NWR. I feel bad...am I a bad friend?

So a little background- One of my very best friends is this girl Lisa and her boyfriend is a guy named Frank. I went to HIgh school with frank and we are all a close bunch.

Now today is Frank's Bday...now yesterday morning we all get a text saying that he got this great deal and its only 50pp for a party bus to the city, lounge admission to a great place, and bottle service. Great price right? Well we were really excited to go!! We were aware of teh weather but I kept saying we will go blah blah...
Now I just took a nap and woke up like an hour ago to FH going, 'Jenn, we are not going to the city tonight, the roads are terrible.' We called the bday boy and left a message telling him we will take him out to dinner blah blah...and then I called my friend Lisa (the bday boy's girlfriend),,,she was not happy that we were cancelling and was very standoffish. I apologized and told her that I hope that she understands. Well I then sent her a text again stating that I hope she understands...she writes back saying that she feels bad for him bc its his 30th and people are giving him a hard time...

Thing is this... This happened an hour ago and I still feel bad, but I think that FH is right... roads are bad and people should bot be going out tonight... and he only planned this YESTERDAY,...

Should I just let it go... or should we have gone? I feel really bad

the roads are very bad, and i dont think its safe to be out.

although it does ***** that things happen like this b/c of the weather, but ppl need to understand and take into consideration in the wintery months that things might happen like this

sorry you are feeling that way

Thank you girls... that makes me feel better

I kinda see it both ways. How far away is this travel for you? I mean if it were your 30th and this is how it turned out you would be bummed too.. and if it were your FH bday and you were looking forward to seeing him have a great bday.. you would feel the same way she does.

But it's always important to be safe and if you dont feel comfortable then well you dont feel comfy and maybe should be out?? The did plan it last minute.

But really.. If it were me I probably would have still gone and had a blast with my frend for their bday. But that's just me... I always make it a point to do something sweet and out of my way for a close friend on their bday. Actually i probably would have more fun.. because I think due to the weather places wont be OVERCROWDED! But there should still be a nice crown out on a sat night. so i would have gone and made a memory. imo. sorry if it doesn't help you any.

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Posted by KerriJohnS

I kinda see it both ways. How far away is this travel for you? I mean if it were your 30th and this is how it turned out you would be bummed too.. and if it were your FH bday and you were looking forward to seeing him have a great bday.. you would feel the same way she does.

But it's always important to be safe and if you dont feel comfortable then well you dont feel comfy and maybe should be out?? The did plan it last minute.

But really.. If it were me I probably would have still gone and had a blast with my frend for their bday. But that's just me... I always make it a point to do something sweet and out of my way for a close friend on their bday. Actually i probably would have more fun.. because I think due to the weather places wont be OVERCROWDED! But there should still be a nice crown out on a sat night. so i would have gone and made a memory. imo. sorry if it doesn't help you any.

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I agree! This happens to Fh and I all the time! We always celebrate everyones bdays and when it comes to ours people always bail on us I understand why your friend is upset with you.....sorry.

ETA: I dont think you are a bad friend and im sure your friend will get over it, but its just disappointing when you have a big thing planned and everyone backs out.

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Posted by GT143EA

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Posted by KerriJohnS

I kinda see it both ways. How far away is this travel for you? I mean if it were your 30th and this is how it turned out you would be bummed too.. and if it were your FH bday and you were looking forward to seeing him have a great bday.. you would feel the same way she does.

But it's always important to be safe and if you dont feel comfortable then well you dont feel comfy and maybe should be out?? The did plan it last minute.

But really.. If it were me I probably would have still gone and had a blast with my frend for their bday. But that's just me... I always make it a point to do something sweet and out of my way for a close friend on their bday. Actually i probably would have more fun.. because I think due to the weather places wont be OVERCROWDED! But there should still be a nice crown out on a sat night. so i would have gone and made a memory. imo. sorry if it doesn't help you any.

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I agree! This happens to Fh and I all the time! We always celebrate everyones bdays and when it comes to ours people always bail on us I understand why your friend is upset with you.....sorry.

ETA: I dont think you are a bad friend and im sure your friend will get over it, but its just disappointing when you have a big thing planned and everyone backs out.

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But thats the thing... this wasnt planned until yesterday morning...it was last minute.

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Posted by KerriJohnS

PS - I dont think you are a bad friend though. i think if you decided to go for no reason then maybe but you do have a reason and it's not just a maliscious thing.

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Kerri.. thats my problem here is that I would have gone too... but FH put his foot down and was like, ' We are not going'....if it were up to me, I woudl have been there no problem! Thats why I do feel bad

you girls are right though, they will get over it...and we will take them out to eat to celebrate on another day so...

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Posted by Utterhappiness

I agree! This happens to Fh and I all the time! We always celebrate everyones bdays and when it comes to ours people always bail on us I understand why your friend is upset with you.....sorry.

ETA: I dont think you are a bad friend and im sure your friend will get over it, but its just disappointing when you have a big thing planned and everyone backs out.

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But thats the thing... this wasnt planned until yesterday morning...it was last minute.

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Im just saying that i understand why your friend is upset. Im not trying to make you feel bad. Dont stress it! Your friend will get over it in a couple of days!

Jen, I was supposed to go to dinner for FH's sister in law today. It was her 30th birthday this week too. And FH had a wrestling tournament today and we were going to go meet them out afterwards. But while we were at the tournament, the weather got bad and so did the roads. FH's brother called me and told me not to come bc we would have had to go out east and he didn't want us driving. He understood. Your friend should too! I don't think you should feel that bad b/c your safety is more important!
xoxo

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Posted by GT143EA

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Posted by Utterhappiness

I agree! This happens to Fh and I all the time! We always celebrate everyones bdays and when it comes to ours people always bail on us I understand why your friend is upset with you.....sorry.

ETA: I dont think you are a bad friend and im sure your friend will get over it, but its just disappointing when you have a big thing planned and everyone backs out.

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But thats the thing... this wasnt planned until yesterday morning...it was last minute.

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Im just saying that i understand why your friend is upset. Im not trying to make you feel bad. Dont stress it! Your friend will get over it in a couple of days!

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No I know hehe thank you...I just feel really bad when I let people down.. I take things to heart too much sometimes

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Posted by kgicrls

Jen, I was supposed to go to dinner for FH's sister in law today. It was her 30th birthday this week too. And FH had a wrestling tournament today and we were going to go meet them out afterwards. But while we were at the tournament, the weather got bad and so did the roads. FH's brother called me and told me not to come bc we would have had to go out east and he didn't want us driving. He understood. Your friend should too! I don't think you should feel that bad b/c your safety is more important!
xoxo

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Thank you A!! Miss you! YOu helped me to feel better

Miss youuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

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Posted by VickiR510

Jenn cant he reschedule the party for next weekend???

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Nah they actually went...my BM Lisa got the birthday boy a trip to LA for next weekend so they will not be available to reschedule hehe