Ok so i posted a picture of my bok and i got a lot of honest opinions. (i really appreciate it) im so lost in my wedding process. i have been to 1 wedding in my whole life and never been part of one let a lone the planning process. So the reviews i got werent so hot.. now what do i do. I dont know if i should just start over. Are my centerpieces bad too.. i mean should i just can everything. FH is no help he just says stick with it who cares what others think. he doesnt understand that i do.. i want my wedding to be beautiful and one people talk about months later.. saying positive things not negative. well thanks for letting me vent. you can look in my album for my centerpieces and all. my girls are wearing royal blue with white trim the jordon 226 dress. i have no i dea what my bok should look like. i wanted color in my wedding and now i feel like it isnt good.
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I was actually really impressed with what you made- not my style, but I was really impressed with how you did it- I could never do that in a million years!!!
Don't feel down- the amazing thing is, you have the talent to MAKE these things- not many people can do that. You have time and it's certainly a trial and error period. Keep looking at pictures and try to find something you'd like to duplicate.
I'm clueless in this area...so I really admire those who are crafty!!! I'm lucky to have sisters that can do it...I can't even decorate an apartment!!! You should really be proud of yourself that you can even accomplish something like that!!
Have you recruited your BMs or anyone to help out?
There is nothing wrong in trying something new!! You can totally do it!!
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do you mean the flowers in your album? What's wrong with them? I think they are beautiful!
Honestly, it's good to ask for advice and opinions, but you need to take them with a grain of salt - everybody has different tastes and styles. This is NOT about what all the LIW brides think - this is about what you think! Do what makes you happy!
I think your flowers are lovely. Trust your instincts, and don't worry so much about the opinions of others.
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If you like them then keep them. Everyone picked out a monogram that in the end fh and i both didn't like.. we went with the one we both were satisfied with. People wil have diff. of opinions on everything depending on tastes.
If your unsure of things at least you are here and go do some research. Or get all the wedding books and look at their ideas. I think your concepts are great. I have only seen your centerpieces and I am not a lover of fairy tale but i found them to be lovely.
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Ok so i posted a picture of my bok and i got a lot of honest opinions. (i really appreciate it) im so lost in my wedding process. i have been to 1 wedding in my whole life and never been part of one let a lone the planning process. So the reviews i got werent so hot.. now what do i do. I dont know if i should just start over. Are my centerpieces bad too.. i mean should i just can everything. FH is no help he just says stick with it who cares what others think. he doesnt understand that i do.. i want my wedding to be beautiful and one people talk about months later.. saying positive things not negative. well thanks for letting me vent. you can look in my album for my centerpieces and all. my girls are wearing royal blue with white trim the jordon 226 dress. i have no i dea what my bok should look like. i wanted color in my wedding and now i feel like it isnt good.
I hear ya! I was lost as well. Honestly, I think the colors in your bo-k are pretty. I personally would not have the beaded pearl things and for te brides bo-k, I would have the same thing as the bridesmaids but maybe just slightly bigger. My bo-k was like a basketball and I didn't like that it was so big. I would have been happy with a smaller bo-k. Well, that's my two cents but my opinion doesn't really matter here... it's what you love and what you feel most comfortable with. Trust me on this one... if you like it.... that's all that matters! Too many opinions taken to heart will drive you crazy!
Hope that helps!
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i just sent you a very long FM!
GettinHutched
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Too many opinions taken to heart will drive you crazy!
Wise words!!! If you love it, that's all that matters!! Take it from me, who cares WAY TOO MUCH what people think!! (has anyone noticed that yet? )
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I'm sorry you feel that way....
but, it's YOUR wedding... not ours! You shouldn't let the opinions of people on LIW sway your decisions. If you love it, then use it!
Also, I just looked at the flowers the album from 'GettinHutched' -- she has a bunch of idea that use blue and white... if you're not happy with your flowers, why not look for some other ideas.
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I agree with the other girls.
I think the BOK for your bridesmaids and the wrist corsage for your Mom are really pretty.
My comment on your previous post was just about the shape of your BOK .... that I thought it should have a different shape to it, something I figured wouldn't be hard to change if you choose to. To me, it just seemed very long and narrow.
BUT if you love it, then that is ALL THAT MATTERS!
This is a picture of the shape I was suggesting:
This wedding planning thing is overwhelming and confusing to all of us! And most of us can say that our FHs aren't any help, especially when it comes to things like flowers. Even if they offer opinions (like mine does ) the final decisions are up to us, the brides, and its a big weight on our shoulders!
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Thanks everyone.. i dont want anyone to think i dont appreciate there honest opinions because i do. THats all i want is honest opinions and nothing less. If i kept the BM bok and toned down mine would that be ok? my dress is sweet heart next with a lot of crystal detal on the front. Open to all suggestions.
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I say stick with what makes you feel happy... If you want some suggestions of something diff I am sure some of the ladies would be more than happy to show you pics that we have in our albums... Here are all the flowers I have on my laptop.... HTH....
