 11, 2008 05:07 PM

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You are not wrong about this at all. I have to tell you that I dealt with a VERY similar experience except I didn't say no to it and it was very hard for me. I can completely relate to how you feel. Honestly if the idea was brought up to me again and I could change my answer I would.