Im sorry to be posting this on here, its personal and I did a few months ago. My dad has been an alcoholic for over 20 years...he was clean for about 5 and then started recently drinking again. My mom is a saint and I dont know how she deals with it. She just called me upset a little while ago...so yesterday she went out to lunch with some of her friends from work to catch up on things ( she works in a school so shes off the summer ). When she got home of course my dad started with her and blah blah.. So today he comes home from work ( at 12 noon ) def. had a few drinks. She was on the phone w/ her friend from yesterday and he proceeds to call her names and say shes a lesbian and stuff like that. ( nice right? ) Im at the point where if he doesnt go and get help I dont want him at my wedding, but of course..hes not the one with the problem! Sorry I need to get it out. My mom is the best mom ever and she doesnt deserve it. I dont know how she can deal anymore
babsbeark
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So sorry to hear all this i will say a prayer for your family to get through this
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pjankowski
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Wow, sorry to hear this. hope everything works out for you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Posted by Kerri Lynn
Im sorry to be posting this on here, its personal and I did a few months ago. My dad has been an alcoholic for over 20 years...he was clean for about 5 and then started recently drinking again. My mom is a saint and I dont know how she deals with it. She just called me upset a little while ago...so yesterday she went out to lunch with some of her friends from work to catch up on things ( she works in a school so shes off the summer ). When she got home of course my dad started with her and blah blah.. So today he comes home from work ( at 12 noon ) def. had a few drinks. She was on the phone w/ her friend from yesterday and he proceeds to call her names and say shes a lesbian and stuff like that. ( nice right? ) Im at the point where if he doesnt go and get help I dont want him at my wedding, but of course..hes not the one with the problem! Sorry I need to get it out. My mom is the best mom ever and she doesnt deserve it. I dont know how she can deal anymore
That is such a terrible situation... FH's mom is an alcoholic.. which is pretty much the reason she is completely alone right now... divorced and she no longer has custody of her 13 year old...
Im very sorry that your mom is in that situation, there is never an easy solution for it...
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thats rough. feel bad for ur mom and u
what made him go back to drinking? did u guys try to get him see how he is upsetting the family and to go get help?
FM me if u want to talk
Nichole2010
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im sorry i dont really have advice, but i hope everything works out.
Sandradv121
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Oh sweetie that is such a real test of strength. Maybe your family needs to stage an intervention with him, and let him know, as group, that he has a problem and encourage him to get help. This must be hard for you and we are really here to listen. My prayers go out to you and ur family....
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meganbrandon
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wow, i'm so sorry! That can't be very fun to deal with! I hope you are doing ok!!
Kerri Lynn
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About 5 years ago, the only reason he stopped drinking was b/c he had to have quadruple bypass which was caused from the alcohol and then about 2 years after taht he had colon cancer..again caused by the alcohol..you would think after almost dying twice it would wake him up. The drinking for him is hereditary. His mom, dad and sister were all alcoholics....which is why i really stopped drinking since its in the blood. I try to talk to him and help but he doesnt want to hear it. I have lost all hope for him
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I am so sorry
mrsdraskin2009
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he gets help and for you
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GiannisWifey
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Wow im so sorry to hear this!! I feel horrible for you and your mom....
Did you guys ever think of sitting him down and really opening up and telling him how you guys feel? Did you ever ask him if the way he treats your mom is the way he would want your FH to treat you??? Maybe reversing the tables and putting it into that perspective might help? Ask him how he would feel if your mom got fed up and left him and he was all by himself??
I really feel horrible and I hope everything works out for everyone's sake!
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Soon2bMrsH
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ever think about setting up and intervention??? and getting him some serious help????
GR2010
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This is terrible. I am so sorry your family is going through this. I don't blame you for not wanting him at your wedding. I would be the same way.
Does he have an EAP program through his job. Can you get the info and maybe see if there is anything you can do?
Future Mrs H
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Oh Kerri- I am so sorry sweetie. If you want to talk FM me. I know whats its like to live with an alcholic.
Kerri Lynn
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he has been upstate to rehab twice and it worked but not for long. Weve tried so much , just about everything . He just doesnt care. I just dont know how my mom can be so strong. I would never be able to do it.
