OK so I was a B***H just now...

JodyLC Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:47 PM

OK so I was a B***H just now...

I don't know if you remember or not but a while back I had a BM drop out after pitching a fit over the dress i choose, i changed the dress, color everything because I really wanted her in the wedding... she dropped out said she couldn't afford a dress blah blah blah...

Ok fine... she is still my friend.. we worked together even... I got fired... the company sends out a Memo that no one is allowed to speak to me or they will be terminated also... she took this to heart... other people talk to me are even coming to my wedding...

So this person.. won't answer my calls (I block my number even n her personal cell so no one will find out) won't answer texts, nothing.... but yet tells other people how she misses me but is afraid to talk to me...

HELLO I never try to contact you at work, I use personal numbers and e-mails... NOTHING!

So I was just a B I T C H and sent her this...

Well I guess I just wanted to say 'hi'. Not that you will answer this back... I know you are terrified that 'they' will find out you are speaking to me so you won't speak to me. Truthfully L*** I find that pathetic and I also find the fact that they are still thinking about me pathetic... Bad thing is... I don't really have anything bad to say about most of them I enjoyed my time there.... Anyway I am sorry you won't be coming to my wedding (not even going to bother sending the invitation out, why waste the money) it won't be the same without you... Hope you got the pic of the finished centerpiece yesterday... I wanted you to see it since you helped design it with me. I also got rid of your number and will delete your e-mail as soon as I send this, that way you don't have to worry about anything anymore.

Jody

Was I out of line???

Butterfly123 Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:50 PM

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Nope I dont think you were out of line. She's a horrible friend. To me it sounds like youve tried to be there for her and even changed a detail of your wedding for her. And she constantly spits in your face. Sometimes frienships arent worth saving, especially if youre the only one trying.

And how can a job threaten to fire people if they keep in contact with someone??? Cant they be sued for that? Thats ridiculous!

krislee316 Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:51 PM

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not at all!!

futuremrsfab Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:53 PM

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It sounds like your friend really hurt you- are you hoping to make her aware of how you feel or do you really not want her at your wedding?

Either way, I dont think what you wrote was out of line- you were hurt and are entitled.

LoveRocks Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:53 PM

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I don't think you were out of line at all. she's a crappy 'friend' and you were just being honest.

GinaZ Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:57 PM

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wow thats nuts!! Im sorry she is acting like this! But doesn't she realize her job really can't fire her for talking to you? I think its illegal- especially under personal circumstances.

mrspalomino148 Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:57 PM

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no u weren't .. honestly thats so crappy of her to do that.. and also is ur job even aloud to do that? Ive never heard of a company being able to fire people for speaking to someone they fired?

mariaobride Posted: Jun 27, 2008 01:59 PM

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I think she was looking for an excuse not to talk to you and now this is a perfect opportunity for her kudos to you for having the balls to do that what real friend would do something like that

kslmbuggie Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:00 PM

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your not out of line, but it is definitely not a nice email. it seems like you no longer want to be friends with her, (because of her actions) but if you did still want to be friends this email wont help at all.

PP424 Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:00 PM

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That's totally messed up. You got fired, that's when you'd expect your friends to be there for you. I can't believe she is actually avoiding you cause the company said they fire anyone who talks to you. Can they actually do that, cause that statement alone sounds messed up. She should have been there for you, so I don't think what you wrote is wrong in any way. You have bent over backwards for her and this is the thanks you get. I'm actually glad you spoke your mind.

melissatam2008 Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:04 PM

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first , a company cannot prohibit ppl from talking to someone thats was fired..thats crazy....
second, i think ur friend is juts using it as an excuse cuz if she really cares about u she wouldnt care what they say , and i doubt someone would find out if u call her to her personal number..plus arent other ppl from ur ex job talking to u anyways??? they havent get fire...good luck n she def. needed to know what u wrote her...

wifetobe Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:05 PM

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No way can the company do that. What people do on their personal time is their business. The company cannot dictate to you how to run your life after working hours.

Absolutely insane..

and no you weren't out of line.

JodyLC Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:09 PM

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NOPE don't want her as a friend... don't want her at my wedding... don't really care to hear from her... I was fired 4/16/08. The company doesn't even know that I have a lawyer and one hell of a suit on them.... So that doesn't even play into any reason for this... I have not heard a peep since the day i was fired. I'm done with her. I think i finally needed to do this and get closure... I considered her my BEST friend.

kslmbuggie Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:11 PM

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it sux losing friends at such a happy time in your life....hopefully she doesnt answer and you can just move on.

JodyLC Posted: Jun 27, 2008 02:18 PM

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Posted by kslmbuggie

it sux losing friends at such a happy time in your life....hopefully she doesnt answer and you can just move on.

Exactly what I am hoping for... I just needed to finally put into words how I was feeling to her. It has been a bad week there are things I just need to clear up so I can be more positive about the ones I have no control over.