nwr - what to do

ok so this is long but here goes I need to vent.

almost 2 weeks ago someone who I was friends with at work started to make some jokes on my FB status about me trying to run to excersie so they took it as an ok to start posting lines from the office. I got offended I wrote a status that said ' I wonder if you are my friend just to keep me around as a joke' What they wrote I took offense to sorry but I want someone to encourage me to do things then to put me down. So last friday her friend and her were making comments regarding about me getting offended on FB like i couldnt read the stupid things.

So I wrote an email to her and asked what happened to our friendship. She said some things that were extremly cruel. One thing she wrote was ' There was a discussion about having an intervention for your weight gain' do you think this was approriate and do you think its a form of harassement. She also went to say 'people' no names say im nasty and they only reason she was friends with me was because she didnt work directly with me. But.after she wrote this email I was at my desk crying for over an hour.

Ever since she said this I dont want to move from my desk I feel that everyone talks about me behind my back The thing that ***** is my bosses are on vacation till Monday. I kind of told my boss when she called Monday that something happened and I want to talk to her when she gets back. Do you think I should tell my boss? I feel completly uncomfotable at work now.

IF you read ths thanks.

w t f, completely foul. That is really immature and unnecesary!

The boss can't really do much about the facebook since it's out of the workplace but if they harass you at work, def report it. This isn't f'in H.S so if somebody doesn't like somebody, you just s uck it up and smile and act professionally. what a concept

I would first try to resolve this without getting your boss involved. Maybe I'm cynical, but I don't think they like to get involved in office drama unless it's stuff like sexual harassment, racism etc.

If she continues however, save every email, text, comment, etc for documenting purposes. Make sure you are COMPLETELY professional when you speak with your boss and just list the facts and how it's making the workplace very uncomfortable for you. It's only the boss's business if your work is being effected.

I hope this ends with the email. Just keep your chin up and don't let it get you down too much. At the end of the day, you get to leave this place and go home to you FH.

i can't believe someone could be so cruel. anney is right, they are acting completely immaturely and (since they are coworkers) unprofessionally.

i also agree that since the comments were made on FB, it's hard to bring those to your boss. if they start taunting or harassing you at work i would definitely bring it to your boss' attention. you're there to do a job- you should never be made to feel uncomfortable for physical traits.

i seriously can't believe this girl emailed you back and said those horrible things. i would think that your email asking what happened to your friendship would make her feel bad, but it seems like it did the opposite.

keep your head up, karma's a bit ch and it'll come back to bite her in the a ss!

omg... what is wrong with her... is she 13... kick that stupid bitcch in her face...


i think you should definitely say something to your boss...

Seriously - people have lost all class. Work is for work - keep it at that. And if they are at work maybe they should try doing some instead of this f'n sh*t.

I wouldn't bring it up to your boss - i would keep records of things and just go about your business.

They are winning by you just sitting there and letting it get to you. You are the better person so make them shut their f'n pie holes by showing them their petty comments mean nothing to you.

are you frigging kidding? I wanna kick the shite outta her now.

how dare she say anything like that?

she's obviously a miserable biatch!

dont feel like everyone is saying stuff about you. the mean miserable biatches tend to stick together.

I'd wait to say anything to your boss although that weight comment is bullsh*t.

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Posted by WeezyGirl2354

Seriously - people have lost all class. Work is for work - keep it at that. And if they are at work maybe they should try doing some instead of this f'n sh*t.

I wouldn't bring it up to your boss - i would keep records of things and just go about your business.

They are winning by you just sitting there and letting it get to you. You are the better person so make them shut their f'n pie holes by showing them their petty comments mean nothing to you.

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I definitely agree with all of this especially about keeping a record of everything that is being said/posted about you in case things get really out of hand and then you can confront your boss about it.

I'm really sorry you are being put through this! It's extremely hard to have something like this happen at work when you have to see these people on a daily basis.

it's sad to know that people have no filter and can be so outright rude and cruel.

i dont like everyone i work with, but i smile and play nice and would NEVER say anything to them to make them feel bad. I'm civil ....i have a heart!

this woman, obviously feels it's ok to degrade and belittle people.

