NWR -What would you do?

So my FH has been thinking about going away to school for the last two years on and off, and finally he has decided for real that he is going back. Only thing is, the school is either in Phoenix or Myrtle Beach and he would leave 2 months after our wedding... I definitely want him to go and I'm really encouraging it, but the question is - what do I do? He will be gone for 16 months, I want to stay here and go back to school (I only need 3 more classes or so to get certiifed to teach) and I Have to support both of us, since he can't have a job, so I think I should stay at my decent paying job for a while, but I just feel bad that I'm not going with him... So frustrated

16 months is a long time to be with out each other. You are just getting married and he is leaving 2 months after. You wont even now what it feels like to me married. 16 months is to long!!!!!!! The only option I would give is one of you need to compromise. Either he goes to a school closer to here, or you move with him, and go back to school at a later date. Or go to school where you will live. Who knows, maybe you will get a teaching job where ever you live and you will wind up staying their. LI is getting very expensive to live.

You need to come up with some plan, because 16 months is to long to be with out each other. That is not a healthy marriage, it is going to cause alot of strain on the both of you.

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Posted by IslandPrincess

I want to be certified to teach in NY, so I can't, but, he's going to a school that only has golf related majors. He's not gonna stay in either of those states either and every year for the past three years, I have moved around for him and it's kinda frustrating to get used to one school job and than quit after a year. I'm just so frustrated, b/c I feel bad for not wanting to go with him! As hard as the distance will be, he wants me to stay here and finish up my stuff to better myself, so I guess we'll see. Thanks for listening!

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Do what ever you are comfortable with. In my opinion maybe you should hold off on the marriage then, because 16 months is to long. I hope I don't offened you, I didn't mean it in a bad way.

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Posted by AlliNMatt06

16 months is a long time to be with out each other. You are just getting married and he is leaving 2 months after. You wont even now what it feels like to me married. 16 months is to long!!!!!!! The only option I would give is one of you need to compromise. Either he goes to a school closer to here, or you move with him, and go back to school at a later date. Or go to school where you will live. Who knows, maybe you will get a teaching job where ever you live and you will wind up staying their. LI is getting very expensive to live.

You need to come up with some plan, because 16 months is to long to be with out each other. That is not a healthy marriage, it is going to cause alot of strain on the both of you.

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The only good thing outta this is that he will be in between semesters from mid April to mid May and he can come home, and than my athletic training job ends at the end of May, so I'll have three months, where I can go be with him wherever he is... SO many decisions to make!

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Posted by IslandPrincess

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Posted by AlliNMatt06

16 months is a long time to be with out each other. You are just getting married and he is leaving 2 months after. You wont even now what it feels like to me married. 16 months is to long!!!!!!! The only option I would give is one of you need to compromise. Either he goes to a school closer to here, or you move with him, and go back to school at a later date. Or go to school where you will live. Who knows, maybe you will get a teaching job where ever you live and you will wind up staying their. LI is getting very expensive to live.

You need to come up with some plan, because 16 months is to long to be with out each other. That is not a healthy marriage, it is going to cause alot of strain on the both of you.

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The only good thing outta this is that he will be in between semesters from mid April to mid May and he can come home, and than my athletic training job ends at the end of May, so I'll have three months, where I can go be with him wherever he is... SO many decisions to make!

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Good Luck with what every you guys decide!! I am sure everything will work out!

Hi,
I don't think he should do it. He should pick a major/field in which he can take classes locally at night, and work during the day. This sounds like a huge burden for you, and could cause problems in your marriage.