ok i am shy & hate being the center of attention

Original post by gabbie83

Feb 22, 2008 11:19 AM

(most of the time)
now i know my shower is next saturday at 4 pm i just dont know where - so FH will probably blindfold me and drive me to wherever it is - i just feel soooo stupid even having a shower - im starting to get nervous - i just hate when everyone looks at me. and all that.
ill just drink wine to loosen up - i dont know why im bugging out - i know all the ladies there so its not like they're strangers -anyone feel like that?
i remember when i used to go to my older cousins showers - i always looked at htem and thougth omg thats sooo cool, they're getting married & im just soo shy & starting to panick!
:(

any advice

Espo22 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 11:58 AM

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i am weird and do better with bigger crowds than small ones. Like talking one on one with somebody is worse than to a group of ppl, its hard to explain lol. I guess its talking outloud to everybody and just in general is easier for me than that one on one, focusing just on that person.

MrsD71208 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 11:59 AM

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How many people do you think are coming to your shower????

Annoulak Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:00 PM

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You're not that shy on here, and we're essentially strangers to you, so i'm sure you'll be fine in the company of friends and family

gabbie83 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:05 PM

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Posted by MrsDtoBe

How many people do you think are coming to your shower????

gabbie83 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:05 PM

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Posted by Annoulak

You're not that shy on here, and we're essentially strangers to you, so i'm sure you'll be fine in the company of friends and family

thanks:)

RisiLeigh Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:11 PM

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I am totally the same way! it's nice to know there are others out there going thru the same thing! I think I am MORE nervous for my shower than for the wedding b/c the shower is just me! The wedding, FH and I will be the center of attention together! I was completely fine at our E-party b/c of that. I thought I'd need a Xanax but I didn't! For my shower though... I think I will definitely pop one

sliwa2 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:28 PM

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Glad someone feels the same way I do. I dont really like to be the center of attention. Makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable too.

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Future Mulligan Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:32 PM

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i always think that im shy and i get really nervous - but when im actually in those types of situations im a total ham - so maybe the same thing will happen to you! relax, drink some wine and enjoy it!

Toucan311 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 12:36 PM

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Are Kim and I the only NOT shy girls on here?!?

Saram Posted: Feb 22, 2008 07:04 PM

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this is why i begged my mom for an open bar at the shower..lol

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 07:08 PM

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I was the same way at my shower- half the women I knew and half I didn't because they were from FH's side of the family..

I just concentrated on getting to know everyone that I didn't know and kinda surrounding myself with those that I did but not snubbing anyone... couldn't be rude ya know?

Bella77 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 08:33 PM

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i am a little nervous about that center of attention thing too.... FH and i are both people that like to blend into the crowd. i am friendly (most of the time) but tend to get really shy still around people i don't know well, like FH's extended family. of course i'm fine with the ladies i see at holidays and other family gatherings, but the ones you don't see too often... plus i think i am lazy in general - stick to what i know...

mnd1202 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 10:01 PM

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awww me too but ull be fine becuase u will no everyone and it wont be as ing

gabbie83 Posted: Feb 22, 2008 10:27 PM

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thanks ladies - its so much easier to write your problem here and then have 15 girls respond saying the same thing - instead of telling a gf of mine who's not going through this right now and saying' Ahhhh dont worry about it'

thanks again

DiamondPipa Posted: Feb 22, 2008 10:31 PM

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Posted by Nc82

wow...what a relief it is to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way.

I HATE being the center of attention & everytime I think about my shower (it's March 9th), I start to get a butterfly feeling in my belly.

I'm definitely planning on having a half glass of wine prior to - is that terrible?

And like you, I know everyone that will be there..Idk, I guess it's like social anxiety or something.

Dont worry!! your not alone here!

I am the SAME WAY, and Nc82, my shower is also March 9th Even though I know everyone there I feel extremely uncomfortable. That's why I did a cellophane theme, that way I can get rid of all the gifts in no time.

Ilovebriani Posted: Feb 22, 2008 10:31 PM

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Posted by RisiLeigh

I am totally the same way! it's nice to know there are others out there going thru the same thing! I think I am MORE nervous for my shower than for the wedding b/c the shower is just me! The wedding, FH and I will be the center of attention together! I was completely fine at our E-party b/c of that. I thought I'd need a Xanax but I didn't! For my shower though... I think I will definitely pop one

you hit it on the ball! that is SO how i feel and i am very nervous! Plus....everyone is trying to trick me about when it is and it is driving me crazy! I thought i knew when it was....and then they started making other plans at aother times.....i think thy are just trying to throw me off though. i feel like i need to be mentally prepared for this. I wish i had some xanax, lol!

tlp123 Posted: Feb 23, 2008 06:11 PM

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Oh my goodness, that is exactly what I went through! Basically the way I worked through it was like this:

At my eparty, I was very uncomfortable. I was not used to being the center of attention and had mixed feelings about it. But afterwards, I realized i didn't want to be so uncomfortable at my shower and wedding, so I just focused on the part of me that likes the attention. If I REALLY didn't want to be the center of attention, I wouldn't have a shower or wedding at all! I would just elope! I assume the same is true for you.

I felt very good at my shower, RD, and wedding b/c I knew everyone was there to celebrate. I didn't feel pressure, I just let the atmosphere take over. (I just had to remember to thank everyone for coming ).

So focus on the part of you that wants to be the center of attention, wants the big shower and wedding, and know that everyone is just there to celebrate, not to watch you perform or anything. Have fun!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Feb 23, 2008 06:17 PM

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Yes!!!!!! i hear you! i know i'll probably feel the same way!!! I get embarassed sometimes! lol but have fun at your shower! enjoy it!

kimandvin Posted: Feb 23, 2008 06:21 PM

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No Im the opposite, Not that I want to be the center of attention but I love the mystery of not know when and where my shower will be.. I want to be taken by suyrprise!

tcotier Posted: Feb 23, 2008 06:33 PM

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What are these BPics that I saw on a couple of pages? What's the B stand for?

I'm in the best shape of my life for this wedding, maybe I should get some nice pics of it while it lasts