nwr: omg, moving in together! I'm freaking out here!

Original post by weddingbunny

Jan 03, 2007 05:25 PM

So, FH and I were planning on moving in together this coming summer, so we'd have just a few months to adjust before the wedding, but it wouldn't be all old and blah by the time the wedding rolled around in October.

However, more and more I've been itching to get a place. Right now we are both living with our respective parents, and honestly, it's just time!

Ha, as my mother says, I'm 'nesting.'

Well, today one of my coworkers says out of the blue 'oh, by the way, if you know anybody looking for an apartment, I'm renting my apartment.'

He has a basement apartment in his house. One bedroom, newly finished, and he's asking for 1000 a month, including cable and internet - AND he said okay to my pets.

It's a little bit of a longer commute for FH than he wanted... but still! And I think we can definitely get him to come down a little on the rent...

Anyway, I'm getting excited, but REALLY scared... what if FH and I can't handle living together? What if this is just a disaster? And this is the first time for both of us that we'll be living on our own (dorms in college don't count...) what if we mess it up financially or something? What if What if What if What if?

Ack!

of course it could all come to nothing - we could see the apartment this weekend and decide that it won't work, or the guy renting it could decide that we're not right for it, or FH could decide he doesn't want to do that long of a commute...

Ahh! I want to go see it NOW! But maybe it's bad to just rent out the first place you see because it's convenient... I don't know... I've never done this before!

Words of advice girls? What was it like when you and FH first moved in together? What is it like to rent an apartment, period, with or without your FH? Did you freak out like this the first time? Help!

EastEndBride Posted: Jan 03, 2007 08:36 PM

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i agree with all the pp's- enjoy the ride!
i also wanted to add that its so hard to find a nice apmt. that accepts pets, so if you like it then jump on it! it took us forever to find a decent place that would allow my dog.
go for it, you'll be glad you did!!!

I know, I'm SO worried about finding a pet-friendly place... actually, his craigslist add says no pets, but one of the nice things about rabbits is that people don't really think of them as 'pets' in the way they do cats and dogs - which is really irritating most of the time, but helpful with landlords! People think 'oh, just a little furry thing in a cage, that won't destroy the apartment or make any noise!' Which isn't entirely true... but close enough. They're well behaved, mostly quiet (unless they start thumping. Yup, like in Bambi. They actually do that! And it's LOUD!), and... well... the mess is only a problem if you have carpeting

I can't believe they 'thump' like Thumper! That is too cute.
Since they're caged, you could probably sneek them into most apmts anyways... but there was no hiding my dog!

Yup! It's a lot less funny and cute though when one of them decides to have a thumping fit in the middle of the night... there is NO WAY you are sleeping through one of those!
And I might be able to sneak them in... but I prefer to have things on the up and up. I snuck them into my dorm in college (it was apartment style housing), and it was actually kind of stressful at times trying to keep them hidden.

And yeah, it's so hard to find a place where you can have a dog! We were hoping to get one soon, but if we take this apartment, we'll probably just wait until after the wedding when we can use our wedding money for a down payment on a condo or even a house, and then get a dog once we're settled into somewhere.

honestly- if i could do it all over again I'd wait for my first house before getting a dog! I got her when I was living in my mother's house & had this crazy delusion that I would someday move out of her house straight into my first home!
yeah right! so i still love the dog, but having her in the apmt. can be a pain. i miss opening the back door & letting her run outside... now when she has to go out, so do I!

iBCraZ131 Posted: Jan 03, 2007 08:36 PM

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I have to say that I am completely in the same boat as you - almost. FH and I are house hunting right now and I've NEVER moved out of my house (I'm 25) no college dorm, no NOTHING!! I am so freaked out about the fact of moving away from home (even just a 20 minute or half hour drive) that it's making me crazy! I don't know how everything will work out. I mean we've been dating for 8 years so I'm just so afraid of moving in together. It scares the crap out of me!!! So I totally feel your anxiety!!!!

Marchbride07 Posted: Jan 03, 2007 10:44 PM

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My FH and I were in the same boat...we werent planning on moving out until afte rthe wedding...then my aunt told me her neighbor was renting out the first floor of her house...we came and saw it...and we fell in love...a little more expensive then we wanted to spend and horrible timing...but when we saw the place we just knew that it was home...we just made it work and it was definitely the right decision...we got to know each others habits and it won't be a surprise after the wedding...it's great! I highly recommend it!

HTH

mrsh2b Posted: Jan 03, 2007 10:54 PM

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I was very nervous about giving up my independence...I lived by myself for 4 years before I moved in with him. The adjustment wasn't bad at all...it was a very pleasant surprise.

A word of advice...men that live with their mommies until they move out are still little boys at heart. From the get-go, do NOT do anything for him that his mom would do...i.e. laundry, making lunch, etc. Make him learn to do these things on his own b/c otherwise he'll become dependent on you too. I'm not saying you should never do that stuff for him, but make him wait so he doesn't always expect it. I think it's important from the very beginning to establish the difference between living with mom and living with another woman. I made that mistake and it's so annoying sometimes.

Good luck! I'm sure it will all be great!