Posted by jonspenguin11552 BUT I WANT HIM TO HAVE STRIPPERS BC I DO NOT EVER WANT HIM TO REGRET IT. AS LONG AS THERE IS NO TOUCHING I AM GOOD...B/C U GIRLS KNOW SOME OF THOSE STRIPPERS THAT COME TO YOUR HOME CAN BE NASTY NASTY!!!
Not to be the bearer of Bad News, but it doesnt matter what kind of strippers you get (whether its at home, or at a strip club)... they get completely naked and rub themselves all over the guys. the guys arent allowed to touch them, but that doesnt stop them from putting their boobs and *** all over the guys. I dont know if the ones in the strip club do sexual stuff to each other, but the ones that get rented out for the private parties do all kind of sex acts w/ each other in front of the guys. (Yeah, i used to be completely Fine with the whole stripper thing, until i found out what the real deal was with it).... oh well, i guess we're supposed to be fine with it-- the whole 'trust' thing. haha i'm just going to have a crazy bachelorette party, and that will make me feel better
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Posted by mushsgrl What does bother me is when he flips through the channel and sees one, stops, and then starts tryign to touch me. It makes me feel weird knowing that him watching two other people has givin him the desire to go for me.
i totally agree!!!!!!!
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Gary likes it, but doesn't watch it that much. I mean, I would rather him watch that and be turned on and come over and do me, than go out and cheat. To me porn does not equate to cheating.And like I said, I don't have a problem with strippers either cause I know he isn't screwing them.
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I can't care, I worked at the Playboy offices for three years, brought him to all the parties and all the magazines home..he's not into it at all..actually for his 25th birthday I took him and his friends to Scores and bought him a lap dance, I hate the movies, they are disgusting, but it doesn't bother me at all if he watches it with me, which rarely happens since I don't like it, the magazines like Playboy don't bother me either, but the ones like Penthouse and others really scare me..but it doesn't annoy me if I'm watching it with him
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It really dosen't bother me. At firsst it did but now I just like he is home by himself or with me & watching it. I don't think it's cheating at all. I would rather him watch porn then go to a strip club & waste his money on a girl. Sometimes it's fun to watch. Although I only do when I am really drunk. They sometimes give you new ideas.
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to order from directtv its like $15 a movie.... i remember being like 'and you complain about $$$ !'
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I would get mad if he was spending $15 on a movie but he owns his & he had before we met so I can't complain But it is definately a waste of money. I really don't get it. I have to be drunk
I dont mind one bit. And our rule with strippers is, he can go but he cant spend more than $20. I know he isnt going to do anything with the dancers so what's big deal? But $20 is a good limit b/c no lap dances in private or too many drinks, etc.
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Why not? As long as we don't suffer then i'm fine with it.
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Posted by diamondgrlie
I dont mind one bit. And our rule with strippers is, he can go but he cant spend more than $20. I know he isnt going to do anything with the dancers so what's big deal? But $20 is a good limit b/c no lap dances in private or too many drinks, etc.
i love that rule!! it seems like a good compromise to me (plus, then i KNow he'd rather spend it on beers, not broads)
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I like the $20 rule too! I can't see spending so much money on a naked girl when I'll do it for him for free
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Posted by Anti-Bride
Porn is cool.....we watch it together or seperately...doesnt matter cause he always crawls up to me to get some after he watches it
Same with me
I also dont like strippers or strip clubs...i want to trust him when he goes to his friend BP but Hes never been to a Strip club so i dont know how hell react
I agree with this. The only thing that would bother me is strip clubs where the women can actually talk to him and touch him.
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I have no problem w/ porn, seperate or together for him or me for that matter. He usually watches my porn anyway. The strippers, well I cant see him waisting $$$ that could be used on the wedding at a stripper. But I wouldnt tell him he couldnt go. As far as his B-party I said no problem to strip clubs BUT ABSOLUTLY NOOOOO in house or hotel strippers. If there isnt a bouncer at the door than FH cant go! Ive heard too many stories from his single friends.
And I hate to say it but even if you dont allow your FH to watch or own porn they still do. They just hide it better. Its natural for them to take care of themselves and to watch porn.
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Posted by litlone555 And I hate to say it but even if you dont allow your FH to watch or own porn they still do. They just hide it better. Its natural for themo ta tke care of themselves and to watch porn.
true
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not necassarily ... he DID, but he doesnt anymore. I cant expalin it, but im with him 24.7 and if he IS here by himself i have my ways of checking... i just hope it lasts! if he truly loves and cares about you he should respect your feelings, it wont kill him to NOT jerk off..... but if he MUST he should be able to watch it WITH you.
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Posted by lolita4life
not necassarily ... he DID, but he doesnt anymore. I cant expalin it, but im with him 24.7 and if he IS here by himself i have my ways of checking...
My best friend used to be like that. Until she DID find porn magazines and totally flipped. It was almost the end o their relationship. Then they went to marraige counseling and she realized the reason she hated porn so much, and why many women do, is they they think it's a reflection of themselves, that they are not good enough. So she decided to have a little more self-esteem and not worry so much. Now, he watches his porn, by himself or with her and there are no problems.
it wont kill him to NOT jerk off
To me, that sounds like you have a problem with him masturbating, not watching porn. Well masturbation can take place at anytime, anywhere, even without porn.
Honestly, I think stiffling a man's sexual urges like not allowing porn is dangerous. And I believe it will cause bigger problems in the future, such as cheating. If he has no secondary outlet (primary outlet being just sex with you) for his sexual energy, then what do you expect to do with it?
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i should have specified while watching it! id MUCH prefer he did it while NOT looking at that stuff!
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mine doesn't watch.. so... don't have to think about it.
I think it would disturb me just know that he wants to...
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what do you mean ? 'DO YOU ALLOW IT ?' What kind of question is that ?? You can say no no no until you're blue in the face, how do you know he doesn't have it stashed away somewhere ??? Whatever, boys are boys. - I don't really care to be honest. And who am I to tell him what he's 'allowed' to have in his DVD player ??? Isn't that kind of presumtious and controlling ? I wouldn't want him telling me I wasn't 'allowed' to do something........
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Go Marisa!!!! I would not allow my FH to tell me what I'm not allowed or allowed to do, and in turn I wouldn't do that to him!!!!
