ok this is a strange one and i really dont want to sound shallow i swear...ok so at e-party my dads cousin and his fam came..they rsvp for 6 2 parenst 1 kid 26 i kid 24 2 twins 18 ok fine..so now they gave us a gift which is great but in the card was 50 dollars..i was kinda shocked b/c 1 they have money and 2 it was for 6 adults that we paid to come..now i know this is so shallow of me but im thinkin if i invite them allto the wedding and this happens again thats a whole lotta money to lose my sister says 4 get them lol but i say i cant now..am i being ridiculous b/c i know its a gift and i should be happy but i just dont know..help
MirabellaNYC
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I don't think people think to give that much at engagement parties...At ours not everyone gave us a gift, and we were fine with it. I'm sure they will be more generous for the wedding, but if they're not.....that's ok. I'm sure it would be lovely to have received a larger sum, but at the end of the day, its family. There's nothing you can do or say.
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i know i hate myself for even asking ..my parents were just upset b/c they knew that we paid per person for the party(fh and i) and they just thought it was rude...whatever no big deal i was just curious..thanks for the help
MirabellaNYC
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I bet your dad will say something..I'm glad that they commented on it, so you don't have to. Thats what we're here for!!
I know it totally s*cks... Clearly you'll remember that when one of theirs gets engaged and has a party LOL
flairforfashion
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You know, a lot of people forget that ettiquette wise- it's not required to bring a gift.... So, maybe they figured they'd give something small and give more at the wedding.
Sweeteey51
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People arent obligated to give you anything at an engagement party actually. So anything they do you should appreciate. Dont meant to sound harsh but when you said if you invite them to the wedding thats a whole lot money to lose cuz they might put in on one gift or something like that. thats crazy invite them if you want them to come and if you dont then dont, but dont not invite them just because they will put in on 1 gift. so yeah i would say you sound alittle shallow. sorry.
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Posted by Sweeteey51
People arent obligated to give you anything at an engagement party actually. So anything they do you should appreciate. Dont meant to sound harsh but when you said if you invite them to the wedding thats a whole lot money to lose cuz they might put in on one gift or something like that. thats crazy invite them if you want them to come and if you dont then dont, but dont not invite them just because they will put in on 1 gift. so yeah i would say you sound alittle shallow. sorry.
i totally ge t what u r saying but i just think if u r going to give a gift then maybe it should compensate the 6 adults u were bringing..i mean it was open bar n food..i dont know i wish i never said anythinig but i appreciate all the feedback thanks girls
gina409
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u know what im being nuts...fo0rget it cause i really dont want to come off shallow and i am
