Official Stupid Question Thread

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Posted by beram63

stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?

this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.

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I have a similar situation. Both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding. I think on the invites I am going to put: 'Meg and Jeff along with their parents' but not mention their specific names.

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Posted by NickandTara426

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Posted by dana1206

Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?

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I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.

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I was hoping the RH would do them too. I actually joked with my sister's friend about her doing it as part of my gift.

#! You don't have to use a unity candle, they're not mandatory.

#2 Sparklers are legal in NY as far as I know, we always used them as kids, I don't think they're technically fireworks, so you should be okay

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Posted by beram63

stupid question #4: how do i word the invites if my mom is paying nothing, his mom's handling 2 small vendors, and we're paying the lion's share? do i put both our mom's names, or just his, or just ours? whose do i put first?

this is the stuff i can't stand about wedding planning.

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I wrote: Together with our families.....

(just to keep the peace).....
both our parents contributed nominal amounts...

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Posted by dana1206

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Posted by NickandTara426

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Posted by dana1206

Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?

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I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.

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I was hoping the RH would do them too. I actually joked with my sister's friend about her doing it as part of my gift.

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The RH will do it but if it is something a little complicated then you may want to have a close friend there to help set up and make sure they're done right. I am doing something similar with the cylinder vases and submerged flowers and i am going to prep them the night before so all the RH has to do is fill with water and light the floating candle but my close will be there to oversee them.

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Posted by gip32680

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Posted by dana1206

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Posted by NickandTara426

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Posted by dana1206

Okay, here's my stupid question. I am trying to save money by doing my own centerpieces. I'm thinking of those cylinder vases with the one orchid submerged in water and then putting a few tea light candles around it. If I'm not paying a florist to create them, who sets them up?

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I have the same question LOL! I am doing my own cp's as well. I'm thinking the RH does them when setting up the tables. I was thinking of having family friends set them up.

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I was hoping the RH would do them too. I actually joked with my sister's friend about her doing it as part of my gift.

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The RH will do it but if it is something a little complicated then you may want to have a close friend there to help set up and make sure they're done right. I am doing something similar with the cylinder vases and submerged flowers and i am going to prep them the night before so all the RH has to do is fill with water and light the floating candle but my close will be there to oversee them.

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I was going to try to set them up the night before too. Are you doing real flowers in the cylinders? I'm thinking I can drop them off Friday night since I'm staying at the hotel nearby.

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Posted by chicky724

I have a lot of stupid questions that I never feel justify their own post, so I thought if I made one thread then people could just add their Q&A's to it! haha

Ok, Stupid Question #1: Does every ceremony use the unity candle? I wanted to started some of the DIY stuff like that but not if it's something not everyone does. (We're getting married in a church.)

Stupid Question #2:I can't seem to get a straight answer on this - are sparklers legal in NY? I would LOVE to use them at my RH but don't want to bother asking them if they're not legal.

Hmm that's all I can think of for now, I guarantee I'll have more!

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#2 Sparklers are LEGAL. You just have to check with your RH to make sure its ok with them.
Fireworks are not legal without a permit. You need to hire a firework company like Grucci or Bay to help you with the process. You need permits from the town that the RH is in.
Indoor Pryo is not legal in NY. That would be sparklers coming out from the cps and little explosions.

I know this b/c I work with Grucci all the time for my events.

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Posted by beram63

stupid questions #5: receiving lines: do it? don't do it? accept that you can't avoid doing it bc people corner you anyway? how long do you allow yourself to kiss & hug everyone you know?

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I think the receiving line is relatively important. Most people will do a quick kiss and tell how you beautiful you look, lol and then move on. I just think it's nice to personally see each and every person that came to your ceremony.
And yeah, w/o it, most people will totally corner you at your reception.

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Posted by gina409

ok here is my first stupid question which i am sure will have many more to come lol...ok onplace cards and invitations u pay someone to write the names,table seating and on invitations the addresses right?where do u go for that?is it where u got ur invitations or do u take blank place cards and invitations somewhere..tia

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for the invitations, i'll be printing them through inkspun.com

the seating cards will be handled by my mom who most likely will be printing labels in a fancy script and sticking them to the placecard (i have placecard frames so the labels wouldnt look tacky)

here is another stupid question.......

Do FH and I count towards the guest count?

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Posted by shell1879

here is another stupid question.......

Do FH and I count towards the guest count?

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that's a good one.. I would think yeah, but does anyone know for sure?

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Posted by shell1879

here is another stupid question.......

Do FH and I count towards the guest count?

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yes!

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Posted by beram63

stupid question #6: i hear all this talk about after parties. i gotta say, i've never been to a formal after party, just the typical let's-go-to-the-bar-after-the-wedding business. my reception will likely end at 12:30 or 1. do we arrange for an 'after party' or do we just informally ask our favorite people to join us at a bar?

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we aren't doing a formal after party....

it is going to be known that we are going........................... and who ever wants to go can go we may put it on our website closer to the wedding.

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Posted by gina409

ok here is my first stupid question which i am sure will have many more to come lol...ok onplace cards and invitations u pay someone to write the names,table seating and on invitations the addresses right?where do u go for that?is it where u got ur invitations or do u take blank place cards and invitations somewhere..tia

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You can probably take them to a calligrapher too... I don't know how much $$ that is though. LIW has them on their vendor list: http://www.liweddings.com/vendors/calligraphy/

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Posted by shell1879

here is another stupid question.......

Do FH and I count towards the guest count?

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how about vendors do we pay for them to eat and do they or is it all about the job?
i don't think i ever noticed vendors at weddings i've been to in the past eating but i wasn't really paying attention