Did it take a while to adjust to it? Did you start fighting more?
We fought this entire weekend. Its really tougher than I thought
JennyAPH
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My FH moved in late may and we are still adjusting to it.. Its not easy. We do fight more since we live together but they do not last as long. It was really really hard at first and now its getting SO much better... I actually can't remember what it was like not living together.
Dani777
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FH and I started bascially living together for awhile... the only times we actually faught was when my brother would get in the middle...sorta like he did all weekend. When we are alone, usually we don't fight... just a small back and forth arguement that never gets loud or anything...but that's about it.... Over time things will get easier..
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For all ladies who live with FH:
Did it take a while to adjust to it? Did you start fighting more?
We fought this entire weekend. Its really tougher than I thought
WE FIGHT ABOUT HOUSE STUFF ALL THE TIME....FOR EXAMPLE...YESTERDAY...HE WAS SO PRESSED TO GET BACK TO WATCH THE FOOTBALL GAME HE LEFT THE REFRIGERATOR DOOR WIDE OPEN FOR AND HOUR AND A HALF UNTIL I CAME INTO THE KITCHEN AND FOUND IT....
THAT I DID NOT LOP HIS HEAD OFF WAS A MIRACLE...
BUT FIGHTING ABOUT HOUSE STUFF IS NO BIGGIE TO ME...THOSE ARE GOOD PROBLEMS TO HAVE....
IT'S WHEN YOU FIGHT ABOUT BIG STUFF ALL THE TIME...:
kmiller
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Posted by kmiller
For all ladies who live with FH:
Did it take a while to adjust to it? Did you start fighting more?
We fought this entire weekend. Its really tougher than I thought
WE FIGHT ABOUT HOUSE STUFF ALL THE TIME....FOR EXAMPLE...YESTERDAY...HE WAS SO PRESSED TO GET BACK TO WATCH THE FOOTBALL GAME HE LEFT THE REFRIGERATOR DOOR WIDE OPEN FOR AND HOUR AND A HALF UNTIL I CAME INTO THE KITCHEN AND FOUND IT....
THAT I DID NOT LOP HIS HEAD OFF WAS A MIRACLE...
BUT FIGHTING ABOUT HOUSE STUFF IS NO BIGGIE TO ME...THOSE ARE GOOD PROBLEMS TO HAVE....
IT'S WHEN YOU FIGHT ABOUT BIG STUFF ALL THE TIME...:
He was resentful that I had off this weekend while he worked to make money for the wedding. (But his working on the weekends is not just for the wedding- its for his debt and expenses too) I am not capable of working 7 days a week. I will go crazy.
So that combined with a bunch of other little things came to a boiling point on Saturday.
The thing is that we always got along really well prior to living together. I guess things will get better. Its taking more compromising than I thought though..
MirabellaNYC
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We live together for almost a year..kind of.. When I closed on my apt last November we went from him staying over 5 nights a week, to 6, to 7 and then by January it was like 'yay this is fun, no more going home for you!'
So because we never had an official move in date there really was no stress or adjustment period. I do give him a bit of grief about leaving his glass of iced tea on the coffee table all the time though...and he gives me grief about being a bed hog =) But we both laugh about it.
Jsquared279
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It didn't really take us very long to get used to it. We have been together so long so we know each others' bad habits and what not. We actually fight a lot less now that we have our place. We have been in this apartment for over a year now! We love living together! It is wonderful to go home every night and see my wonder FH there waiting for me!
MrsGarcia
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I swear.. Most couples should live together first before getting married hehehe... Me and FH live together.. And we fight alot more then we did before.. And ofcorse thats due to alot of bad habits that are very hard to break... We just have to work through it like anyone else
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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we fought lot in the beginning primarily bc ... going out shopping for everything you need can be sooo tiring and painful... its all cute when you first start it, but it gets old very quickly... at least for us it did
pandafish519
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FH and i don't fight.. we say what is one our minds as it happens... we are both very relaxed people and i spent so much time at his apartment before i moved in, it was an easy transition.
the most important thing is that we are VERY good communicators. we know exactly what is going on and we tell each other when something needs to be discussed before it gets to the point of a fight... i think we are very lucky to have the relationship that we do..
