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prncssrachel Posted: Feb 22, 2005 05:35 PM

Ok, four months to go and FMIL has not....

even begun to think about looking for a dress. Part of me is really angry about this and part of me does not care. But I just can't even understand how JT's parents have NOOOOOOOOOO interest in our wedding.

jimmysgrl Posted: Feb 22, 2005 05:36 PM

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MandM07-03-05 Posted: Feb 22, 2005 06:31 PM

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prncssrachel Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:00 PM

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Posted by M&M07/03/05

hey twin!

honestly i'm having the EXACT same problem! fmil hasn't started looking, they haven't offered ANY help (financial, emotional support, advice, opinions, inquires, nada!) they barely know any details! ugh his family is so opposite of everything i grew up with. i feel so bad for him!

Are we marrying the same man? It's just so frustrating. Not so much for me because my family is AMAZING, but his last words regarding his family's non-involvement were, 'Rachel, I can't MAKE them care about me. They never cared enough to do homework with me or the take me to little league, so why are they going to care I'm getting married?' And he had tears in his eyes. I'm so upset for HIM.

pickles16 Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:00 PM

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mine also, the first time she went to look for a dress was this weekend at the dept stores, and couldn't find anything, and shes like yah, I have to start hitting the small boutiques soon..Hello, does she not realize that it take a few months for the dress to come in!!!!! I know its not my problem, but its just frustrating!!! So I symapthize with you!

MandM07-03-05 Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:27 PM

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Are we marrying the same man? It's just so frustrating. Not so much for me because my family is AMAZING, but his last words regarding his family's non-involvement were, 'Rachel, I can't MAKE them care about me. They never cared enough to do homework with me or the take me to little league, so why are they going to care I'm getting married?' And he had tears in his eyes. I'm so upset for HIM.

that is so heartbreaking! i try to make my fh feel a bit better by telling him he will be a better father and husband b/c he's seen the other side. the only thing i can do to make up for his icky family is make a new family for him.

JBKempf Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:38 PM

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I'm sorry you are feeling frustrated and upset, but I think she still has plenty of time. I know my mom won't look for one till like 2 months before.

lrs2005 Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:42 PM

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Wow, I am so sorry to hear that. I think what your DF said about little league and HW is gonna make me cry on his behalf.

L

May05Bride Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:46 PM

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MY FMIL is the same exact way!!!
My wedding is 2 month before yours, and the FMIL hasn't even begun to look. At first it really bothered me, now, I don't care. She can do what ever she wants. let people comment how she didn't even care enough to look for her own son's wedding!

Bebalina Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:49 PM

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I feel for you...my fmil has nothing yet either.
I'm not gonna stress....as long as my mom has her dress I dont care anymore.
I can only do so much

junebride! Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:53 PM

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she'll find one when she's ready...and like you said...it is she who is going to have to rush around...

prncssrachel Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:53 PM

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I just feel bad because it's just yet another way that JT sees his mother not caring. Last night we were at her house and she was saying, 'Well, I think a nice jogging suit would be fine for the wedding.' in a condescending tone. He was really upset

suezboss Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:55 PM

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less than 6 months till my wedding, and my MOM had not bebun!
I feel your pain!

but hey, she can wear a sweat suit for all i care... it's MY day not hers!

suezboss Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:56 PM

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Posted by prncssrachel

I just feel bad because it's just yet another way that JT sees his mother not caring. Last night we were at her house and she was saying, 'Well, I think a nice jogging suit would be fine for the wedding.' in a condescending tone. He was really upset

That Stinks but if she DID end up wearing that, then SHE wuold look silly, not you, so don't get yourself upset about this.

Her not being intersted in the wedding is another story...

Bebalina Posted: Feb 22, 2005 07:58 PM

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Posted by suezboss

Posted by prncssrachel

I just feel bad because it's just yet another way that JT sees his mother not caring. Last night we were at her house and she was saying, 'Well, I think a nice jogging suit would be fine for the wedding.' in a condescending tone. He was really upset

That Stinks but if she DID end up wearing that, then SHE wuold look silly, not you, so don't get yourself upset about this.

Her not being intersted in the wedding is another story...

exactly SHE wuold look silly, not you, so don't get yourself upset about this.

lilacwine Posted: Feb 22, 2005 08:18 PM

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same here. FMIL got hers last week.

I haven't seen it but FH says the color is v. close to the bridesmaids' dress color.

j_dancer_44 Posted: Feb 22, 2005 08:25 PM

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Posted by prncssrachel

even begun to think about looking for a dress. Part of me is really angry about this and part of me does not care. But I just can't even understand how JT's parents have NOOOOOOOOOO interest in our wedding.

I hear ya. My FMIL just ordered hers last week and i have 3 months to go. Then to top it off she wouldn't even tell me what color she got or where she got it from. She even forgot what color my BM dresses are. I can't believe the apathy.

germai68 Posted: Feb 22, 2005 08:29 PM

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I am so sorry you girls have to deal with this. I am fortunate enough to have a great FMIL. She hasn't started looking yet either, but that is because she is waiting to see what my mom get's first.