I will try & make this brief- but I need to get this off my chest so I can see how stupid it is & move on- & feel free to tell me its dumb.
So its my best friend's birthday next monday and her birthday and also one of her close friends, we'll call her Sara. I happen to hate Sara- long story but we were friends and she bounced me a check and then acted like a boitch about it and didnt pay me what she originally owed me or fees.
Anyhow, since my best friend- also my bm- and Sara's birthdays are a couple days apart so they decided to do something jointly and decided on dinner.
I really really dont want to go and have been trying to think of an excuse to get out of it all day.
DeeluvsVinny
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I don't think it's dumb. Does your Bm know how you feel about sara? tell her the truth and see how she feel about it..maybe you can take your friend out separately, just the two of you?
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I am completely with you and both FH & I have been through it.
Call your friend & explain to her that you'd love to make it on Monday, but you can't - make up a reason. Tell her you'd like to do something special with just she & you and that you'd like to do it when she's available. Make it a friends day, something like that. Go do a spa day, do a mani/pedi...something like that...make it an intimate thing...so she gets it...
futuremrsfab
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Posted by DeeluvsVinny
I don't think it's dumb. Does your Bm know how you feel about sara? tell her the truth and see how she feel about it..maybe you can take your friend out separately, just the two of you?
yea she knows and she would probably never forgive me if I didnt go. & I might add when everything all went down- she never said anything to Sara about what Sara did to me, which at the time really ticked me off.
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Posted by DeeluvsVinny
I don't think it's dumb. Does your Bm know how you feel about sara? tell her the truth and see how she feel about it..maybe you can take your friend out separately, just the two of you?
yea she knows and she would probably never forgive me if I didnt go. & I might add when everything all went down- she never said anything to Sara about what Sara did to me, which at the time really ticked me off.
in that case just go and dont even pay attention to that other girl, focus on your friend and others that you like at the party and thats it. Just be there for your friend and dont worry about the rest
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I think it's one night and you should go for your friend, if that's what will make her happy. it is her bday. JMO
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I understand how you feel completley but I think you should just suck it up and go. You are going to be ther for your friend not for 'sara'. It's one night and in the grand scheme of things one night is nothing. Your friend will appreciate the effor you made for her.
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I would just make an excuse, like you have to work late, or you have to go help your parents or something and then make a day for just the two of you.
Espo22
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If your bm and sarah are friends then its possible that you will cross paths with sarah again in your life bc of this and you can't just run away each time so just face it and go out and do your own thing, dont let her effect your life and make you miss your friends birthday...obviously a friend you thought was special enough to be your BM and lets not forget all the things BMs are doing for us, so it would be a nice gesture to show up for her birthday. And show sarah that she doesn't effect your life
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Posted by Espo22
If your bm and sarah are friends then its possible that you will cross paths with sarah again in your life bc of this and you can't just run away each time so just face it and go out and do your own thing, dont let her effect your life and make you miss your friends birthday...obviously a friend you thought was special enough to be your BM and lets not forget all the things BMs are doing for us, so it would be a nice gesture to show up for her birthday. And show sarah that she doesn't effect your life
thanks thats a really good point & you're right i dont want sara to think she is more important than she is!
thanks
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If your bm and sarah are friends then its possible that you will cross paths with sarah again in your life bc of this and you can't just run away each time so just face it and go out and do your own thing, dont let her effect your life and make you miss your friends birthday...obviously a friend you thought was special enough to be your BM and lets not forget all the things BMs are doing for us, so it would be a nice gesture to show up for her birthday. And show sarah that she doesn't effect your life
thanks thats a really good point & you're right i dont want sara to think she is more important than she is!
thanks
yeah dont give her that much power, its really not worth it and if anything she should be the one who doesn't show up bc she is the one who is wrong and should be ashamed of her actions.
