NWR: FH (sad vent)

lori7570 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:56 AM

NWR: FH (sad vent)

So yesterday I posted how FH is not into excercising right now. Well I realized last night that he has been really down since he got laid off (duh right?). He has had interviews that he hasn't told me about, when I asked him why he said 'I just want to be able to tell you I got hired somewhere'.

I don't feel like I've been sensitive enough during the past few months because I've been so preoccupied with my own anxieties about his situation. I want him to be able to talk to me about the good and the bad...that's what marriage is all about right?

So just had to vent..thanks for reading

little j Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:57 AM

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aww yeah. well at least u guys are talkin now. thats good.

CloudNine Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:57 AM

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aww lori. i'm sure he just wants to make you happy and thats why he didnt tell you. things will get better. everything happens for a reason

KRISTIND Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:57 AM

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it will be ok....be glad he told you now....

christine2010 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:57 AM

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sorry to hear that your FH is in such a rut. hopefully things will start to look up soon.

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:57 AM

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what kind of job is he looking for? maybe i can help him out?

Lsorrent Posted: Mar 18, 2009 10:58 AM

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Why not sit him down for a nice dinner one night and explain that you are there through good times and bad to support him in everything.

Offer to help him look for jobs online, offer to review his resume.

When my FH was laid off, I was VERY supportive....paid whatever I needed to without asking him for help, found him job postings online that I thought he might be qualified for, etc.

I think he might just need to know that you are there for him no matter what.

lori7570 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:00 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

Why not sit him down for a nice dinner one night and explain that you are there through good times and bad to support him in everything.

Offer to help him look for jobs online, offer to review his resume.

When my FH was laid off, I was VERY supportive....paid whatever I needed to without asking him for help, found him job postings online that I thought he might be qualified for, etc.

I think he might just need to know that you are there for him no matter what.

Yeah I do a lot of that for him, but I might do it in more of a buisness way than a wife way...so I need to def change my approach

lori7570 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:00 AM

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Posted by grkbarbie

what kind of job is he looking for? maybe i can help him out?

He's been in retail management for almost 10 years...thanks for thinking of us

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:04 AM

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Aw, Lori. I'm sure your FH knows that you are there for him, he just does not want you to worry even more than you already are!! I'm sending good vibes your way!

T E R I Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:04 AM

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aaawwww Lori , I'm glad the two of you talked a little about it, i'm sorry he's going through all of this

rocketsummer17 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:06 AM

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So sorry you are going through this At least you are talking openly with him about this now...Things will start to look up soon. Karma comes around and you two are really good people...Something good will happen.

GonnaBeeMrsG Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:30 AM

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I missed the whole FH not motivated to work out But maybe if you both can take walks or go to the gym together it might relieve both your stresses about the situation.

I am sorry for the both of you. He will find something its just the waiting that *****.

lori7570 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:39 AM

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Thanks everyone...I really appreciate it....

Sometimes it's hard for me to separate work and home and to not micro manage everything...I'm going to work harder on being sensitive

JenBill61210 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 11:57 AM

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aw i'm keeping my fingers crossed for him.

NYYankeeGirl72 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 12:08 PM

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Lori, just stay positive and be sure to let FH know that you are there for him through the good and bad and that whatever situation you guys are going through, as long as you communicate and support one another, will just make your relationship that much stronger.

AdriandSteve Posted: Mar 18, 2009 12:26 PM

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I think it's good and important that you took a step back and realized how you might be acting and what the reasons were for it.
(gee... do i sound like a caseworker/sw/whatever the hell my title is lol)

I think all the ideas the other girls had are great

lori7570 Posted: Mar 18, 2009 12:29 PM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I think it's good and important that you took a step back and realized how you might be acting and what the reasons were for it.
(gee... do i sound like a caseworker/sw/whatever the hell my title is lol)

I think all the ideas the other girls had are great

Thanks...the worst part about it is that I'm a therapist!!!

Talk about not following your own advice

emc282rjm Posted: Mar 18, 2009 12:33 PM

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I think it's really good that you've realized this is an issue. I think it's a really good step to take. I know that I ALWAYS micromanage. When FH is feeling bad, I attack it as if it's a work issue instead of an emotional issue. It's definitely something women do, and it's great that you've recognized it.