NWR...vent..oh boy...mom....

so mom and i are not the closest.... we dont' really talk often and we have always bumped heads and disagree on EVERYTHING!
for our eparty, she bought favors which I did not end up using ( i really did not like them and she only bought half of them) I did not tell her I didnt like them, and we just ended up not ever using them.
She has been very very weird since, she's not talking to me, she's very distant, and very moody when I ask her anything. I asked my dad to help us talk..
well tonight, we talked and the whole time i just cried (i'm a huge cry baby w/my parents...) I told my mom she does not care about me or FH, she never calls ( i call all the time, she nvr calls me back), she doesnt seem interested in us, she hasnt even asked how our new apt is...

she flipped out and told me i was ridiculous and a drama queen and why did i expect attention if i was already an adult... she blamed me of being jealous of my younger sister (she's 17)...She told me that I was insensitive to her ideas (wedding) and pointed out the eparty favors (which I apologized for)

I think the talk made matters worse...

I wish I had a mom that I could talk to, share and do girly things with... We were never like that, and IDK, I guess I thought that might change..

anyway girls...sorry for the long vent...i'm very upset...FH thinks i'm way too sensitive and 'sweat' my mother too much...

I guess I should accept it and just accept her for who she is... I hope we become closer friends when i have kids.

first of all, FH is wrong about you being too sensitive.. obviously, he doenst have to deal with that..

i dont have much advice but

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Posted by marinai7

Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe she'll think about your talk and calm down. Hopefully it works out. I know it ***** not having a mom to talk to - I haven't seen mine since the 5th grade. At least Fmil is awesome and I can talk to her. Do you feel like you can talk to you Fmil maybe?

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fmil is great..i could def talk to her and do things w/her.

i think she might have been hurt about the eparty favors and just got really defensive, and maybe she does realize that shes not that involved but instead of apologizing she just tried to point out all the ways your 'wrong' ya know? im super sensitive too, (i was crying like a 5 year old that my mom was leaving for vacation for 6 weeks lol), but i would still try to include her just have more communication this way if she tries to help out she knows that youll actually like whatever it is she helping you with

sorry chickie i know weddings are stressful

i am sorry you are dealing with this here is a i really feel that she will realize sooner or later that you need her!! wish you the best!

i am so sorry you are dealing with this. hopefully she comes around and starts acting more involved.

thx guys....