nwr-mil & facebook - need fast help

Spring143 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:14 PM

nwr-mil & facebook - need fast help

I need help fast.

I just got a facebook friend request from my MIL.
(background on my mil-she made our wedding hell & was unbelievably rude to me & my fam)
I dont want to accept her to be my friend.
we are seeing her tonight for easter (bc she is having his whole fam over her house for easter--family that didnt come to our wedding including his grandmother who not only didnt come but no gift no card)
What do I tell her why I cant accept her if she asks??
I really dont want her knowing my business or looking at my pics

grkbarbie Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:17 PM

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accept her but put restrictions on her.. ask Jayne what her husband did for his daughters lol

LouMar2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:24 PM

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i agree. accept her and put her on a limited profile...

just be careful because i think when the friend request is pending they can see any staus updates you put up

Spring143 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:24 PM

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i thought about restrictions but I know my mom would go nuts if she knew i accepted her.
I totally dont want her like commenting on pics of the baby when i put up pics of .

MikesBride2B Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:28 PM

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Accept her, but block her from most stuff. After all my FSIL drama she can basically see my basic profile but no status updates or pictures or anything like that.

GracieJMay2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:38 PM

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I think accepting but restricting her is a good idea.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Spring143 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:41 PM

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any other options??
maybe ill just tell her that i didnt get it when i see her tonight and than just never accept her.

plus she used her maiden name like shes been married 6 times all her last names prob wouldnt fit on the name line

Diana508 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:55 PM

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I would accept and restrict! That way there's no hurt feelings but she cant see anything either. I remember the stories..ugh!

FallBride2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:13 PM

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Say you havent been online and then dont accept her

slyman1101 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:16 PM

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id play dumb... i would be like, oh i hardly go on anymore, i never check my account, etc etc
she will never know

JamDancer Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:41 PM

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I'd take the high road and accept but restrict like, everything . I havea few of those

regy_k Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:48 PM

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Posted by Spring143

any other options??
maybe ill just tell her that i didnt get it when i see her tonight and than just never accept her.

plus she used her maiden name like shes been married 6 times all her last names prob wouldnt fit on the name line

I would play a surprised face 'oh u befriended me? no way! that is so cool! sorry but I didnt see it, havent been on there in a while. will check'
and then do nothing about it
I am a passive aggressive person, so this is usually what I do

I hope she wont ask u about it, and u can just keep ignoring the request

GR2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 08:08 PM

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Tell her you never got the request and hope she takes the hint

wenR Posted: Apr 04, 2010 03:06 AM

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So obvious she's looking to find possible dirt. (I agree w/ the girls) Accept her but put her on total restriction. If she acts up then just remove her.

Spring143 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 07:30 AM

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Thanks everyone.

Lucky for me she didnt say anything last night. I ignore 90% of her talking as it is. I didnt accept her-just left it up there and I changed my privacy settings-but means she already saw all my stuff.

She did make a rude comment about what dhs grandma said about us. I just bit my tongue and didnt say anything but dh got an ear full on the car ride home. how someone-a grandmother-could be so mean & hurtful.

NYYankeeGirl72 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 07:43 AM

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Laur, I would definitely add her put put major restrictions that she can't see any of your wall posts, pictures or status. If you need help let me know....coz I have done that to few friends that don't need to know all my business.

MrsDR2010 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 08:44 AM

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Posted by Spring143

Thanks everyone.

Lucky for me she didnt say anything last night. I ignore 90% of her talking as it is. I didnt accept her-just left it up there and I changed my privacy settings-but means she already saw all my stuff.

She did make a rude comment about what dhs grandma said about us. I just bit my tongue and didnt say anything but dh got an ear full on the car ride home. how someone-a grandmother-could be so mean & hurtful.

good!!! I wouldn't add her neither. You are so sweet. I don't see why anyone would dislike you.