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NWR crappy friend vent(really long and confusing)

atitus724 Posted:

NWR crappy friend vent(really long and confusing)

My ex bridesmaid is really getting on my nerves!! She is supposed to be a good friend of mine but is just always giving me an attitude and I feel like she doesnt even care that I'm happy.....Her and FH got into a big brawl right after we got engaged and it makes everything awkward.

The reason why I'm so upset right now is because her bday was 1/31 and she went out tonight to celebrate....I had every intention of going until I looked at my bank account and saw that it was overdrawn...She then wrote on my status and said 'Wayyy to come out for my birthday, great friend'....where I replied 'Sorry (girls name), I had every intention to come out for your birthday until I looked at my bank account and realized that I'm -$35....Which is probably why I've been home all night sitting on the computer looking for a job. Trust me, I would have much rather been at Lilys with you and everyone else.'


Number one, she doesnt have a job and i dont know how she affords to go out all the time and party....and go on cruises to cancun and vacas to woodloch for weeks on end

Number two, how dare she write that on my status (one about me struggling to find a job and my money situation no less) and not confront me about it privately

Number three, I resent her (idk if thats the right word to use) because her and her (or I thought they were our friends) arent even happy for FH and i...they have countdowns to everyone elses weddings but dont care at all about mine!

Maybe i'm selfish or overly sensitive but i dont feel like i deserve to be treated like crap. theres so much more to this story but i dont think anyone will even attempt to read that book..

If you have my facebook, feel free to look at all the crap shes said to me and fh in the past (if you're bored)

sorry so long...fh is asleep and im in tears. must be nice to have no job and suck up unemployment for over two years without attempting another job


vent over
Tippy Posted:

Re: NWR crappy friend vent(really long and confusing)

PEOPLE SUCK for the most part. If she can't sympathize with your financial situation she is clearly being selfish. Sometimes it takes time before we realize who our true friends are.

No tears!



atitus724 Posted:

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I'm really ready to cut my losses with her. I'm so sick of being treated like crap...im just worried about our mutual friends...but then again if they don't understand they're prob not worth it either. I'm glad I have you and the girls on here. And poor James just woke up to give me kisses and remind me that everything is ok..

Tippy Posted:

Re: NWR crappy friend vent(really long and confusing)

Just tell her how you feel and put the ball in her court. If she doesn't change I would just limit communication and see where it goes. Be happy that your FH loves you and a simple kiss and reassurance can make you feel better. That is worth more than any friendship!

ReginaH Posted:

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I'm sorry you're going through all this. I have a similiar situation with one of my friends that started after i got engaged. I would try to talk to her about it and if she can't see how she's making feel, it might be time to cut your losses. What I did with my friend was block her from being able to write on my fb or even see my FB wall. This should be a happy time for you and FH.
SimHawk8 Posted:

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That's awful I'm sorry.

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted:

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I'm sorry you are going through this... I saw this yesterday and it totally makes you think....

....Just remember we will always have REASON, SEASON and LIFETIME friends in our life...they will show what category they're in with time!
adelz Posted:

Re: NWR crappy friend vent(really long and confusing)


Posted by atitus724

I'm really ready to cut my losses with her. I'm so sick of being treated like crap...im just worried about our mutual friends...but then again if they don't understand they're prob not worth it either. I'm glad I have you and the girls on here. And poor James just woke up to give me kisses and remind me that everything is ok..



Your response is exactly what I was going to write. It definitely sucks and I'm sure you have to deal with it. Based on what you wrote, she's not a friend to you and has no right to treat you as she does. I've lost friends in the past over similar things, and unfortunately sometimes you just cut the losses - my motto is that friendship should be drama free!

Sounds like you have all the support you need from FH :)

Watermelon5 Posted:

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Crashing* So sorry! People can be really ******. She def shouldnt be posting rude comments for the world to see. Next time you see/speak with her you should make it clear that you dont appreciate the way she treats you!!! At least you have FH to give you kisses though!!!
kshea23 Posted:

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sent you FM
spdy540 Posted:

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I'm sorry sometimes people aren't what thy seem or there is something underlying that you just don't know. If it continues and you have to cut your losses talk to her if not it might just be better for one less negative person. It's definitely a tough situation

atitus724 Posted:

Re: NWR crappy friend vent(really long and confusing)

The response from her is not what I expected..Now somewhat bashing FH on my status
Now i'm lost because literally her whole family is invited to my wedding...James doesnt want her there, and at this point I dont want her there either. Another problem is that she is the link between me and some of my friends...Shes like the queen bee...Why now?This couldnt wait 6 more months? Grr

I love you girls, thanks you so much for letting me vent...I'm really heartbroken over this

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