NWR.. need to vent UPDATED at bottom

I am working two nights at a clinic in Hauppague (speech therapy) to help pay for wedding and mortgage expenses. The clients are severe to profoundly mentally retarded... They are a VERY challanging population. Tonight one guy headbutted me hard and sent the other side of my head flying into the corner of a door. Another girl sobbed hysterically throughout the session, and another guy freaked out, sceaming the whole time. I also am exhausted... I worked during the day, came home for an hour and went to the second job, hungry (haven't eaten since lunch..its 9:30) and just really down. I FH call on the way home and need him to just listen to my bad night stories... He cuts me off and says 'well youre in a bad mood so I'm gunna go'. Meanwhile he ignored everything I was telling him because he was on the computer playing war games.
I am working my butt off and getting physically attacked by my clients to help make some extra money (not possible for Fh to work extra bc he works from 9-6 in NYC..he's gone from 7:30-7:30) and he can't even listen to me complain about a horrific night.... I just don't get it.



He redeemed himself a little when I walked in the door in tears and he handed me the puppy put on tea water and went to Taco Bell for me

Sorry just needed to get that off my chest.

Maybe headbutt your FI and tell him it is his punishment for not putting his arms around you right away!

men are not the sharpest.. they do get it eventually. You should tell him to be more appreciative of you!

I am right there with you - I TOTALLY understand.

First, lemme preface this with the statement that my FI is a wonderful man, and every night I'm truly thankful that he is in my life.

Now the vent.... He is a total failure at knowing how to be 'there' for me in times of high stress.
For example, I'm currently getting my undergrad in Speech Path and this semester has been one huge stressor in my life. I have spent MANY nights in tears and have actually had some pretty wicked panic attacks. His idea of comforting me was to say 'you need to calm down' and go busy himself making dinner or start cleaning. At first I was hurt - HOW could he not stop what he was doing and just put his arms around me and COMFORT me?! *** - HELLOOOO, not so hard!

Well - I realized (after a long heart to heart w/Mom) that although he wasn't doing what I wanted him to do, he WAS doing other things to show me he cared (cooking, cleaning, grooming the cats-blech). He's not good with high emotion and situations that he can't outright 'fix.' So he busies himself doing other things that indirectly show me he DOES care.

It sounds like maybe your FI is the same way. By going to get you dinner and making you tea, he was doing the one thing he COULD control. Also, it may have freaked him out that you got assaulted and maybe he needed a few minutes to process it.

I know you are stressed about your job situation, but let me make you feel a little bit better..... I would trade with you in a second. You are so lucky to finally be out there working in the field. I'm still plugging away - PRAYING for graduate school acceptance (and that I don't go crazy from the stress).

Good luck to you- try not to be too upset with FI, it sounds like he really does love you.
Amy
PS - I hope you are feeling better!

You definately need a hug!!!!!

Sorry you had a bad day!!! I hate those kind of days...stay strong!!!!


I love your hud LadyPrincess!! Everyone needs one of those once in a while!!

ohh!!!

do you want me to headbutt your FI? I will. I am tough and he'll listen to me hun!

Maybe Frank can shoot some people up for you. He will. He is tough and he'll listen to me...well, he likes to shoot so that he'll do!

Can we go see Spanglish and Fockers?

yes yes we can.... I want to see both... but frank can't pack heat.

BTW... her fh is a cop... we're not crazy... we swear

Men can be soooo inconsiderate it's an epidemic.

What game? I've lost my FH to World of Warcraft... I call his computer his first wife because it seems to come first so often.

Today it is rise of nations.... For a few weeks it was PS2.. GTA

But updated.... i came today to FH cooking me ravoli, with a glass of wine poured and the table set all nice....He just left to go to the mall to buy me christmas presents....


THE SINK IS FULL THOUGH!!!

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