one of our GM grandfathers passed away and were going to the wake shortly..but i really dont like going up to the coffin im always freaked out that they will sit up and start talking while im sitting there.. i dont know why its just a thing. I can deal with dead people ive done it before but i wants to know if i can skip going up to the coffin tongiht or is it totally disrespectful to do so? if its disrespectful i will do it with my eyes closed but if i can skip it id rather
Mici n KC
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You don't have to stay up there for a long time. You're just going to pay your respects. Just go up, look then talk to the GM and his families.
MrsD71208
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I always go up, whether I knew the person well or not. I personally think it's a nice way to grant peace on the person's body and soul. I wouldn't go if I didn't feel that way though. Ask FH....see what he says.
jeffamanda080808
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I've skipped it. But I do make sure I go up to the family to pay my respects.
jessnstu08
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I don't think it is , I know a lot of people who don't go up!
You are going to pay your respects to the family, no one will even notice if you don't go up, most will be grieving or talking to others
MikeandJess
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I don't think so. I never do because I'm jewish and in our religion we don't have an open coffin or kneel in front of the coffin
Soon2BMrsD
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thanks girls i would never not go up to the family i feel like thats the most important! so if i skip the guy in the box (sorry i need hummor at times like these other wise i would just cry) its ok?
Soon2BMrsD
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when its my own family i feel like going to the coffin and saying what i need to say is my closure.. when i dont know them i feel its awkward and their sitting there thinking 'who the heck is this telling me things' does that make sense?
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Posted by Soon2BMrsD
when its my own family i feel like going to the coffin and saying what i need to say is my closure.. when i dont know them i feel its awkward and their sitting there thinking 'who the heck is this telling me things' does that make sense?
it does.
You don't have to if you don't feel comfortable. You're there to pay your respect to the GM and his family, especially if you didn't even know his grandfather!
shcole08
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it totally make sense and it is not rude. People will just be glad you came for them
Butterfly123
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I have terrible anxiety when it comes to things like that. I dont like it. If you feel like you cant do it then explain to your FH. IM sure he will understand. It will look much better than closing your eyes!
Soon2BMrsD
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thanks girls i really appreciate it!! i just really dont want to be disrespectful!
ldrenckhahn
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I don't think it's disrespectful at all. I know a lot of people who are like this. Often times I will just go up and stand there for a few seconds and say a quick prayer.
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I'm sorry for the sad news. I, too, can't bare to go to a coffin but I'll go really fast, pay my respect, say a prayer and give my condolences to the family and I'm gone.
chrispar
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I think as long as you go up to the family you will not be disrespectful. I know exactly how you feel.
Snowflake08
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i dont think it is disrespectful at all especially because people of other faiths do not go up to the coffin and not to be disrespectful
if that makes any sense
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Posted by MikeandJess
I don't think so. I never do because I'm jewish and in our religion we don't have an open coffin or kneel in front of the coffin
Same here for the same reason- but I feel that if you don't I'm sure they would understand -but just pay your respects to the family.
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I've gone to a wake for the past two nights and I did not go up to the coffin. It was family but I can't go up there.
It isn't disrespectful as long as you pay your respects to the family.
