NWR---but need some advice about SIL...kind of long SORRY

Ok so for those of you who remember I have had nothing but trouble with my now SIL.............Just a litte background if you dont
She had a screaming fight with my DH at a funeral over nothing....literally......she doesnt say hello to us when she walks in the house....she slept through my whole shower......shall I go on....

Anyway here is her most recent act......The day of our wedding she called one of my BM a B&%CH because she said that she never smiles....so apparently my BM let it go.....so at the Reception my BM was telling my MOH what happened at the house and my SILs boyfriend over heard them talking and ran to my SIL and told her (TOTALLY HIGH SCHOOL) but anyway 5 mins later my SIL was in my BM face screaming at her and calling her white trash and all these names....my MOH had to get in between them.....

So to make a long story short....I did not hear about this until after the wedding because my BM & MOH did not want me to get upset but I am very pissed and I wanna say something to my SIL......Do you think thats wrong?? DH totally agrees with me but wants to say something in person instead of the over the phone....thank goodness he is very supportive and knows that I am not blowing things out of proportion and he knows how is sister is.

Reason being is that she pulls something EVERYTIME and I want it to stop....she will be seeing my BM often because we have lots of BBQ in the summer (that my SIL is not invited to but comes anyway)......so I wanna say something to basically warn her and let her know this is no longer acceptable.........THOUGHTS????

P.S My SIL is 31 years old.

Tell her and if she doesn't like it so be it...but I would make sure your DH is ok with it first, does he realize she is acting totally inappropriately? I would say something if I were you but if she flips out, do not flip out on her, just walk away and let it go...



I hope it gets better...

She's a 13 year old in a 31 year old's body! That is so wrong of her. That was very nice of your BM's to keep it from you on the day of your wedding.

I think it's a tough spot so I'm not sure what to suggest. I would normally say to be the bigger person and not say anything, but you did say they'll be seeing each other.

I'm no help, but here are some for you!

Wow!! she is crazy !! I am so sorry you have to deal with this but happy to hear DH is so supportive and your BM and MOH ! I would say something but in person an with just you, Dh and her dont get anyone else involved it will just make things worse!! I hope everything works out ! keep us updated good luck!!

Sounds like she has some serious issues. I don't have any suggestions but can offer some hugs!

Good luck with her. I hope you can get through her think head and she'll stop acting like a child.

I am sorry you SIL is so immature. I would confront her but don't fly off the handle. Just explain that her behavior is damaging to your relationship and that if she continues to act juvenile you will have to consider what to do with the situation, even if that means staying away from one another,