Official Jewish Bride thread~~~~~~~~~

Original post by Juhgail

May 15, 2009 02:46 PM

Hello Ladies.

Well as im planning I thought It would be a great idea if we got ourselves togetehr to talk about issues facing Jewish brides.

I also thought it would be great to share ideas and vendors.

For example:
1. I was told to get suede black Kippot. They will stay on heads better, the black looks better in pix because there is NO reflection, and the groom looks better with a black kippot on insted of, lets say a sattin color kippot.

2. What are you doing for you chuppah?

3. I am using my brandfathers tallis to wrap us in during part of the ceremony. If that wasnt going to happen I would use it with the chuppah.

4. When do they normally play the horah? Is right after the first dance?

5. Any vendors yet for your Ketubah and Kippot?

6. I saw a great website that Im going to buy the glass and bag from. In general you have to be careful not to use a THICK glass or a lightbulb.

--A thick glass may not break, or g-d forbid cut the grrom!
--A lightbulb can be very messy.

By buying this special glass we are going to make something from the shards.....a photoframe...something.

So I hope we can all help eachother.

EDIT!!!!

So I just went to the wedidng salon event at the Harvard Club. It was ok...but I got a brochure for ketubah!!!!

www.mpartworks.com

I also have a coupon code for 10% off. So ask and I will post!!!! I WILL be getting from here!!

pipermaru Posted: Jan 14, 2010 02:25 PM

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this is helpful

http://www.jewish-wedding-rabbi.com/jewish-wedding-traditions.html

pipermaru Posted: Jan 18, 2010 09:08 PM

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i went to buy the glass to break at the wedding today and its $30! why is a piece of glass so expensive??? do i really need the special glass. can i just use a regular colored champagne glass from like crate and barrell?

KGBbunny Posted: Jan 19, 2010 12:51 PM

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Posted by pipermaru

i went to buy the glass to break at the wedding today and its $30! why is a piece of glass so expensive??? do i really need the special glass. can i just use a regular colored champagne glass from like crate and barrell?

Any glass will do. I bought the special breaking glass myself for about $20 on Ebay together with the pouch, but ended up using light bulbs instead (2 to fill the pouch properly). Rabbi strongly advised to do so...some glasses are very hard to break.

HSsweethearts Posted: Jan 19, 2010 01:03 PM

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Anita Diamant's 'The New Jewish Wedding' is a WONDERFUL book BTW

happybride6 Posted: Jan 19, 2010 01:17 PM

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Posted by pipermaru

Thanks to Chrissi (my amazing DOC) there are also these traditions she made me aware of:

Krenzl, Blessing the Challah, Mitzvah Dances, Birkat Hamazon, and gladdening the bride

Most of these are religious customs:

Krenzi - If the bride is the last in her family to get married she and her sisters do this dance to honor theeir mother.

Blessing the Challah - aka Hamotzi - you do this before you eat dinner, it's the blessing on bread

Mtivah Dances - (sp = mitzvah dance) - The bride holds a long sash (or gartel) while a man holds the other end and dances before her. This usually happens if there is seperate dancing between men and women.

Birkat hamazon - This is a prayer said after dinner.

Gladdening the Bride - Guests circle the bride and praise her

Hope this helps!

corsies Posted: Jan 27, 2010 04:06 PM

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question re:Ketubah

We are having a conservative rabbi marrying us in October, does the rabbi provide the ketubah or do we have to purchase our own?

Thanks

pipermaru Posted: Jan 27, 2010 04:13 PM

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you probably have to purchase your own but you should check with him regarding that and also any specific requirements he might have with respect to wording and what should be included if you order it from a 3rd party

rdubs Posted: Feb 03, 2010 03:25 PM

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This seems like a stupid question but have you guys ever seen a wishing well at a jewish bride's shower? My aunt is saying that its not a 'jewish' thing to ask for specific gifts for a wishing well so she doesn't want to do it...ever hear of this?

twein28 Posted: Feb 03, 2010 03:29 PM

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i have seen them...i personally am not a fan of wishing wells, but i have been to Jewish showers with them

Lisalana Posted: Feb 03, 2010 04:14 PM

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I've never heard that before.

My sister had one at her shower and I'm planning to have one at mine.

pipermaru Posted: Feb 03, 2010 04:15 PM

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i've also never heard that and am planning to have one at mine

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 04, 2010 03:39 PM

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I've actually never known a Jewish bride to have a shower at all

twein28 Posted: Feb 04, 2010 03:40 PM

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really? I know baby showers are not always had, but I have been to a lot of Jewish bridal showers

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 04, 2010 03:48 PM

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Posted by twein28

really? I know baby showers are not always had, but I have been to a lot of Jewish bridal showers

FH's family and one of my friends from school have not had them...

rdubs Posted: Feb 04, 2010 05:57 PM

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Wow, really?

Okay, well my aunt is not doing a wishing well. I'm really not 'supposed' to be involved but they are bouncing ideas off of me and telling me what they want to do/don't want to do...I've asked them to stop, but whatever.

Thanks!

olganfreddy Posted: Feb 09, 2010 03:41 PM

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I REALLY need help finding a rabbi for our wedding. Can anyone please send me contact information for really good rabbi's? Both me and finace are Jewish and not reform. Anyone has recommendations? please help!!!!

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 09, 2010 04:31 PM

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Posted by olganfreddy

I REALLY need help finding a rabbi for our wedding. Can anyone please send me contact information for really good rabbi's? Both me and finace are Jewish and not reform. Anyone has recommendations? please help!!!!

When you say you're not reform,conservative? What kind of Rabbi are you looking for?

olganfreddy Posted: Feb 10, 2010 07:26 PM

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I'm looking for more of traditional rabbi, not necessarily reform. Someone who can sing and also can combine the traditional aspects with a more personal service.

adelya21 Posted: Mar 22, 2010 02:03 AM

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hey ladies. are any of you using orthodox rabbis? I am having th hardest time finding one. My wedding is NOT going to be kosher, I know some orth. rabbis ask this.