NWR- I am drafting a much needed letter to my mother.

NWR- I am drafting a much needed letter to my mother.

Re: NWR- I am drafting a much needed letter to my mother.

Re: NWR- I am drafting a much needed letter to my mother.

Well, I understand what you are saying, but this has gone way beyond her getting under my skin. Our history is violent, to say the least and I do not want her in my life. If she were to die tomorrow, I honestly would not have any feelings either way. FM me if you want to know the whole scoop, but know that this has been 29 years of abuse, both physical and emotional, and I have had enough.

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What I would do is just write freely without structure at first - pour everything out that you need to say. Then go back for grammar, and proper sentence structure, adding things in, taking some out, etc.

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I think Heather's idea is the way to go - just write it all out - don't hold back. But then once you're done walk away for a bit and then return to fix it up. You'll see it with a clearer eye. Remember that no matter what you want to be the better person and be as respectful as you can with this.

Don't feel bad about this either - no one knows the history. If this is the decision you have made then you should have support on it. I am sure it was a very difficult decision that you have made over time.

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Having made a similar decision, I understand how hard this is. I like Heather's idea- just get it all out.

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I'm really sorry to hear this...

They say sometimes the best way to get you feelings across is to write it , so you are making a great decision...

I don't want to get all in your business, so that's why I'm not going to FM you..

I believe that you have thought long and hard on this so you know what's best for you!

Good luck, and I hope things turn out better in your future...

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i think the ladies above have given you great advice, i just wanted to give you some

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Thanks ladies for the support. I will do what you suggest.

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I am sorry, to hear of what you are going through. I have a similar problem, but what I have done is just keep in touch with her she is not allowed to give me her two cents on anything . My momther is and will always be that my mother and our of respect for myself I talk to her once in a while, she is part of the wedding but will not get any special treatments
there have been other women in my life that have done a better job then my own mother.
I hope for you that one day things can be resolved even if its a once month call. I do share the same feelings that if she were to leave this earth right this second it would be some kind of relieve for my sister and I. God knows why he chose some moms to be the way they are and I believe is mainly to make sure we become strong good women

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Posted by Ang&Rich

I think Heather's idea is the way to go - just write it all out - don't hold back. But then once you're done walk away for a bit and then return to fix it up. You'll see it with a clearer eye. Remember that no matter what you want to be the better person and be as respectful as you can with this.

Don't feel bad about this either - no one knows the history. If this is the decision you have made then you should have support on it. I am sure it was a very difficult decision that you have made over time.

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Very well said. No one else truly knows unless they have walked in your shoes.

I always encourage people to patch things up with their families but when it comes to abuse, I agree, enough is enough. I have a very short fuse when it comes to that. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

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One more suggestion since I think this will be really helpful for you. I would write the letter and then put it away for at least two weeks. Re-read it and if it frames what you need to say and you still feel comfortable sending it, do so. Just because she is your mother is not a reason to keep her in your life. No one should have to be abused.