Thats all that I could really find right now, but like I said its all about what captures your heart! Good Luck
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Don't be down.....you need to go with whatever you and your FH are pleased with. If you both love them, then that's ALL that matters. Opinions are just that----they will differ between everyone and someone will always love what you do and some people will always say they weren't thrilled with it. We're ALL going to have that. Even the most traditional bouquet will get trashed by someone!!!! I think the cascading idea is a good one, since your BMs have the same colors in their bouquet so you obviously want yours to look different. When I initially responded to your first post, I thought your bouquet might be too long----I think you could stlil have the same effect with a shorter cascade. But like I said, this is YOUR wedding!!!! In the end, you'll be happiest if you go with what YOU like best. Good luck.
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Don't be down.....you need to go with whatever you and your FH are pleased with. If you both love them, then that's ALL that matters. Opinions are just that----they will differ between everyone and someone will always love what you do and some people will always say they weren't thrilled with it. We're ALL going to have that. Even the most traditional bouquet will get trashed by someone!!!! I think the cascading idea is a good one, since your BMs have the same colors in their bouquet so you obviously want yours to look different. When I initially responded to your first post, I thought your bouquet might be too long----I think you could stlil have the same effect with a shorter cascade. But like I said, this is YOUR wedding!!!! In the end, you'll be happiest if you go with what YOU like best. Good luck.
I agree with this poster only because I like things fairly simple. I'd go with a slightly toned down bridal boK and possibly smaller cascade. Like everyone has mentioned this is based on my taste. I want you to know that they are beautiful as they are!
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I feel you should stick what you LOVE... if you love it your wedding will be beautiful! I love the colors and your bouquet is soooo different! Maybe you could have your bouquet round like your BM but larger add some more of the whites/ivory with only a hint of the color so it looks a little more bridal and then your BM will have the color and it can contrast it ~ I think if your coloring is the same as your BM it might get lost and it is your day and YOU want to stand out.... Good Luck!
if you ever need anything you could always FM ~ I like to help!
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The most important thing is whether you're happy. Everything flows from how the bridal couple feel. But if you want to change the flowers, the good part is that they're silk, and your wedding is months off, so you have plenty of time to play around with them.
My suggestion--make them simpler. You have a lot of very different elements going on there. For an amateur, the best thing is to keep it fairly simple. It takes a lot of practice and know-how to successfully mix disparate colors, themes, and textures. Maybe try it first with the bridesmaid's bouquet. You said their dresses are royal blue? Maybe keep the flowers only purple and white. Or blue and white. Or purple and blue! See which you like best together. Not sure how many bridesmaids you have, but their bouquets don't all have to match--the MoH could have blue and white, the BMs purple and white, and yours could be all blue and purple! These are just ideas I'm pulling off the top of my head. Still, to be classic and appeal to the largest number of people, be simple in your colors and arrangements. BTW, blue is a very difficult color for floral arrangements. The only truly blue flowers are hydrangeas and delphiniums. Anything else will look artificial, or like those dyed carnations you get at the supermarket and 7-11. If your goal is for your silks to look like real flowers, rethink the blue unless they're hydrangeas or delphinium.
And, as I said--if you're happy, keep them. Remember whenever you post a question on an Internet board you're going to get a lot of answers from all sorts of different people. Some will have radically different taste than you do, some may have agendas you don't know about--who knows? Go with what makes you happy. I recently posted two dresses on here and on my woman-only runner's board, asking which I should choose. This board overwhelmingly picked #2, my runner's board overwhelmingly picked #1. Why? No idea.
Good luck.
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Hi! i understand what you mean about feeling down. it's hard when you are excited about something--and think it looks okay and then others tell you it's not quite what they would go for. but likeyou said, you asked for honest opinions, and better to have them HERE before the big day, than someone making comments or jokes about it on your big day, or afterwards
that being said, i think you just are inexperienced with some of the flower arranging and such. the bo-k for yourself is a little too much, but you had the right idea! the corsage actually is nice, no problems with that.
BUT if i'm gonna be 100% honest, i'm not trying to hurt your feelings AT ALL, but you asked for honesty. i just am not feeling your CP's at all. i know you worked hard at them. but i think having maybe just one, as a decoration for the place card table or maybe next to your card box, would be okay. but to have that CP for each table, i just think it would take away from the beauty of the wedding reception. it's a little bit over the top, and might come off to people as , but not in a good way! i'm sure other girls on here have felt the same way as i do, but are fearful of saying it. but we have to be honest, and you are wanting the opinions!
your colors are very pretty, and you truly have endless possibilities. already girls on here have given you some ideas! check out some wedding books and flowers....even go to a florist and see what flowers they recommend for your colors. you have plenty of time, and i'm sure it will all work out!
good luck!
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don't be down..... go with what you love (but also run it by FH!) For your decorations, pick a focal point, and let the rest be low key... otherwise things will compete with each other....
If you feel like you don't have enough wedding experience, check out martha stewart weddings and her 'good things' topic. Great DIY ideas... besides Martha has catered numerous weddings, and has universal 'class' appeal! you can also look through albums on this site and the knot.... many great ideas....
