Official Stupid Question Thread

I have a lot of stupid questions that I never feel justify their own post, so I thought if I made one thread then people could just add their Q&A's to it! haha

Ok, Stupid Question #1: Does every ceremony use the unity candle? I wanted to started some of the DIY stuff like that but not if it's something not everyone does. (We're getting married in a church.)

Stupid Question #2:I can't seem to get a straight answer on this - are sparklers legal in NY? I would LOVE to use them at my RH but don't want to bother asking them if they're not legal.

Hmm that's all I can think of for now, I guarantee I'll have more!

as my FMIL would say, 'no question is a stupid question'

so #1 i don't think you HAVE to do the unity candle, i don't think its a 100% must

#2 as far as i know they are legal in NY. there was another post not too long ago and i think they determined that it IS legal.

HTH!

thoes aren't stupid questions at all

1 no not everyone does the unity candle

2 i'm not sure about the sparkelers i would think they were though since they are a form of fireworks

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Posted by pandafish519

as my FMIL would say, 'no question is a stupid question'

so #1 i don't think you HAVE to do the unity candle, i don't think its a 100% must

#2 as far as i know they are legal in NY. there was another post not too long ago and i think they determined that it IS legal.

HTH!

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Haha I personally like 'There's no such thing as a stupid question, only stupid people.'

thanks for starting this im sure i will have tons of stupid questions to ask lol

http://www.americanpyro.com/State%20Laws%20(main)/PDFStates/new_york.pdf

I found state laws that said they were illegal but there is also a number to call to ask questions so I think that might be the best route. .

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Posted by shell1879

thoes aren't stupid questions at all

1 no not everyone does the unity candle

2 i'm not sure about the sparkelers i would think they were though since they are a form of fireworks

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Hmm... how do I know if I would do a unity candle? Is it my decision or the churches'?

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Posted by gina409

thanks for starting this im sure i will have tons of stupid questions to ask lol

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LOL I have TONS... I wanted to start slowly though.

ok now this is a STUPID question...

where do you light your tapers from to light the larger unity candle
is there another pre lit candle to light it from or does some one light the tapers that FH and I hold?

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Posted by shell1879

ok now this is a STUPID question...

where do you light your tapers from to light the larger unity candle
is there another pre lit candle to light it from or does some one light the tapers that FH and I hold?

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Our church is going to have a candle up there already. Then my mom and my FMIL will light the tapers and hand them to us, and we will light the unity candle together.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO A UNITY CANLE, IT'S NOT UP TO THE CHURCH IT'S UP TO YOU....FH AND I WILL BE POURING COLORED SAND (PURPLE AND LAVENDER) INSTEAD.

WHAT DOES THE COUPLE DO WITH THE CANDLE AFTER THE WEDDING? I'VE NEVER SEEN ONE ON DISPLAY IN ANYONE'S HOUSE. I FIGURED THE SAND WOULD LOOK NICE AND WE CAN DISPLAY IT FOREVER.

stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?

this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.

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Posted by beram63

stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?

this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.

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Oooh I have a very similar situation too except my mom is paying for 2 vendors, his parents are paying for the RH and we're paying the rest.

On mine I might just put our names and 'together with their parents' since my mom is remarried and I don't want to get too complicated.

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Posted by beram63

stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?

this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.

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I would say

Bride & Groom

Together with their Parents ( this way no one feels more important then some one else!!!)

I know my church actually frowns on Unity Candles because of the whole fire hazard business but even still it was left totally up to us.. I am still not sure if I am having one though! So many decisions and so little time!!!



***Great thread idea by the way!!!

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Posted by dana1206

Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?

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I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.