If she is saying 'people' at the office are saying things, then yes I would go to my boss.

it's harassment and it's discrimination -
how dare she.... she has no heart....shame on her

at the very least she should be reprimanded and warned that if she is found 'bullying' you, or getting a band wagon together to bully you, she will be let go.

hugs honey, so sorry this is going on

dude I'm so mad I'm posting again. I think we should schedule a LIW intervention and kick her trifling azz!

yeah see how mad I am? I said dude. you havta really get me going for that to come out of my mouth!

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Posted by allornil

dude I'm so mad I'm posting again. I think we should schedule a LIW intervention and kick her trifling azz!

yeah see how mad I am? I said dude. you havta really get me going for that to come out of my mouth!

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im with you, let wear black and go ninja on her @$$

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Posted by smilesjc81

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Posted by allornil

dude I'm so mad I'm posting again. I think we should schedule a LIW intervention and kick her trifling azz!

yeah see how mad I am? I said dude. you havta really get me going for that to come out of my mouth!

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im with you, let wear black and go ninja on her @$$

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I have a mean roundhouse kick.

seriously though, you are better than them!!! work hard, make that cash, and marry the man of your dreams. They can't take any of that from you.

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

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Posted by smilesjc81

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Posted by allornil

dude I'm so mad I'm posting again. I think we should schedule a LIW intervention and kick her trifling azz!

yeah see how mad I am? I said dude. you havta really get me going for that to come out of my mouth!

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im with you, let wear black and go ninja on her @$$

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I have a mean roundhouse kick.

seriously though, you are better than them!!! work hard, make that cash, and marry the man of your dreams. They can't take any of that from you.

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i can't afford to go to jail for assault, but in this case my FH may have to understand.... lol ... however I agree.
hold your head up high!! your beautiful and your getting married. they can go F themselves!!

First and foremost, I would definitely delete them from FB...you dont need to give them more 'fuel' for their lame azz fire!!!

If you feel comfortable approaching your superiors about this, then do it. Then in the case that they do something again, at least its been documented before.

I'm not really sure why people are like but its mostly women.....thats why I have mostly guy friends. Girls are such bi tch es....except all the LIW girls of course!!!! Keep your head held high that you are trying to better yourself and these bi tches aren't!!!

You know at the end of the day you are doing the right thing for yourself and thats all that matters.....and we all have your back!!

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Posted by smilesjc81

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

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Posted by smilesjc81

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Posted by allornil

dude I'm so mad I'm posting again. I think we should schedule a LIW intervention and kick her trifling azz!

yeah see how mad I am? I said dude. you havta really get me going for that to come out of my mouth!

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im with you, let wear black and go ninja on her @$$

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I have a mean roundhouse kick.

seriously though, you are better than them!!! work hard, make that cash, and marry the man of your dreams. They can't take any of that from you.

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i can't afford to go to jail for assault, but in this case my FH may have to understand.... lol ... however I agree.
hold your head up high!! your beautiful and your getting married. they can go F themselves!!

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we're gonna wear black. no one's gonna see us!

Thanks girls. I know I can alway rely on my liw girls.

Ps let's just say people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones-- she looks 10 months preggers

This is rediculous!!! You mean to tell me this girl is in her 30s and saying this sh*t?? F*ck her! She's obviously a miserable b*tch who isn't happy with her own life so she is trying to bring others down with her!! You're happy, beautiful and in love! If you put on a few pounds who cares??? And you're obviously working your as* off to get back in shape so she has absolutely no right to say ANYTHING to you!!! This girl is obviously not your friend and I would delete her from FB immediatly.

As for work, hold your head high and let everyone know how happy you are!!!! Don't stop talking about your exercise routine or your wedding - just keep going on like nothing ever happened. This dumbas* is trying to bring you down for no reason and the best way to get back at her is to smile and go about your business!

Was the e-mail sent on a work account or during office hours? If it was then I would let your boss know what's going on. You could tell her that you don't really expect her to get involved but that you wanted to bring it to her attention because it is completely immature and unprofessional and if it continues it could be considered harassment.

Sorry this is happening to you And sorry this is sooo long but it really upset me that you are going through this!!!

PS- I'm totally down for a LIW intervention with this chick!!

I agree with Kedra, delete them from FB, no need to keep people who are not really interested in your well being around.
However, i would not go to my boss and tell them that someone told you that 'Some' people wanted to plan an intervention about your weight gain. I agree, that what they said was mean and hurtful and should nto have been said in the first place, but it does not affect your work performance. I would document anything else that is said to you, not via FB, and if the atmosphere gets unbearable, then show the proof to your boss.