NickandTara426
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We've been living together for a year and a half now. We argue occasionally because FH sometimes is a little OCD. He leaves his things I straighten it and tell him to put it away. When he is ready to put it away he always says 'why is this here? where does this go? this isn't in the right spot' So I get aggravated because I told him that it needed to be put away. i can't get into the attic...my arms don't reach that far lol
ETA: It's not worth fighting about it blows over and everything gets better with time
chicky724
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FH and I are probably moving in together in about 2 months... I'm worried about this too!
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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FH and I are probably moving in together in about 2 months... I'm worried about this too!
i remem making a post about this ... it hit me like a ton of bricks.. omg, we'll be living together in ___ months made me very scared actually... but it all has worked out well so far
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Posted by evewedsjc
Posted by kmiller
For all ladies who live with FH:
Did it take a while to adjust to it? Did you start fighting more?
We fought this entire weekend. Its really tougher than I thought
WE FIGHT ABOUT HOUSE STUFF ALL THE TIME....FOR EXAMPLE...YESTERDAY...HE WAS SO PRESSED TO GET BACK TO WATCH THE FOOTBALL GAME HE LEFT THE REFRIGERATOR DOOR WIDE OPEN FOR AND HOUR AND A HALF UNTIL I CAME INTO THE KITCHEN AND FOUND IT....
THAT I DID NOT LOP HIS HEAD OFF WAS A MIRACLE...
BUT FIGHTING ABOUT HOUSE STUFF IS NO BIGGIE TO ME...THOSE ARE GOOD PROBLEMS TO HAVE....
IT'S WHEN YOU FIGHT ABOUT BIG STUFF ALL THE TIME...:
He was resentful that I had off this weekend while he worked to make money for the wedding. (But his working on the weekends is not just for the wedding- its for his debt and expenses too) I am not capable of working 7 days a week. I will go crazy.
So that combined with a bunch of other little things came to a boiling point on Saturday.
The thing is that we always got along really well prior to living together. I guess things will get better. Its taking more compromising than I thought though..
the beginning is the hardest...you just have to be patient and realize sometimes things are said out of frustration...
PROBM
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when we first moved in together (about 2 years ago) we were sooo happy bc we couldnt wait to have our own place so our relationship got so much better.
I think the best advice is the second you start bickering go for a walk or go to seperate rooms. all you need is space and time to really think about what you are bickering about.
Since we both went away to college and lived with so many different people after college nothing in the world bothers me , i think that helps a lot
Im a Pepper
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Takes a little while to adjust to the change... You're used to living a certain way your whole life and then you have to adapt to another person's way of living and try to find a way to make it work with yours - it's not easy! Once you get in the swing of things it's great - you begin to work together and find your own rhythm, so to speak.
I'm sorry that you guys have been fighting! The adjustment period is tough and things will get easier
aimerlena01
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You'll totally get used to it. I think in the beginning it's really hard. You have to be able to say listen I need sometime alone and the other person can't get offended. Soon you'll be able to just give a look and they'll understand what that means! hahahaha!
ace730
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Honestly, when we first moved in together, I thought we would kill eachother and I was convinced we were going to break up we fought so much. Then, about a month into it, we somehow just figured it out and things have been great ever since. I am not saying we don't argue every once in awhile (seriously, the dishasher is right next to the sink. Is it that hard to put the dishes in the freakin dishwasher? LOL!) but we've learned to communicate better and to pick and choose our battles.
KittyGags
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To be honest, we fight way less living together.
We were together for 3 1/2 years before we were engaged, he moved in around 3 months before we got engaged. We spent alot of time having slumber parties over those few years....first at his place, then when I got mine, at mine.
It really helped us long term because we know each other's annoying habits. So we really don't fight over anything now.
Except he steals the dishtowels. And leaves them around the apartment...lol
Jennmolloy
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For me and FH. It was a huge adjustment. We argued more then ever. But we have been living together for almost 18 months and things are smooth now. I'll be honest it took us about 6 months to get the 'kinks' worked out!!! Even with the arguing I wouldn't change it for the world. I love him and he is wonderful!!!
