Ok I'm a bad person

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:00 PM

Ok I'm a bad person

MY FH & I were going to get married early next fall. Last Spring the place we were going to get married at, closed down , ok we pushed it back to June 7, 2008 during the summer. My cousin got engaged at the end of the sept, & they're getting married Jan 2008 in Vegas her sister got engaged on halloween & was planning to get married April or May of 2008, Sunday FH, I and his parents are going to our food tasting & we're hoping to book 6-7-08.... I just found out that the cousin that was going to get married in April or May now wants to get married 6-6-08, in North Carolina or NY (she & her FH live in NY). ***? I already reached out to her twice explaining that I was concerned about our weddings being too close together, even though FH & I are engaged 10(almost 11) months before her she insist that since she's older she has to get married first... She doesn't even know what effing state she wants to get married in & she's claiming the day before us 3 days before we do our tasting & sign our contract

I can't call her again since it didn't go well the 2nd time I addredded the issue, & now we're not speaking

I'm not changing my date & now I'm soo beyond angry & hurt ....

karen6474 Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:40 PM

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i'm sorry this is happening to you but yeah i would not change the date afterall she doesnt even know when & where she wants to have her wedding. is she just doing this b/c she wants to get married b4 you!!

SAMORY Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:41 PM

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Listen don't get yourself all upset. Who ever in you family that want to come to your wedding will be there if not o well. I don't understand why your cousin is being wicked to you but you have other things to worry about. You had you date first and I think you should keep your date. So and don't worry about it.

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:44 PM

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yeah, she has some sort of jelousy issue, she is going to be 27, & had a fit when I was 23 (she was 25 turning 26) that my BF proposed, then when her lil sister got engaged it's like she lost all sence of consideration, so mad! - day is w/ my FH's Family so when someone said how great it is that we're doing our tasting Sunday & hopefully booking , her responce was ,' WHo's gonna go we're getting married the day before'. ***??

beachbum05 Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:47 PM

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She said that!????????????????????

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:50 PM

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Wel yeah that is what I heard 2nd hand from 3 people..

beachbum05 Posted: Nov 23, 2006 09:59 PM

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I have a feeling that if you book it, she wont keep her date.

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Nov 23, 2006 10:19 PM

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I hope so, I was just soo excited that we decided which RH, and I find out tonight The first time I said something was when FH & I announced our date again at a family gtg once we set it again. She was like _ _ _ & I want to get married at the same time. My reply was oh your talking about getting married (this was the first tme it was mentioned)... It's so childish. I aproached her from the POV that it might be hard for our realitives to go to 3 weddings within 6 months esp, 2 that could be with in 8weeks of each other, and it's like she took it as: your worried I'll steal your thunder, idk. maybe I'm being really sensitive

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Nov 23, 2006 10:53 PM

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I'm sorry...thats got to be really annoying! I think that you had your date planned first and she should respect that and pick a different day or month...who the hell cares whos older

MikeandJess Posted: Nov 24, 2006 12:09 AM

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Wow she does sound miserable. Honestly, if she's not willing to meet you half way or at least discuss it with you, you book whatever and whenever you want! You can't let her ruin your wedding planning because she's miserable!

DavaDay Posted: Nov 24, 2006 12:41 AM

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I disagree with the title of your post: you're not a bad person! She is being totally selfish, and it's making you mad and you have every right to be. I agree with Bonnie, though, if you go ahead and book your date soon, I think you'll call her bluff and she'll change her date. She'd start a family war if she booked her date for then, and since she's booking after you (who cares that she's older?), she ends up looking like the bad guy.

megzzie Posted: Nov 24, 2006 11:53 AM

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Please don't even ask if you're a bad person because you're not at all! Just because she is older does not mean she has to get married first - what kind of bs is that? Also, she doesn't even know where she wants to get married - you, on the other hand, are days away from signing a contract! Don't let her bring you down...hopefully if you book it, she'll get the hint not to have her wedding a day before yours.

Good luck!

Collweenie21 Posted: Nov 24, 2006 11:56 AM

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Tell her to go f&%k herself!!! You can get married on which ever day you choose. when I told my aunt July 3rd she made a face, so I told her she was half way to the Hamptons, she can go partying at CPIs for the 4th! (they live in a retirement community in Jersey)

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Nov 24, 2006 07:54 PM

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Posted by Collweenie21

Tell her to go f&%k herself!!! You can get married on which ever day you choose. when I told my aunt July 3rd she made a face, so I told her she was half way to the Hamptons, she can go partying at CPIs for the 4th! (they live in a retirement community in Jersey)

lol, you put a smile on my face w/ that post I havn't been to CPI's since college..