nwr - what to do

Original post by kimmaymb20

Jun 23, 2010 02:27 PM

ok so this is long but here goes I need to vent.

almost 2 weeks ago someone who I was friends with at work started to make some jokes on my FB status about me trying to run to excersie so they took it as an ok to start posting lines from the office. I got offended I wrote a status that said ' I wonder if you are my friend just to keep me around as a joke' What they wrote I took offense to sorry but I want someone to encourage me to do things then to put me down. So last friday her friend and her were making comments regarding about me getting offended on FB like i couldnt read the stupid things.

So I wrote an email to her and asked what happened to our friendship. She said some things that were extremly cruel. One thing she wrote was ' There was a discussion about having an intervention for your weight gain' do you think this was approriate and do you think its a form of harassement. She also went to say 'people' no names say im nasty and they only reason she was friends with me was because she didnt work directly with me. But.after she wrote this email I was at my desk crying for over an hour.

Ever since she said this I dont want to move from my desk I feel that everyone talks about me behind my back The thing that ***** is my bosses are on vacation till Monday. I kind of told my boss when she called Monday that something happened and I want to talk to her when she gets back. Do you think I should tell my boss? I feel completly uncomfotable at work now.

IF you read ths thanks.

JessNicole7EM Posted: Jun 23, 2010 06:07 PM

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Tell your boss. period. Don't even think twice about it.

Kim, honestly no one should EVER make you feel like that. Especially in the place you work.

I wouldn't even hesitate to tell.

kimmaymb20 Posted: Jun 23, 2010 07:04 PM

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I deleted them from FB on Friday and deleted 2 that I forgot today. Im done who are you to judge me when you are not so thin yourself.

Thanks girls so much I dont know what I would do with out my LIW girls

Im getting Married Posted: Jun 23, 2010 09:07 PM

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Wow..what wenches..Want me to kick their b utts?

Never let anyone put you down..they obviously have low self esteem to pick on someone else. I know it's hard but try to let it roll off your back you do not need the negativity

allornil Posted: Jun 23, 2010 09:30 PM

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I'm still mad btw!

harts2976 Posted: Jun 23, 2010 09:37 PM

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They have no right to say anything about you. If you are trying to lose weight good for you!! They should be supportive!!!!!! You don't need to listen to them. (easier said than done i know) Do what you feel is best. This is ridiculous!!! A intervention?? Thats just caddy S*H*I*T that girls are trying to do because they are closer this month or something. Tell them to go back to highschool.. Dont pay them any mind!!!!!!!! And if you need someone to kick there A*S*S let me know! I just got cute boxing gloves!

LaBellaVita622 Posted: Jun 23, 2010 10:16 PM

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ew Kimmy that is so rude! she's probably jealous that you are happy and getting married and her life *****!! She'll get hers..what goes around comes around and Karma is a *****!!..Depending on how close you are with your boss and if she will say anythin gI think you can let her know..why should you be uncomfortable every single day. I am so sorry you had to go through this, but they don't even sound worthy of your tears..

rendel Posted: Jun 23, 2010 11:12 PM

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honestly it makes me sick to my stomach that grown people act this way!!!!!! I am so sorry that they intentionally hurt your feelings like that, what kind of person is this woman? I wish that you weren't upset and I wish that cruel people could all be banished to a remote island some where. If you can confide in your boss and you are sure that something will be done about this childish behavior, I say go for it. If you need anything, we are all here for you!!!!!!

angelatp Posted: Jun 23, 2010 11:25 PM

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first defriend her a ss .... where the heck does she getting saying somthing like that? um the green eye monster rears it's ugly head. .... she needs a good whooping

cmwals01 Posted: Jun 24, 2010 01:29 AM

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W*tf is her issue.

First your weight has nothing to do with her. If she feels it does then throw her a couple bucks and tell her to find a hobby.
Second I really hope you b*itch her out, I know its upsetting and I've gone through my own trials and tribulations regarding people and my weight but s*crew that ho don't let her see that she upset you put her in her place. Some people you need to be nice too but some others need to see your b*itch side. (I would not do this at work, but maybe decide on a happy hour and ambush)
Third I wouldn't go to my boss since it started on facebook, I would however document this and if her b*itcha*ssness continues slam her with a hostile work environment complaint and have her a*ss fired.

A weight intervention get the duck outta here tell her to friggin' kiss your arse, matter of fact tell her to kiss your fat a*ss. People like that friggin' piss me off. H*ell I'll tell her off for you.

Tromsugar2b Posted: Jun 24, 2010 02:15 AM

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wow....idk thats kind of rough, i don't know if your boss is someone you feel you can confide in then talk to her, but theres a chance she may think your involved in petty BS if you bring it up as well, depending on her personality, I understand harassment is a serious issue at work, but considering women talk about each other constantly she may just look at it as you making a big deal out of nothing. You are right to feel how you feel but it really depends on how well you know/comfortable you are with your boss. Also since you were friends with her, it sounds like out of work, you should try to just keep it between you, but tell her to mind her own damn business and if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all!! Good luck, sorry women can be such b it ches!!