Posted by KerriJohnS
Sarah -
I TOTALLY know what you mean with the black and white thing. That's sooo my grandmother. Despite the fact that she called me a stupid asss and John a stranger yesterday and yelled at me... and actually told me off and said nasty things... she EXPECTS me to gravel and kiss her asss and appologize to her because I was talking louder than she was... even though I didn't say anything rude or wrong and I definately didn't insult her. But apparantly I have no respect.
you are right though. I'm not going to give in to her anymore. For my eparty... she claimed I said something before hand that I never said.... (she often does this) and she gets mad at the things you supposidly said (which you know you didn't say).... and DEMANDS to know WHY you said that...a nd if you say I didn't say that... well then you are a LIAR!! And so I HAD to appologize to her for Lying when I NEVER lied about anything... so here I am lying in my appology because I had to make up reasons as to why I said something I neevr even said and then I had to come up with what I lied abotu and give her all the examples. She's a twisted human being... and no one should ever be subjected to her. It's just all insane!! It's even a lot to try to explain becuase it's sooo far out of wack for any normal person's rationale.
She is insisting that my mother get ready with her. Up until VERY recently.. she was INSITING that it ws MY JOB to find her a ride to the wedding and home from the wedding. I told her i did that... she can hop in the trolley with the wedding party if she wants. That wasn't good enough for her... so she demanded I find another way for her to get there and back. I told my mother that's SO NOT my job and she can get on the trolley or not and that's the end of it. So now my mom has to do it. I can't be bothered with that too. I have so many other REAL things to worry about. TAKE A CAB!! I don't care. It's not my JOB to find rides to and from for people - capeable adults no less.
Thank you SOOO MUCH for your kind words!! And for thinking I'm awesome!!! It made me smile. I can't believe I sat at my desk and cried for like 2 hours!!! And I get a random tear or two every now and then. but I'm not like I was at 9am! haha!! I'm going to feel stupid and embarrased about this tomorrow.
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Im so glad my post helped you.
I think you have the right attitude with this response.
You said to her 'take the trolly'. She said 'No'. TOO BAD. You dont like it, get your own ride.
You need to be very critical and look at what I am telling you and take it to heart: SHW does NOT care about how she is making you feel. 2 min later she will forget it and move onto the next nasty thing. YOU on the otherhand are crying at your desk and have to trun to (sorta) strangers for therapy :) (but we are good starangers.
Dont let her do it to you anymore.
Period.
She wants a ride, you solved the problem. Shge doesent like it, too bad.
She wants your mom to get ready with her? You DONT want it. You tell.
TOO BAD.
The one thing I WILL tell you is this, and do this no matter what kind of drama might ensue after.
Im sure you will have to endure her for pictures before hand. If you do smile and just say yes. Yes her. Do whatever it takes to shut her mouth. She says you are being mean and nasty? Too bad.
Second; if you dont have to take pix with her before the wedding you tell you BM's, your MOH, your bridal attendant she is NOT allowed near you till after the ceremony.
I **Guarantee*** that she will will be EVIL to you before the ceremony. Nasty, vindictive and EVIL. You make sure she is not allowed near you. Let her scream, cry, rant, threaten, whatever.
Instructions are: NO GRANDMA BEFORE CEREMONY. She is not allowed in the bridal suite or around you.
And if you have to deal with her, you walk away. She says your a liar? Walk away. She yells? Walk away.
Dont you ruin your day by that nasty B*.
YOU THINK OF YOURSELF FIRST EVEN IF IT HURTS HER. She has NO regard for you. This is her reward for her conduct toward you (you beigupset and having to cow to her)....your reaction? Dont give her one. Walk away. Let HER stew and you will forget whatever it is happened.
And yes, you are amazing. I cant wait for your day!!!!!
be well and know we are on your side!!!!
