as many of you know, my 'darling' new sil and her husband (and their kids, i might add) aren't my favorite people.
we're getting close to the end of the year with the holidays around the corner. i've already decided how i'm going to handle 'gift-giving' and the holidays. so far so good in my plan.
here's the question: sil's youngest daughter has a birthday coming up. I DON'T WANT TO GO. I DON'T WANT TO SEND A GIFT. it's all still too soon.
how should i handle this?? my son is the same age as the girl, so i know he will be invited. if i fake an illness, it will be obvious and dh will feel bad.
any ideas/suggestions/comments???
tia
LuvMyAlfonse
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It's not the girl's fault. I'd not go but send a gift. She's too young to understand and you'd only hurt her. I read about your SILs BS drama. Some people's nerve!!!! I wouldn't take it out on your niece though.... Good luck.... You're gonna need it!
Sidebar.. your wedding pics are beautiful! I love your dress!!! Looks like you had a wonderful time regardless of the other BS drama leading up to it. Good for you! You're a strong person!
FallBride05
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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
It's not the girl's fault. I'd not go but send a gift. She's too young to understand and you'd only hurt her. I read about your SILs BS drama. Some people's nerve!!!! I wouldn't take it out on your niece though.... Good luck.... You're gonna need it!
Sidebar.. your wedding pics are beautiful! I love your dress!!! Looks like you had a wonderful time regardless of the other BS drama leading up to it. Good for you! You're a strong person!
I agree
sarahradio5
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I agree. I would say to be the bigger person and send a gift to the kid, but don't go to the party. Better yet... say you're going, but then don't show up! See how THEY like it!
libby2595
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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
It's not the girl's fault. I'd not go but send a gift. She's too young to understand and you'd only hurt her. I read about your SILs BS drama. Some people's nerve!!!! I wouldn't take it out on your niece though.... Good luck.... You're gonna need it!
Sidebar.. your wedding pics are beautiful! I love your dress!!! Looks like you had a wonderful time regardless of the other BS drama leading up to it. Good for you! You're a strong person!
thanks. although the child is also a pain... it''s a product of how she's been raised. so i will CONTINUE to take the high road.... grinding my teeth the whole way, mind you!!!
also, thanks for you lovely words about my pics .
no one said being married was going to be easy
libby2595
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I agree. I would say to be the bigger person and send a gift to the kid, but don't go to the party. Better yet... say you're going, but then don't show up! See how THEY like it!
