I was just showing FH some sample mock ups of our invitations and the designer in her samples put my parents as hosts on them, which i was thinking of doing anyways cause its tradition and they are helping out alot. Well FH saw that and was like 'I dont know about having your parents as 'hosts'.. even though your parents are paying for the invites, were paying for the hall....'..
HELLOO My parents are paying for ALL of our VENDORS!! They are shelling out well over 10K.. His parents gave NOTHING so far and have only agreed to pay for their 35 friends to come to the wedding (whom i dont want there) and the rehersal dinner. Without my parents help there would be no fancy wedding at all since we can barely afford to pay for the hall ourselves and might even have to borrow money from my parents for the honeymoon. Im just so pissed that he can take and take from my parents but he doesnt even want to honor them on the invites...
Anyone else have this problem? And if so what was your solution.
MrsJ08
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OMG!!! Me tooo!!! We actually argued about this...i showed him how i wanted it worded and it was like
mr & mrs ___ request the honor of bla bla to me and FH son of Mrs ____
hes like why is it worded like that, and i said because my parents are 'hosting' the wedding (just the reception which is a huge amount) so hes like because your parents are paying for the wedding there names have to be on top and i said yesss...hello we wouldn't be able to get married if it wasn't for my parents. I showed a bunch of sites of invitation etiquette and he finally understood, but now I changed it I am having my parents and his mom on the top of the invite...i dont want any drama!!
So dont worry you are not alone!!
Ray8183
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Posted by lisa50
Neither of our parents paid for anything, they are just giving gifts. But to avoid all conflict, I put both of their names on it.
That's what I did, plus we are too old to ask our parents for money. Remember it's about your love for each other, so please don't hold on to this.
Future Mulligan
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Posted by Bride908
Neither of our parents are contributing and I dont want to put both their names on the invites so we are putting together with our parents because I felt wrong not mentioning them in some way.. Even thought neither are contributing
same here - i think we will put together with their familes - just so they are mentioned - but i dont want to write out their names....
catsgirl
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neither of our parents are helping but my invite starts like this: this day I will my my best friend, the one I laugh with live for, love. Melissa Colleen ~~~~ and Larry Michael ~~~~ Together with our parents invite you to share in the celebration of our marriage.
maybe something like that you could do so there is no hard feelings.
DeeluvsVinny
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Wow, I'm actually not having this problem at all.
My parents are paying for the entire reception ( a huge expense) and we're paying for everything else. FH's parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner and possibly paying for limos.
they had no problem with
Mr. & Mrs. my parents invite you..blah blah Diana and Vincent son of Mr. & Mrs. Blah Blah.
But when we went to order the invite, my mom said, NO. She wanted Mr & Mrs my parents and Mr & Mrs his parents invite you blah blah
She said who cares who pays...we all want everyone to come!
Sorry that invites are causing such a huge problem. Hopefuly it will work out!
Espo22
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i put both our parents name on top...even though we paid for most of it i didnt care about pointing out who is paying for what so did it this way.
mr. and mrs john smith and mr and mrs tom green request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children denise and joe
KiTTeN0819
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Thank you everyone for your suggestions. I am going to look up some neutral sayings and see what I can find..
If i knew his parents didnt have the money I would just throw there names on there.. but its a long involved story i dont feel like getting into. I think im just bitter about the way they are going about things and FH wont talk to them about any of it.
