What would you do if everytime your FFIL went away he expected your FH to leave you alone and go stay with his mother.
It happens every time and it just really bothers me that he feels it is ok to leave me alone so FH can stay at their house so his mom is not alone.
It's not like I am afraid to be alone... I guess I just don't like the fact that they feel I should come second to everyone else. Am I out of line?
xosweetiexo
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No, I would be annoyed too. But how old is his mother and does she need assistance with anything? Its one thing to just check in on her and see how she is..... but its another to leave you everytime and go stay with his mother....
geegee827
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Unless she needed some kind of special assistance, I would not be happy at all.
When you get married, you and your spouse are supposed to create your own family unit. You obviously can't forget your parents and siblings, but your first obligation is to your spouse.
MrsBlueRibbon
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Does FH Mother have some kind of medical issue where she cannot be left alone and there is no one else available to take care of her? If that is not the case, and nothing is wrong with her, then no way in he** would I be okay with that! If this bothers you, you need to talk to FH about this now and tell him that you do not feel this is appropriate. When you guys are married and have kids, is he still going to leave you to go stay with his mother? I hope you work this out!
ChrissyV729
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No... she is in perfect health. She is only 55. He just doesn't want her to be left alone.
I totally agree when you get married that person becomes priority. That is why I am so pissed.
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I am surely anticipating this situation to arise myself. I would find a boyfriend to stay with you for those nights.
Just kidding.
But I certainly understand your annoyance and frustration and the feeling that you will always be woman #2.
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Posted by geegee827
Unless she needed some kind of special assistance, I would not be happy at all.
When you get married, you and your spouse are supposed to create your own family unit. You obviously can't forget your parents and siblings, but your first obligation is to your spouse.
took the words outta my mouth
ahh all gina's think alike
geegee827
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Posted by gina409
Posted by geegee827
Unless she needed some kind of special assistance, I would not be happy at all.
When you get married, you and your spouse are supposed to create your own family unit. You obviously can't forget your parents and siblings, but your first obligation is to your spouse.
took the words outta my mouth
ahh all gina's think alike
FutureMrsG
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Posted by geegee827
Posted by gina409
Posted by geegee827
Unless she needed some kind of special assistance, I would not be happy at all.
When you get married, you and your spouse are supposed to create your own family unit. You obviously can't forget your parents and siblings, but your first obligation is to your spouse.
took the words outta my mouth
ahh all gina's think alike
I totally agree.
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The only thing I would say if she is older and NEEDS help, rather than the FFIL just EXPECTING it.
