Ok to send invitations?

My invitations are ready to go (actually, they were supposed to go out on the 1st but were delayed due to the storm etc) but I have a problem...

I feel bad sending out invitations to family and friends that were affected by the storm. My future in laws and one of my friends lost the entire first floors of their homes, and I know my friend isn't able to move back into her house for at least 6 weeks, if not more.

We made our RSVP date 12/15/12 so we had a little more time due to the holidays etc. so I can't really hold them too much longer.

What do you think?

Ok to send invitations?

I definitely understand how you feel. I agree it is a sensitive time and its great that you are being reapectful. But at the same time... you have to let the RH know how many people are coming a few weeks before your wedding. I would send them out. People will understand.

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I would not send them out to people that were flooded. Things are so chaotic, the less to worry about the better. I would reach out to them and let them know you are holding the invitation until things get a little more settled.

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Posted by sandr325
I would reach out to them and let them know you are holding the invitation until things get a little more settled.

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That's what I would do as well!

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Posted by sandr325

I would not send them out to people that were flooded. Things are so chaotic, the less to worry about the better. I would reach out to them and let them know you are holding the invitation until things get a little more settled.

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Ok to send invitations?

I feel like if your RSVP date on the invitation is 12/15, you can mail then out on 11/13 or 11/14. I think a motnh before the RSVP is normal. Especially if you have sent out STDs, people will already have it on the calendar.

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Posted by sandr325

I would not send them out to people that were flooded. Things are so chaotic, the less to worry about the better. I would reach out to them and let them know you are holding the invitation until things get a little more settled.

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I like this idea! I know my future in laws are looking forward to theirs, but I think I'll hold a few of the others for a bit. I feel bad being so happy about something when others are so miserable.

Thanks, everyone!

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I am sending mine out the end of the month to everyone. Life has its bumps,trials, and tribulations but that doesnt stop it from moving on. The majority of my family lives in Long Beach and I think at this point they just want an escape and to have something happy in life to look forward too. I could just be too much of an optimist but, I think its the things like wedding invitations and celebrations that remind people of what is important in life and bring joy in dark situations. I know my friends and family will see it as a good thing and something to look forward to and and wouldnt be annoyed or stressed by my invitations at all.

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i like holding it. where would it even go- to be held at the post office? are they even picking up mail there? you should check in and then you can probably find out.

Ok to send invitations?

That's a good point, I know mail for some of those who live in lb and other highly effected areas are being held in Garden City. Without gas, people may not be picking up their mail. Just something to keep in mind if you do not get responses back...

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Posted by db276952

I am sending mine out the end of the month to everyone. Life has its bumps,trials, and tribulations but that doesnt stop it from moving on. The majority of my family lives in Long Beach and I think at this point they just want an escape and to have something happy in life to look forward too. I could just be too much of an optimist but, I think its the things like wedding invitations and celebrations that remind people of what is important in life and bring joy in dark situations. I know my friends and family will see it as a good thing and something to look forward to and and wouldnt be annoyed or stressed by my invitations at all.

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This is what FH keeps saying... that it will give them something happy to look forward to. He said we are sending them to friends and family that are looking forward to seeing us get married. I'm just so worried about offending or upsetting someone.

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Holding on to those you know were affected sounds like the best option

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Posted by Kristin31613

Holding on to those you know were affected sounds like the best option

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It is very considerate. However, I know a lot my family who have a lot of damage or lost their homes are staying with loved ones or at least talking to loved ones regularly. I think it would worry/bother them if they heard invites were out and they didn't get one. It wouldn't be so bad if you call them to let them know you're holding their invite, but at that point you're already calling them about it - might as well send it. I kind of feel like it's send them all or hold them all.

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Posted by LisaReyes

I definitely understand how you feel. I agree it is a sensitive time and its great that you are being reapectful. But at the same time... you have to let the RH know how many people are coming a few weeks before your wedding. I would send them out. People will understand.

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I agree...send them out...people will respond when they can...if you feel bad maybe wait until the end of this week?? But I feel like it will never be 100% a good time to send them after this storm.

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I agree, I am a week before you and im in the exact situation. some of my family cant even find their mail box. its sad but they still want to talk wedding. i know my shower is coming and that is hard also.........we can get through it

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Posted by Kristin31613

Holding on to those you know were affected sounds like the best option

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It is very considerate. However, I know a lot my family who have a lot of damage or lost their homes are staying with loved ones or at least talking to loved ones regularly. I think it would worry/bother them if they heard invites were out and they didn't get one. It wouldn't be so bad if you call them to let them know you're holding their invite, but at that point you're already calling them about it - might as well send it. I kind of feel like it's send them all or hold them all.

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I agree with this. If it is a close friend or a family member they will probably hear about the invitations going out or see it at someone else;s house, and then you have to have that awkward conversation with them. You could wait until the last possibly minute to send them all out, but still do it all at once. Maybe make a note of who was affected by the storm and give them a little more leeway if they don't RSVP right away.

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Posted by db276952

I am sending mine out the end of the month to everyone. Life has its bumps,trials, and tribulations but that doesnt stop it from moving on. The majority of my family lives in Long Beach and I think at this point they just want an escape and to have something happy in life to look forward too. I could just be too much of an optimist but, I think its the things like wedding invitations and celebrations that remind people of what is important in life and bring joy in dark situations. I know my friends and family will see it as a good thing and something to look forward to and and wouldnt be annoyed or stressed by my invitations at all.

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This is a perfect response! I was thinking the same thing