My RSVP date passed on 9/1 and I gave everyone (8 people) an extra week to respond. Of course the 8 people are on my FIL's side (figures), so I asked them if they could please call them (its their friends) and find out whats going on coming or not? They told me to just 'figure them in'. I explained that it would cost me a lot of money (they arent paying) and I cant afford to just 'figure them in and get stuck with 8 meals. My FI says if we get stuck we will just give the meals to his parents to take home (I will be d**** if they take home food when they havent paid for a dime). I know this sounds awful but I cant wait for the wedding to be over, had I known his family would have acted the way they have for the past year, I would have eloped. His daughter is the only one who gave us any support (emotionally) and she is only 10 1/2.
BlondeJD
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That's pretty obnoxious of them. I guess if you want to get an actual headcount, you'll need to call the 8 people yourself, which is annoying because they're your in-law's guests, not yours. Good luck
HearzBellz
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Wow, that is pretty obnoxious.
Not only will 8 guests cost you a tremendous amoiunt of extra $$, but won't it screw up your table setting/placement????
Tell FIL's that the Hall will not 'make 8 extra meals to go' if they do not show up, and get the BM to agree on this.
I know they should do it, but can you get the phone numbers from your FILs & call them or ask FH to call?
Not that this helps you feel better, but I beleive etiquette would dictate that you do NOT figure in someone who has not yet responded.
JimmysBride
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'Just figure them in'?????
Tell them you'd be happy to just as soon as they fork over the $800 that it will cost you to 'figure them in'... other wise you'll be just as happy to count them OUT.
