ok your all going to think I'm cheap...

but as the &

Are we supposed to pay for the limo for everyone & the flowers? A BM asked what we were looking at so she could allow $$ for it, & I thought those were part of our financial responsibility...Am I wrong

FH & I intend on paying for :

-Flowers
- trasportation
-(girls Hair & m/u)


My BM told me that the flowers that I like are way too much$$$ as though she was paying for them. She then told me that it has always been her responsibility in any other wedding to pay for it.

ok good, I was a little like when one of my bm's was getting so touchy w/ the cost of the flowers (for them that I love ).. She was liek don't you think that's a bit much...

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Posted by Vicky423

i don't mean to be mean but what are you getting them as gifts?

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What we intend on doing for the girls:

Totebags
w/ wedding newsletters,
Tank w/ their respective roles in the wedding

(to be given to them when we formally ask the BP)

- Most likley the bean (the tiny one) fromTiffany's for them to wear in our wedding

(To be given at the rehersal dinner)

What we intend on doing for the guys

- Wedding newsletter
- Collared shirts with our monogram embroided on them (small no larger than a Brooks Brothers logo)


(to be given at the diner when we ask them)

-Either tiffany Cufflinks
- a long beautiful tie

(both to be given at the rehersal dinner to be worn in the wedding)

wait i'm confused. DO bridesmaids normally pay for their own flowers or is that the bride's responsibility?

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Posted by Vicky423

i don't mean to be mean but what are you getting them as gifts? I think you said in another post tote, tank, and day of jewelry. Maybe if they think the flowers is a bit much you can take one thing away from that list and add flowers, after all they do get to keep them, maybe ask your MOH see what she says.

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I intend on paying for their flowers, as well as their hai & make up, I was confused b/c BM said that in another wedding she's in in August she has to pay, & she told me that it's always the persons responsibility (I've never paid for anything except hair & makeup in any wedding I was in)

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Posted by chrissyandvin

I wouldn't ask my BP to pay for those things. I would think they are our responsibility

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i don't think I asked my question clearly

A BM told me that they're supposed to pay, & I didn't thaink that was the case, Ive never paid to be in someone's wedding, but BM told me it's common

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsS

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Posted by Vicky423

i don't mean to be mean but what are you getting them as gifts? I think you said in another post tote, tank, and day of jewelry. Maybe if they think the flowers is a bit much you can take one thing away from that list and add flowers, after all they do get to keep them, maybe ask your MOH see what she says.

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I intend on paying for their flowers, as well as their hai & make up, I was confused b/c BM said that in another wedding she's in in August she has to pay, & she told me that it's always the persons responsibility (I've never paid for anything except hair & makeup in any wedding I was in)

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ahh ok! well the whole thing can be very costly, so its understanable to have these thoughts

how many bms do you have?

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsS

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Posted by Vicky423

i don't mean to be mean but what are you getting them as gifts? I think you said in another post tote, tank, and day of jewelry. Maybe if they think the flowers is a bit much you can take one thing away from that list and add flowers, after all they do get to keep them, maybe ask your MOH see what she says.

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I intend on paying for their flowers, as well as their hai & make up, I was confused b/c BM said that in another wedding she's in in August she has to pay, & she told me that it's always the persons responsibility (I've never paid for anything except hair & makeup in any wedding I was in)

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Yeah I understand, see I didn't know if you were having them pay for their flowers, cause I've seen brides ask their BMs to pay for flowers and other things. But know its all clear

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Posted by Vicky423

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsS

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Posted by Vicky423

i don't mean to be mean but what are you getting them as gifts? I think you said in another post tote, tank, and day of jewelry. Maybe if they think the flowers is a bit much you can take one thing away from that list and add flowers, after all they do get to keep them, maybe ask your MOH see what she says.

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I intend on paying for their flowers, as well as their hai & make up, I was confused b/c BM said that in another wedding she's in in August she has to pay, & she told me that it's always the persons responsibility (I've never paid for anything except hair & makeup in any wedding I was in)

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Yeah I understand, see I didn't know if you were having them pay for their flowers, cause I've seen brides ask their BMs to pay for flowers and other things. But know its all clear

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i've never heard of that before my conversation today... that's why I was wondering... esp. when she was more concerned about the cost then the style....

You as B&G are responsible for all that...the only things that I think they are responsible for is their dress, shoes, m/u, jewelry, hair.......and your party if they throw one......unless you choose to pay for something in that group.