nwr: what do you do about gifts you don't like? (with poll)
I'm just really curious... with gifts it's definitely the thought that counts, and I always appreciate any time somebody puts thought and effort into buying a gift for me, I really do.
However, at the end of the holidays, while I definitely get some wonderful gifts, I am always left with a stack of stuff that I don't like or want and will never use. and I already have so much stuff that I really hate having the extra clutter. And I never know what to do about it.
It's especially complicated when it's gifts from people like my FH's family, who I really don't want to offend, and I want to show my appreciation by using their gifts, wearing jewelry they give me, etc, but they really just DON'T get my tastes! I so appreciate that they try, but much of what they've given me is so opposite to anything I would ever pick out for myself.
And then there are other things... for example, this year between my birthday (which is earlier in December) and the holidays, I have acquired not one but THREE necklaces with purple beads/stones/etc on them. The problem? I hardly ever wear purple! I own maybe 2 or 3 purple shirts, only one of which has a neckline I can wear a necklace with, and I hardly ever wear that shirt!
So, I am left with a problem. I can just hang onto them and let them gather dust. or... One of the purple necklaces I can exchange for something I like better, because I know where it came from and I have the gift reciept. I could sell some of the other stuff on ebay (some of it is really nice quality stuff, it's just things I would absolutely never wear by choice)... but I always feel bad getting rid of gifts. Usually what happens is I hang onto it for a year or so, get tired of having it taking up space, and then either give it away (to Goodwill, etc), or list it on ebay (if it's worth a decent amount). But... there's just so much this year, and I've really been trying to minimize the clutter. And I hate the idea of stuff hanging around that I don't use, I'd much rather it go to somebody who will love it and use it well.
I don't want to sound snobby or unappreciative - I really do appreciate the thought behind gifts, I just don't want my life all cluttered up with all this extra stuff I'll never use. I'd rather let somebody else have it and use it and enjoy it... and I figure with nice stuff, why not ebay it and make a few extra dollars to put in my savings for the house down payment fund?
ug, anyway. I always end up writing a novel when I post, sorry about that. I was just curious what you all do about things like this, and I got carried away with my story.
so, back to you. Do you guys ever have this problem?
However, at the end of the holidays, while I definitely get some wonderful gifts, I am always left with a stack of stuff that I don't like or want and will never use. and I already have so much stuff that I really hate having the extra clutter. And I never know what to do about it.
It's especially complicated when it's gifts from people like my FH's family, who I really don't want to offend, and I want to show my appreciation by using their gifts, wearing jewelry they give me, etc, but they really just DON'T get my tastes! I so appreciate that they try, but much of what they've given me is so opposite to anything I would ever pick out for myself.
And then there are other things... for example, this year between my birthday (which is earlier in December) and the holidays, I have acquired not one but THREE necklaces with purple beads/stones/etc on them. The problem? I hardly ever wear purple! I own maybe 2 or 3 purple shirts, only one of which has a neckline I can wear a necklace with, and I hardly ever wear that shirt!
So, I am left with a problem. I can just hang onto them and let them gather dust. or... One of the purple necklaces I can exchange for something I like better, because I know where it came from and I have the gift reciept. I could sell some of the other stuff on ebay (some of it is really nice quality stuff, it's just things I would absolutely never wear by choice)... but I always feel bad getting rid of gifts. Usually what happens is I hang onto it for a year or so, get tired of having it taking up space, and then either give it away (to Goodwill, etc), or list it on ebay (if it's worth a decent amount). But... there's just so much this year, and I've really been trying to minimize the clutter. And I hate the idea of stuff hanging around that I don't use, I'd much rather it go to somebody who will love it and use it well.
I don't want to sound snobby or unappreciative - I really do appreciate the thought behind gifts, I just don't want my life all cluttered up with all this extra stuff I'll never use. I'd rather let somebody else have it and use it and enjoy it... and I figure with nice stuff, why not ebay it and make a few extra dollars to put in my savings for the house down payment fund?
ug, anyway. I always end up writing a novel when I post, sorry about that. I was just curious what you all do about things like this, and I got carried away with my story.
so, back to you. Do you guys ever have this problem?
